Lost over what happened to me...

[Rachms11]

Hi all

Ive suffered with anxiety and depression for a long time now. im 24. this is more a relationship problem, my boyfriend of nearly 8 months just out of the blue two days ago broke up with me saying he was lost and needed a break. yet 2 days before he said he loved me and seemed so happy and normal. he did get some bad news about his dad having a brain tumor again after 11 years. but he said to me a week ago when he told me about it that it wouldnt affect us and have nothing to do with us. then went on just the day before that when were married in two years time etc.. he found out two days before i was told about his dad. ive looked things up on his actions and personality and most things fit in with being a narcissist. Is it a good thing he ended it now? am i better off??

im so lost. i believed every word he said to me in the 8 months and he was always so kind to me please help me

[Sarahb2904]

Sounds like he just needs a bit of space. When I'm introduced into a stressful situation I tend to shut down, withdraw from friends etc, just so I can concentrate on one thing at a time.

Allow him the space he needs, and just be there in the background for him. It was obviously an awful shock for him to find out about his dad being unwell again x

[Rachms11 in reply to Sarahb2904]

thank you x but i asked him if he would still have done that if his dad wasnt sick and he said yes. thats why im so lost and hurt. it was so random

[Rachms11 in reply to Rachms11]

theres been issues long before his dad got the news and i ignored it cuz i love him

[Edatis]

Hi! Do not elevate your anxiety trying to figure this out. Give him some time and see if he will come around. He probably is preparing himself for his father"s illness. Even though he said it would not affect the relationship it obviously has so don't worry yourself as you will be sick and then have a compounded issue. It's not selfish for us Anxiety sufferers to think about ourselves sometimes. We welcome a relief from our anxiety whenever possible but we don't want to create it. Please think of yourself for a minute. Good Day