Missing my wife

[9753]

My wife walked out on me last night. And I am in so much pain. Help me please.

[coop11]

9753- I am sorry your wife left. But there is still one who loves you unconditionally. Lean into God in your times of struggle. He will bring you rest and peace. I am praying for you.

[Agora1]

Hi 9753, I am so sorry. I can only imagine how much you are hurting right now. So many emotions must be running through your mind. If there is something we can do to help comfort you at this time please let the forum know. Sometimes letting out your hurt can help whereas others may want time to digest this by themselves. In either way, know that the forum has caring men and women of all ages who might have experienced the same hurt and pain you are now going through. Stay strong, I am sure you will be hearing from others shortly. My thoughts are with you.

You are never alone

[HearYou]

Hello. NOT a good day for you. Want to tell a little about what happened. Next best thing to talking and having someone put their arms around your shoulders and assure you, is writing about it. We're here. All night, all day. There is always someone in the world reading and replying. Agora1 is right. There are men and women on this forum from around the world to listen or just to encourage you, whichever is better for you. You definitely are not alone, or by yourself. We're here.

[Pacobusta1970]

What’s up bro? How are you feeling about your wife not being with you

Do you want to talk about it?

[Windy101]

Such great people on this forum! Right now you need support and there is plenty of it here. I'm glad that you're reaching out to the group so you can benefit from everyone's kindness. The end of a marriage, even if we sometimes want it, can be incredibly lonely and painful. But you are not alone.

When my marriage ended, even though I was unhappy in it, I cried for two weeks. I cried because I thought my husband was in love with me, and I learned he wasn't. I cried because he had been cheating on me. I cried because I lost our long history, and the way I trusted and respected him.

The minute I opened my eyes in the morning I started crying (usually after a horrible dream about my husband) and I only stopped crying if I had to go to work or run an errand. I cried in the car and until I closed my eyes at night. I've never cried so hard or so much, not even when my dad died, who is a much deeper loss. I guess that's because my dad loved me and it was just his time to go. I miss my dad so much more. I wish now that the time I'd spent crying about my husband, I'd spent with my dad, but that's where I was at emotionally. Marriage bonds are so hurtful to break.

You can survive this. Find a divorce support group, counseling, whatever help is available. Don't isolate. This is a time to just have people around and get through the shock of it finally happening. Do today. Just today. When the shock wears off, you'll know it and can start planning a future that's a better life than what you had.

[Agora1 in reply to Windy101]

Windy101, honestly spoken from someone who has experienced the pain. Thank you for sharing by giving hope and insight to 9753. Nothing like hearing it from someone who truly understands. Wishing you that bright future that you so deserve xx

[Sprinkle1]

Hello I have read thru the answers, and they are great. I agree find yourself a support group, talk to therapist. I have been thru the pain, I have had 3 marriages. And yes it Hurts, feel your pain do not stuff it down, and cry it is a good relief. Hope you ave a friend to trust who will stand by you. Do not blame yourself and do not put guilt on yourself. If your wife goes to therapy you may be able to reunite. So think as positive as you can. Do at least l nice thing for your self everyday. Do not put yourself down, please go for help it is so beneficial. Stay strong, but give in when you have to do not allow yourself to wallow. I send you strength, love and compassion. And Peace. Sprinkle 1