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I have been married for 20 plus yrs..and have 2 sons with special needs..both completely different..I now have a 'best friend' for 5 yrs plus..who is a fab woman..but I have seen some change..I can get upto and over 100 texts a day..no I do not work but my life is full..I went to a girlfriends house by myself as my best friend didn't want to go..as ailments prevented it..then I was sent a text telling me I was bald on photos..which I tried to laugh off and say no it was the lighting..to which I was told again off my best friend ..no I was bald..now she has made a point of telling me about a brill night out she is having..and I haven't come up to go with her..but everyone has lent money off me..oh the irony..I hate hate confrontation but am sick of being a bank and a taxi..my heart is hurting x

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Starry

Time to prioritize you and your family as number one and stop letting people take advantage.

The quote marks say it all. That is no friend. Drop contact with her and invest your care and friendship elsewhere where it will be reciprocated.

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Thank you Starry for your reply..I am such a stronng woman with husband and my lads..but can't get rid of the sickening feeling of guilt which I have..mainly when I was in company last week I got about 60 texts and our mutual friends could not believe it..and no it wasnt my husband..I do not talk to anyone I drink one to many glass of wine..not silly though..I just want it to stop..but I will always be in the wrong..I had my outlet in my sister but she passed away so quick..she's gone..xx

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redbridges7diana

You received 100 texts from just one person...?

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Yeah Redbridges..this could be a.daily occurrence..I was out with my elderly father one day..didn't hear phone so was asked if I was.dead..I wish I wasnt so weak..xx

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That's too much for anyone to handle, I feel weak just reading about it...maybe just respond to the texts that are necessary or block the texts totally,,, let them know you are taking care of your family and you're going to try to text if you get a minute, but don't promise anything....

It's just ridiculous redbridge but I do not know how to stop it..well.my husbands answer is the simplest but thats not on my character..I am trying to myself out.of the.shit.bit.by bit..I.have no one except my hubby amd 2.sons

.(mans world) so love female rubbish chatting on..but no..I will.wait for the texts...xx

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Starry

Thats harassment/bullying or attention seeking, not friendship. I recommend you block the number. You need to extract yourself from this negative pattern of behaviour.

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