when will it end

[Cinder87]

I feel like I have been battling an uphill battle everyday since my separation. Just when things begin to look like they are looking up, everything comes crumbling down. I have tried every approach I have learned over the years to control my depression and anxiety. But the last two weeks, I keep having attacks to the point that I had lost time. Wake up to all my muscles hurting because my body went completely rigid. Does anyone else have that issue?

[Excludite]

Persistent panic attacks for two weeks. I also lost time and every inch of my body aches. I can’t even sleep.

[Cinder87 in reply to Excludite]

I get that. I work from home so I’m usually stuck to my desk the whole time due to working a call center type job. So when I have those issues, it’s hard to even work when I’m in so much pain.

[Girlllllll123pizza]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm not married so I don't know how u feel. U can tell me why u got a divorce if u like

[Cinder87 in reply to Girlllllll123pizza]

I was with him for 12 years. He got really deep into playing Xbox all the time. He would come home and basically lock himself in the bedroom. He wouldn’t spend time with me or the kids. He was emotionally unavailable. 12 years of trying to work on this and asked many times for marriage counseling. The last time I asked him for it, he stated that it was for couples that don’t know how to communicate. And that we do that great already. The whole marriage I felt like I was a single mama. Took care of everything. Went through college, took care of the kids, paid bills. The usual. But I would even have to take care of his car and everything that he wouldn’t do. It got too much. I could tell it took a toll on the kids and me. So I finally got the courage to tell him I couldn’t stay anymore. That was a year and a half ago.

[Girlllllll123pizza in reply to Cinder87]

I'm so sorry. I think u made the right decision. Hope things get better for u and your kids

[Cinder87]

Do you have any ideas on how to relief that pain. I have tried hot showers, ibuprofen, heating pads. Everything

[Cinder87]

I will have to try that. I have always been hard on myself. I’m a stubborn Capricorn. I have a hard time when I’m with my kids. I feel like I have let them down. My two ex husbands don’t really help with anything for their kids so it falls all on me to provide everything for them. With this economy, it’s hard doing this single mama life. Food alone is a stressor.

[Agora1]

Hi Cinder87, Welcome to this caring community of friends.

I am so sorry in what you are going through both mentally and

physically. There is a disorder that ties into stress related issues.

It is called Fibromyalgia. (I have it myself) When Anxiety takes hold

for a long time, it becomes chronic in where our muscles never get to

relax. Eventually, they get painful as they can form trigger points in

certain areas of the body. There is no blood test that can prove if you

have this however a Rheumatologist can address the pain by checking

where these trigger points are located. Pain medication doesn't usually

help. Weather changes, overdoing physical work as well as sitting too much

can allow the muscles to get tight. It's best to find out from your doctor

what is causing the pain. We can only go by our own experiences. 'I hope

you get some answers soon. We're here to support you. xx

[Cinder87 in reply to Agora1]

That does make sense. I know someone in our family has it. Mine is mainly in my shoulders and my lower back. I will have to ask if my dr will refer me to one to see. Thank you.

[Agora1 in reply to Cinder87]

Hi Cinder, the trigger points are generally in the shoulders and lower back as well

as the neck and lower base of the head. Sometimes trigger points can appear

in between the front rib cage which is then called Costachondritis.

Repetitive motion as well as staying in one position can cause the pain as well.

Let us know when you get to see a Rheumatologist and what their answer is

to your pain. I care xx

[Cinder87 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you.

[Pitalife]

My body hurts when I'm very down and feeling lonely plus I getsick to my stomach in the mornings..I hope you feel better..

[Teaching]

Yes, I do have the same issue. It's better now but very painful when it starts.