Talking about it

[Chris37L]

Hi

I'm new here. I recently opened up to my significant other about the fact I've been feeling up and down a lot over the past year or so. It's been really tough finding the right words and there were questions that came out of it that I simply didn't expect or know the answers to. Like why had it taken so long to open up etc. Part of me feels relieved to have opened up, part of me thinks it's made it harder and now I'm worried that she thinks less of me. She most likely doesn't but it doesn't stop the thoughts entering my mind. My partner has been suffering with a terrible condition with the past several years being the worst, I've not wanted to burden her with my issues as well.. I think that is why I've not opened up sooner. But now that I have I feel like I've put extra pressure on her. Bit of a vicious circle.

How do people cope with this sort of situation? My partner and I love each other very much. I don't want this to affect anything between us. I want to be able to move on past the ups and downs and be as possitive as possible to help my partner through her condition.

Thanks for reading.

[Amcs0609]

It can be really difficult when you feel like you are burdening your partner. I have also been feeling like that lately. Message me anytime you want to chat about it.

[fauxartist]

My feeling is that you have taken the first step to getting yourself better. We are much more capable of helping others when we are in a good place, and by you now knowing you could probably go to therapy and work on your stuff, that just makes you a better partner when your taking care of yourself. There is no guilt there when you love each other, your partner will feel better knowing your getting help too. This is a win win.