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[DancingMind94]

Head please turn off, even just for one day!! I can't control it anymore and it's draining me so much

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Hello

I always say it would be handy if our brains had a switch , so we could turn them on and off but unfortunately they don't so we have to work with what we have and that is an overactive brain most of the time especially when anxiety gets in them

But see it for what it is which is your anxiety , don't fight it because that gives it more power and alerts your thoughts to thinking this is something you should fear and as awful as anxiety is the less we fear it and the more we accept it for what it is then the less power it has over us and the brain starts to become calmer

When the negatives come in try and distract yourself , reverse the thoughts for a positive one's , takes practice so be patient with yourself but eventually things will and do improve

Take Care x

[Beevee]

The more you try to control the thoughts, the harder it gets. If your mind races, let it race. Don't attempt to stop it from racing because you are fighting a battle you can't win.

Instead, learn to just observe all those thoughts. Watch them come, say "hello" to them in your mind's eye and let them have their space in your head ( they will take it anyway) but don't get involved by trying to push them away, or try to judge them, or try to dissect them or try to figure them all out. It is the "trying" that is the exhausting part which you have said yourself. Give up trying to do anything about the thoughts. They are just a by product of anxiety and an outlet for all the excessive energy being created. The thoughts don't mean anything , they just have a false importance attached to them because of the anxiety and wouldn't be there to grab your attention if it wasn't for the anxiety. This is why I say to people not to give the thoughts the respect they demand as this is what keeps those thoughts alive. Lose respect for them and the thoughts will lose their power and melt away gradually.

My mind used to race, especially if I woke during the night. At first, the thoughts scared the crap out of me. It felt as though every thought, no matter what it was about would arrive and strike fear in me before I even had time to decide otherwise. I would then spend all my time worrying about those thoughts ( I called them the What ifs?) especially those that meant something to me (relationship, job). All this did was to keep me stuck in the anxiety loop because I was fighting the thoughts instead of accepting them at face value and letting them go. I remember having anxious thoughts about things that usually didn't bother me so why were they bothering me in the middle of the night? I started to understand that the thoughts were only there because of my anxiety which made it easier to let them go. You see, it is the fighting that keeps anxiety alive or doing anything to rid yourself of the symptoms.

To recover from anxiety, learn to call its bluff and let yourself fall into any state and do absolutely nothing about it. Change your reaction to all those thoughts so instead of thinking "What if???" think "So what!" and move on. They are only thoughts. Learn to be comfortable about feeling uncomfortable. The thoughts are harmless, they aren't who you really are. They may feel like it but that is the trick they play and easy to fall for it and get caught up in the trap by going over it all in your mind. Your mind then gets tired, just like an overworked muscle, and before long, you cannot think around the problem, only of the problem itself. Your mind has lost its elasticity but don't worry (I know, easier said than done in your current state), your mind will sort itself out when you learn to give up trying to control those thoughts and let go of them. You don't have to do anything and I mean that quite literally. The more you do to try and control anxiety, the more it sticks around. The less you try to control it, the better you start to feel. Recovery is gradual and those thoughts will probably stick around even when you are fully accepting but it does get easier, I promise. Don't worry too much if you find it difficult to conjure up positive thoughts. I found that those positive thoughts crept back in themselves once my attitude of acceptance had been embedded. Forcing myself to think positive was just as tiring and just another technique to try and make myself feel different so I gave up trying.

Acceptance of everything anxiety throws at you will lead to recovery. Bit by bit, the old you will begin to surface from beneath the symptoms of anxiety and self confidence will return. Positive thoughts will come hand in hand with that earned confidence.

Just remember that You won't get better until you stop trying to get better. Anything you do to try and make you think and feel differently will only prolong suffering. Don't search or strive for recovery. Recovery will find you.

Hope this helps.