Only 7 am and rough day

[abbeyainscal]

Lot’s of things but here I am crying. Maybe because I’m reading the Burns book Feeling Good and it’s dredging up a lot but also because I have a son who is just defiant and doing things I never expected to deal with. Threatens me by calling me psycho and crazy whenever we as parents try to impose any discipline. I worry about the choices he makes and his grades a terrible as he refuses to do his work. It’s a lot but I end up blaming myself as a bad parent. I know Burns book states no one can make me feel a way and it’s my internalizing the feelings and performing one of the 10 common thought patterns. By my goodness it’s hard. My son calls me stupid psycho etc to where I’m questioning if I am not like other parents. I impose consequences for his bad behavior. He needs help to and we are seeking it. And I’m sad sad for the adorable sweet boy he was. Angry at the mean 15 year old he currently is.

[Agoraphobia39]

Abbey,

You are not a bad parent. Your son is old enough to know right from wrong and is making bad choices. As a parent all we can do is our best and hope they do make good choices. A lot of us even as adults have made some pretty bad choices, but of course calling our parents names was probably not one of them. Teens these days can be pretty brutal. I have 3 boys myself. One turns 20 this week, 16 and 14yrs old. My boyfriend is my youngest sons dad but wasnt around until the last 4 years. Life has been rough and he doesnt help with any punishments.

You aren't crazy, but he knows he can push your buttons by saying it. Private message me anytime, I know what you are going thru and you will get over this teen rudeness soon, hang in there.

[abbeyainscal in reply to Agoraphobia39]

Thank you so much sorry I didn’t see this till now.

[abbeyainscal in reply to Agoraphobia39]

How are things with your sons if you’re still here?