Fear and Guilt

[_Epiphany_]

Hello I have social anxiety, The only thing that really calms myself is watching television but lately I just feel so ashamed being home all the time and not going put and having fun with people but when I do go out all I feel is fear and then regretted I went out in the first place, I'm terrified to tell the ones I care about my illness because I feel like they'll say I'm overreacting or that I'm just shy and it's all in my head. I use to be kinda shy as a kid but it never felt how I feel now, I didn't fear people like I do now and start feeling nausea and upset when I remember a time I embarrassed myself. I just wish they understand and how to tell them.

[onthetrail]

I feel for you. I'm highly introverted and have experienced social anxiety at times in my life. It gets worse when I indulge in long spans of being by myself. (I seem perfectly happy that way, but I know it's not always good for me.) Getting myself to interact with others, even in very small ways, is healthier.

When you feel nervous, you can try taking the focus off yourself and putting it on others: How is their day going? What are their joys/problems? Can you help?

Also, the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain is very inspiring for introverts and shy people.

[Mellowme73]

Dear Epiphany, it's Summer and what a bummer it is catching myself watching mindless TV and documentaries while the rest of the world is enjoying their weekends. I make plans then excuses to cancel. I have had strongest bouts with anxiety in the a.m. I am having anxiety just to reply to your post but felt the need to say that you and I are not alone in this. I'm glad have to go to work 5 days/wk and serve 300+ customers as a checker and have to " buck up" and answer "Fine" as we exchange inquiries on how things are going...when I know it's been awhile since I've been near "fine" . My accuracy on codes are great and my till balances at the end of the shift. For that bit of strength, I'm thankful. You and I need to get away from the tube which can also trigger negative thoughts. I am with you on this.

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Hi, I have S.A. too. It's sucks doesn't it. I used to think it was just shyness but it felt more severe. I like tv as well as it helps me escape reality and well it's fun. The thing about social anxiety is that with avoidance it tends to worsen. Consider therapy specifically CBT. Do not feel ashamed or embarrassed because you are not the only one experiencing this. I encourage you to share your feelings with your family if you feel they will be supportive.