No one cares.

[Knightmares]

I'm sure the answer is Yes, but does anyone feel like no one cares about what you're going through? I know it's extremely difficult for friends and family to understand, but to do nothing at all seems a bit strange.

I've been suffering with anxiety and depression and agoraphobia, since January and am too scared to take meds. I don't have a lot of drive to do anything, but honestly no one is asking me to. My family doesn't call or take me out for coffee or anything to try and help ( I have 4 siblings in the same city, one lives 3 minutes away). My friends don't invite me out anymore or drop by, most of them are 5 minutes walking distance away. My best friend however keeps asking me to baby sit her daughter so she can go out with our other friends, instead of inviting me, pretty poor.I know you can't expect certain things from people but I honestly feel like no one gives 2 shits.

I have 2 kids and spend most my time just sitting at home with all this stress, my husband doesn't try to drag me out either. I just know I need a push or pull as when you're depressed you don't have much motivation and need lots of support. Anyone else experiencing this?

I hope not, it's awful but just wondering if there is a reason for it. Or something I'm doing? Just about ready to turn my phone off delete my Facebook and ignore my family so the disappointment goes away. If I was on the other end I would be doing everything I could for them.

Annie

[KiwiMonkey]

I find some people seem to understand and be very sympathetic and others seem to not even try to understand. I'm at uni and find that a lot of the staff such as lecturers and support staff are really good and understanding but there have been people who seem to feel that I'm using it as an excuse when I'm really not. I had this in a group assignment last year when my anxiety meant I kept on panicking when I tried to do the work so was sub-standard, and when I told them they looked at me like they didn't believe a word I was saying, they didn't seem to get that anxiety can stop you from doing things you need to do. I know its hard but have you tried to tell someone that you feel it would be better if it dealt with it a certain way. They may feel that what they're doing is best for you anxiety and depression when really it's making things worse. It's hard to understand what it's like when you haven't been through it and if you don't say I would like you to invite me out once in a while they will not know that what they're doing isn't what you want. I know its easier said than done but it may be helpful if you can mention it to people.

[maggie91]

To be fair, it's really hard for people that don't experience anxiety or depression to know what we are going through. Our thoughts are negative so we can imagine that no one wants to spend time with us. If you want to be with friends and family, you can call them and invite them out for coffee or have family over for dinner. When you are in their company, you can't just think about yourself. You need to be a friend if you want friends. I know you feel bad but concentrate on having a good time and think of others and not focus so much on yourself. Keeping active and thinking of others will help you with your depression and your friends and family will want to spend time with you. It's hard for them if you are just talking about how bad you feel. They probably feel uncomfortable since there is nothing they can do to make you feel better. Unfortunately, it is up to only you to put in the hard work to improve. No one can do it for you. The only people that can help are counselors that will give you advise on how to change your negative thoughts and then it's up to you to work on it. You can also ask your doctor for meds. These could calm you so that you can work on improving. This may sound harsh but I have gone through this and when I changed, I found that it wasn't them but me. It takes time but you can improve and yes it's not easy. You will have some good and bad days but don't give in to your negative thoughts.

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Hi

Sorry to hear of distress. One of the things about anxiety is that it is not really understood, especially by those who have never experienced it as a daily occurrence. It might be that some people see it as a mental illness, and this causes them to feel uncomfortable because they dont know how to react or what to say. My advice to you would be to talk to people and tell them how you feel. I mean talking about how you feel marginalised or left out of things. You can assure people that you are not suffering some kind of madness and that it would help you if you could be treated in the same way as before your anxiety started as this will also help you lower stress levels. The worst thing is feeling alone when we suffer from anxiety. I hope that this might help in some small way.

[Gloomynblue]

Hi I feel like I have written this post myself. I know I need help but am very reluctant to start Ned's but I think I have exhausted all other avenues. I'm constantly at my GPS she doesn't know what else to do for me all my bloods and other tests are clear so I guess I'll have to start taking some kind if antidepressants or I don't think I can cope any more. I'm tired of feeling like this and long to be me again hugs to you I hope you feel better soon x