mom is so moody

[KatieRichie94]

My mom is constantly denying any health issues I have. She says its all in my head and I need to stop being a hypochondriac. I have a history of chronic bronchitis and get a lot of respiratory problems. She is so stressful. How can I deal with this?

[Aazz]

Sometimes I think we also need to understand our loved ones, they get frustrated because whatever they say or do does t help us and obviously they want us to be ok they don't know what to do with us anymore. It is stressful on them as well to see us in this state. You have had many tests and I think your mum knows you are healthy we are the ones who can't except all this is due to mental illness.

I know you need your mom but is there someone else you can talk to? Maybe give her a little break. Or why don't you both swap letters instead of verbal communication that way she has sometime to think about what your letter says rather then reacting strait away to your words.

It will get better

[BettyA]

Hi there!

What Aazz said is really spot on....and she said it very well. Sometimes when we worry about someone we love very much we unconsciously act in a way that might APPEAR that we don't love them...but the opposite is true.... If your Mom didn't love you she would have NO emotions whatsoever towards you...

I am sure she is frustrated, too, because your tests are all ok and she wants YOU to be OK... You might be tempted to tell me right now: "You just don't understand what I am talking about"...but Kathie, I do.

You see, my DAUGHTER does the same to ME... how's that for a reversal of our roles??

And yes, sometimes it HURTS and is frustrating when she gets cranky with me... so you see, I DO understand... We just cannot expect people to act and say exactly what we want them to...even though we think we are not asking for much...

Just give her extra hugs now and then and tell her you love her... she probably needs this from you...and it would do you BOTH good. You take good care now! <3

BettyA

[Lizbett]

Hey. I totally agree with Aazz. Why do you think your mum feels this way? Any ideas, because if not, it would probably be wise to try and get to the root of her thinking and you can do this by simply asking her outright.

Also, my first thought was this, although I could well be wrong since I don't personally know your mum: some mothers are unable to mentally deal with their sick children for a number of reasons. One reason could be the feeling of being 'useless' and not knowing how exactly to help so they bury their heads in the proverbial sand as a mental/emotional safety measure. Also, what type of assistance did your mum get from her parents when she was sick as a child? As I said, if you can get to the root of why she thinks the way she does, at least you'll have some type of understanding.

And also as per Aazz's response: is there anyone else in your family that you can speak with? If not family, then how about family friends?

Best wishes!