Keeping up

[Suzhou]

I feel like everyone is moving on from life, getting happier or working on something important. And I’m just in one spot stuck. I can’t decide what I want to do. I don’t like anything anymore. Everyone knows what they want in life and I’m still struggling to get out of bed. I listen to everyone’s problems and I want to tell people that’s I’m constantly sad and I’ve felt this way for years but I have a hard time opening up. That’s why I do more things online like this website. I don’t know I just wanted to rant. I just feel alone. I feel like I can make everyone else feel better while I’m just slowly dying inside.

[socratesanne]

Try to pick three things that might make you want to get out of bed, but think of it before you go to sleep, programming you subconscious to work it out as you sleep. I find this helps me maybe 50 percent of the time. It takes time to change our programming.

The three things have to be very enticing, if just that great cup of coffee or a new tea you have wanted to try, or a special walk or run around that lake or in a forest or just to check out that new home being built down the street. I think this is why coffee shops always have smiling folks sitting around.

I tell people I work with about special exercises that help the body and that seems to help them, especially the men, for some reason.

Just to get out side can produce miracles. Pick one for you. We are all unique and find that inner child within you, the one that was happy, if even for a minute. Mine was swimming, riding a bike or boating. I so wish I could do that now.

Also find writing helps me immensely to process my feelings and set lists for myself even if I only do one of the things on it. Never get upset at not doing it all, just praise self for starting the momentum. Momentum is what physics can teach us about life. Nowadays there are connections on line for walking groups or book clubs...

[hypercat54]

Hi it seems to me that you are looking after everyone else's needs whilst ignoring your own. Are you a people pleaser? It's time now to start looking after yourself and put your needs first for a change.

Try opening up a bit to others whom you think could be supportive. You haven't got to go into great detail so just start off by saying you feel a bit down and could do with some support. The trouble with bottling everything up is that it becomes a huge weight on your shoulders and the temptation when someone shows an interest is for the whole story to come tumbling out. This would be too much for most people and could scare them off. Also by starting in a very understated way you can test the waters to see if they get it or not. Then you can withdraw gracefully and question why others aren't there for you when you are for them?

You may be depressed so could a visit to your doctor help? x