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I gave up on doctors helping me with my anxiety and depression.

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Im looking for a friend to talk with about anxiety and depression.

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LadyZen

Did you try therapists too?

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Easilycrushed in reply to LadyZen

I havent tried a therapists. Its hard to talk to a person about my emotional issues.

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LadyZen in reply to Easilycrushed

Welcome by the way. Doctors are good for medication. Therapists are good for getting to the root of the problem. Friends, family, and people are good for a support network. I hope you find what you need on here.

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Easilycrushed

Whats is a psychiatrist?

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Globallove1 in reply to Easilycrushed

A psychiatrist is a licensed medical doctor that prescribes medication to treat mental disorders. Psychiatrists are able to diagnose illness, manage treatment and can use different therapies for mental disorders.

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gajh

This is a great place to meet friends. Friends who understand depression and anxiety.

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Easilycrushed in reply to gajh

Thank you

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Globallove1

I'm sorry that you feel that you haven't been able to find the help you need. I was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder a few months ago. What's really been helpful for me is introspection, meditation, breathing exercises and cognitive behavioral therapy. Talking with a therapist was good for releasing my emotions and understanding some triggers that make me anxious. I'm also an introvert and talking about personal problems isn't easy but it's necessary to healing and letting go. Try Journaling too. I'm here to chat if you want.

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Pablo005

hi Iam here if you need someone to talk to :)

So did I, I'm on 8 different types of the meds. Tried CBT on 3 occasions seen at least a dozen psychiatrists. There is no cure. Excercise helps. Here if you need to ask anything elseRegards Chris

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secrets22

I gave up on doctors and phycologists after several years after not getting anywhere, for all they do is listen and don't give any positive advice, and i was left in a mire unable to get out, and then of course all the pills, and all they do is mess with your head. I think for me its been finding myself and not beating myself up when things don't work out, it's a long process in finding yourself, and now although not free from depression, it has lessened a lot, and i accept i will have bad days and good days and i work around it. It will never be perfect but as long as i keep positivity on board I will pull through, and so can you.

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Chris72FibroBipolar in reply to secrets22

It's very different with every individual

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secrets22 in reply to Chris72FibroBipolar

i didn't say it wasn't

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Chris72FibroBipolar in reply to secrets22

I know please accept my apologies 🙏

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secrets22 in reply to Chris72FibroBipolar

No problem....keep well and feel free to speak out.

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Chris72FibroBipolar in reply to secrets22

Will do Secrets, bless you, I've followed you as well

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bethelbee

If medications haven't helped, consider alternative treatment such as TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation). It's a noninvasive treatment that uses magnetic pulses targeting an area of the brain to reduce/eliminate depression.

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Chris72FibroBipolar in reply to bethelbee

I've tried that and CBT

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bethelbee in reply to Chris72FibroBipolar

Sorry to hear it didn't help. Did you complete the full course? I had 3 rounds. The results of the first two each lasted about 6 months and the 3rd is still working after 2 years. Hope you are able to find something that helps ......

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Chris72FibroBipolar in reply to bethelbee

Thanks Beth

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BedBug

Sorry. Know that you are not alone. I am here for you to talk to. I know from experience it really helps me to talk.

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Chris72FibroBipolar in reply to BedBug

It certainly does especially when we can all suggest different meds/methods that we have all tried. Chris 👍

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loveletters

Sometimes therapists aren't helpful unless you are willing to change your whole life around, as was my case. I've been on meds for over thirty years and still get depressed at times, with a few hospitalizations.

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Spooky99

great place to be!!! All of my Drs. Have been useless!!! Just up the dose, change meds. .. agree with you. Your better off here

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basten in reply to Spooky99

im same Polly drugged 30 years..upped doses added more weight gain stop.working .think.im.fine then depression hits again.. i knoe a lot is from dear mum who wasnt one fir cuddles kisses and mentally and absusive physicallly hubby but always felt alone and teased by girls..preferred boys..anyway im noe on the worst ever drug which i never knee about a benzo for sleep ..6 years now came off other meds z and mirtaz. became vert s.i early this year..given escal . have gastritis eosphagitis no pain eating things i coukdnt do before..tgen after non for years stupidly smoked again 3 4 day on off..was ok at first but its affected the benzo .2 anxiety attacks pacing..and since smoked severely constipated needing stacks laxatives to go then just diarrheo. gp knows but doesnt say anything ..gastro no good..im gettung lots symptoms now people get tapering and have heart murmur and mild aortic stenosis so shoukdnt hsve smoked . stop 7 weeks ago ..escalopram doesnt stop pain now and stikk wake excess saliiva frothy spit constant swallowing and tinnitus. so basicall cigs thrown me into tolerance . i take for sleep. a lot tapering are constipated but only need take one laxative etc..jm hsving to take 8 movicol plus senna sometimes 3 days until huge pile sloppy diarrheo..i started eating a lot of biscuits tarts when given up now prediabetic.. also bkood test showed something raised in heart so doc written to cardio see if he advices another echo as he doesnt just know I had been smoking.. I tries taper benzos 3 times but pain eating anything unbearably awful and wake in fear legs kicking arms everywhere agrophobia. so each time went back up..now my good cholerestol is good bad slightly raised so given statins to try ..i already have gastritis and eoohagitis..the stains leaflet says can raise blood sugar and may cause constipation !! a lot tapering off benzoes gdt constipated but seem.ok with just one laxative... it says follow a low cholesterol diet. i jnow i should taper off but the inhumane suffering people go through momths even 2 years when off scares me . i dont eat bread or eggs as bind me up..most fruit i cant tolerate . try eat veg and chicken but got deprresses again ..so buy chicken ready meals.. i dont want go out sse anyone watch tv read wash no friends but 2 caring grown children who have spoilt me so im blessed but dont see so much . live alone with 2 old cats one slight dementia doesnt stop meowing and poor boy i shout at him and i know i scare him but we cuddle every night ..dishes left days in sink. pjas all day dont wash much. tell kids everything but dont want hear anymore ..plus been referred to see psych om Monday..told my daughter waste of time as hs won't believe smoking had affected benzoes , willl just say come off them which i shoukd, or try adding more meds which cause constipation and weight gain im sure he'll be peed off.. seen so many all these years and labelled with so many things all from meds..hospital and were going to ct zop amitryp ("no pain eating ),and 1mg clonaz!!!i said no but the cut my 1clon to 0.5 and 1 is equiv to 20 diaz..4 weeks of 3 a days panic attacks nsver had in life..and tapering benzoes affecfs every part of body plus no sleep ., if i hadnt smoked was ok so i regret that but all doctor can say is im soo sorry this has happened re benzoes and i never knew what were till 2020 when joined fb group..emailed gastro loads times told truth but said i shouldnt be having to take such high amounts of laxatives .feel bowels lost peristalsis.. of course he never replies..i do have slow bowel transit due to meds . i still get some sleep but hate waking up and if go shops out of breath still and cant wait get back home . I'm starting to lose patience over slightest thing . im 74

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Weatherwoman in reply to basten

Oh, so sorry to hear of All the troubles with those benzos. & other health issues. I am in my Late 70's & I, too, have Physical & Mental Health issues which leaves me scared as I don't have any children, and my Sig. Other passed away in Nov. 2022 & am now Alone & health issues & Scared. Glad that you have grown children to help you! I do have friends which have their own life, and I don't want to be a burden on anyone. Yes, doctors aren't that much of a help --they just dish out Medications. They don't seem to have the time to sit & talk about any of our physical & certainly not our mental, or emotional health issues. I do have an OCD Group that meets once a week, and that is helpful. I suggest finding Anxiety/Depression groups that meet in person, or online. HU is a good place to be heard, and to hear others's with similar issues.

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basten in reply to Weatherwoman

been pollydrugged years ,hence slow bowel transit laxatives..i dont have a car .so sorry re hubby .being alone not nice..i hate it even though 2 grown kids whi habe taken me out in the past places so lucky .but wehen home again im still alone and dont see them as much now..i try not to talk about my issues but cant help it and told to stop it.. dont the cbt bit yewrs ago. didnt help me. was a binge drinking alcholic stopped 23 yeara ago would rather stop that again than try again taper off benzoes..

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Chris72FibroBipolar in reply to basten

I'm in the same situation as you my friend. I'm 51 drugged for 31 years. Take 8 meds ATM. On and off stuff. Nightmare

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BlueAgave

It's very frustrating to say the least. I'm also here to talk if you need to ❤️

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Lve2dance

We are always here for you you to listen with the biggest virtual hug

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barlock

It is a struggle every day. All day. Pills suck. psychiatrists want more and more pills to try on you. Some are not so nice on the thoughts. I am in the process of changing docs cause she didn't seem to listen to me. I am still considering in treatment. I am 78 years old, IAll I want is to be comfortable even if it means I am a little high. LOL

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Weatherwoman in reply to barlock

Hi --Agree that most psychiatrists just hand out meds. & don't do therapy! Psychologists, at least, you can talk to, but to find the right therapist for you! Anxiety/depression groups are helpful as you can get good feedback, and it's a give & take thing like HU! I am 79, and find it more difficult due to losses in my life (my Sig. Other passing in Nov. 2022), and I have no children & feel quite alone, at times. Am moving next week back to another State where I do have friends, but they have their own lives, and I don't want to be a burden on anyone as I had written above to another post. Good Vibes sent your way. Healing prayers for All of us.

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basten in reply to Weatherwoman

im uk. if hadnt smoked again would gave been ok . as said affected benzoes 2 big anxiety attacks pacing . cant drive feet wont keep still after taking them fir sleep very severe constipation tajes loads laxatjves to get diarrhea wake everyy day loads frothy spit nise part blocked..cant keep taking stacjs laxatives takes 3 days for anything . work. wake likr tight rope all around chest. so awful to be alone if no children..mine dont want hear it anymore and dont see much anymore..dont wash dress no friends.. if hadn't smoked after nin for years this wouldn't havd happened. benzoes shkuld never i jnoe noe be given more than 2 wedkd. 6 years odd for me. felt great till they caused dspression..lexepto helped. then all bad whdn smoked and still take lex but know wint changr.tinnitus too. i hsve no choice soon but try faper off soon but just ine cut pain eating gorrific olus cortisol surges wake suddenly in terror legs arns everywhere pain eyes blurry already and ni sleep days.told doctor it will kill me and i know ill will.,choice id mine ?been Polly drugged years but these are inhumane hell to ger iff.guven fir insomnia and then if eat feel s like fiid in stomach agesa became badly constipated a week aftrr smiking. gastro gp not interested .hate waking uo.

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ladybyrd

You really have to take your mental health in your on hands. Doctors, therapist, meds. and therapies can only take you so far. Let the doctors do what they do, you do what you can do and let God do the rest. Simple but true. Find the things that work for you, it can look different for each of us. There is no right or wrong, finding your way through can be by trial and error sometimes, but worth the effort. Let me encourage you not to give up, never give up, push through. I've been through all the above and plus some, I'm 61 now, diagnosed in my early 20's with MDD and anxiety. I'm still here, the difference is, if I had realized it early on, I wouldn't of fought it as much. Self-care is the key.

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Cynophile

I'm so sorry you're struggling; I've been/am there, myself. Unfortunately, not all of us have family to alleviate our pain in life. How about you? Are you close to your family?

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basten

true re phychs

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Pitrovski

Hi, talk to me/us.

Everyone has a different story and their opinions based on their experiences.

I suggest to read them all but don't get overwhelmed or confused. Pick out the gems that speak to YOU.

P

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debrajo1

I know what you mean but keep trying. My antidepressant finally wore off and I had to change antidepressant medications. After a few trial and errors, my psychiatrist finally found a combination that works for me. I have been off and on antidepressants for 30 years and each time I stopped taking my antidepressants my depression eventually came back, worse than ever. I will never go off my antidepressants again.

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debrajo1

In addition, I did not have any problems in my life to cause my depression so I did not go to a psychologist to discuss any problems. I think my depression is hereditary as all 5 of my first cousins have had it too.

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brendonkellyrox

hey Im new here and i feel ya

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