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My husband has passed.

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On Wednesday 17th April Ronnie suffered a brain hemorrhage in the late afternoon at home. He died in hospital in the early hours of Thursday 18th. He had just turned 71. He was diagnosed in January 2020. I believe that Radium 223 precipitated his death. I have written before here on his experiences. It took everything from him and left him bed bound and unable to do anything. The same happened to a friend he made while doing the same treatment. We were together for 47 years. There is a gaping hole in our family but our sons and I are grateful that he is now at peace.God bless everyone on this site and their partners and families.

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Boywonder56 profile image
Boywonder56

so sorry to hear this.....in time a smiles from the good memories....bw

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rhenrick in reply to Boywonder56

I hope so. Thank you.

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rosenjpj

I am so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.

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rhenrick in reply to rosenjpj

Thank you.

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Jost-58

I am very sorry for you,

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DarrylPartner

condolences

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catsup in reply to Darryl

Very sorry to hear about your husband. I just started on Radium 223 and had my second injection. I will hope and pray for better results. May your husband RIP .

god bless during your period of grief.

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rhenrick in reply to catsup

God bless you too on this journey.

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skiingfiend

I am sorry to hear your news. My condolences to you and your loved ones, God bless.

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PSAed

My sincere condolences, may he RIP.

We seem to be losing quite a lot of people over the last few weeks I'm sorry to say.

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Decktime

I am so very sorry.

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Dachshundlove

47 Years is a lifetime and makes for a big hole. May the love that cemented the two of you, long continue to fill and comfort you.

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rhenrick in reply to Dachshundlove

Thank you

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Amadeus71

🙏❤💪

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rhenrick in reply to Amadeus71

Thank you.

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Nusch

I’m sorry for your loss, my sincere condolences. You’ve spent most of your life together. We are in year 36 and I hope that 47 is still doable. Thx for the blessing. One day we’ll be all re-united.

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Maxone73

God bless you, you have been with him till the end.

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rhenrick in reply to Maxone73

Thank you and Maxone and everyone who replied. All your comments have given me the warmth of human kindness.I will pray for everyone.

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Mtnhigh

I'm so sorry for your loss. You are a caregiver hero!

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Kaliber

my deepest heartfelt condolences, so sorry for your loss.

🌹🌹🌹

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Yadifan

I'm so sorry for your loss. Prayers for peace and comfort for you and your family.

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Don717

Can't imagine the emotions...so sorry. I'm sure he was glad to have you by his side after all those years. That is truly something special. My condolences to your family.

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Tall_Allen

I am sorry to hear of his passing. The loss after 47 years is unimaginable. My heart goes out to you.

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CancerConcierge

I’m so sorry for your loss… he was well loved and will be so missed . Wishing you peace and comfort surrounded by your family and loved ones.

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lcfcpolo

So sorry for your loss. My condolences to your family. Well done for supporting your husband. Please remember the good times, the laughter.Graham

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Mike1971

My condolences.

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timotur

Blessings to you for supporting him through his treatments, and may he RIP.

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zeitgeistxx

My heart goes out to you, I grieve for your great loss. You have been two souls together for 47 years. You were there to comfort him to the end. I wish you and your family healing and solace in your loving memories of him.

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rhenrick in reply to zeitgeistxx

Thank you everyone. All your messages have helped me get through another day.

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EvFC

So sorry for your loss 🙏🏻

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rhenrick in reply to EvFC

Thank you.

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Lettuce231

Heartbreaking, I am so sorry. One day you will see your husband again and happiness will return.

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Cmdrdata

my condolence to you as you move in without him. As a believer in Jesus Christ I believe that “to live is Christ and to die is gain … heaven. “. I pray that he is now with the Lord.

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spw1

I am very sorry for your loss. This is a cruel disease and takes so much out of the life of the patient and the families. May his soul rest in peace and may God help you find the strength to bear the loss.

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rhenrick in reply to spw1

Thank you.

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Sisira

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. May he Rest In Peace 🙏.

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Blueribbon63

Very deeply sorry for your loss.

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Kshiprakapoor

I am sorry to hear that . Take care

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Priyamvada91

Sorry for your loss...

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Hailwood

I'm so sorry ot hear this, and thank you for taking the time to help us face these treatments with more insight and information. My deepest condolences

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rhenrick in reply to Hailwood

Yes. Do not rush decisions. Always research first. God bless.

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FortyWinks

so sorry, at peace now and hope you find some peace too.

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Lovecherries

I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. Take care of yourself.

Wise words about love and grief
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Bangkok

"My gem is special beyond all worth

As strong as any metal or stone in the earth

Sharp as any razor or blade you can buy

Bright as any laser or any star in the sky

Maybe once in a lifetime, you'll hold one in your hand

Once in a lifetime in this land

Where the journey ends in a worthless claim

Time and again in the mining game" - Mark Knopfler (I dug up a diamond)

I too have had the fortune of finding and loving my soul mate for 47 years. It is a special gift.

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Warriorthree

sorry to hear of your loss memories are golden love and best wishes ❤️Xxx

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Izzygirl1

I’m so sorry for your loss. He is at peace now. You were a wonderful caregiver. I hope all the good memories outweigh the sad ones soon.

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HikerWife

I'm so very sorry. We will be at 46 years this June and have two sons. I'm glad he had you and his sons on this journey. Wishing you all peace and comfort and strength.

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VanHalen84

So sorry for your loss!

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Sara_2611

My condolences to you & the family

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RayF

RIP Brother Ronnie.

Peace to you and your family.

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Bebby1

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family

Look after each other 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Juju1979

My condolences on the passing of Ronnie. He is at peace now away from the scourge of this cancer. My prayers for the peace of you and the family.

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PSA680

So sorry to read your sad news - my deepest condolences- may your husband rest in peace & may god bless you & your loved ones

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Nubeqa22

we as partners to the guys in this battle all fear this eventual outcome. Having been married over 50 years and watching this disease and its treatment slowly and surely take away the man I knew, I sense the enormity of the loss you feel. Sincere condolences.

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pakb

I'm sure you were an extension of each other after 47 years and the hole is great. The hole will not go away but the sting may soften. May your memories wrap you in warmth and help ease your loss.💙

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Wongle1

thinking of you and your family xxx

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Drandma

God bless you and your family!

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Pmann

so sorry for your loss, may he rest in eternity.

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hopeful1956

Please accept my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Sending you gentle hugs. Love and Light.

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Jazzman2023

I'm sorry for your loss. May the years of memories you had together, somehow provide you with comfort in this difficult time.

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MaxWife

My deepest condolences for your profound loss. As caregivers to our loved ones with advanced stages of cancer, we understand and prepare for their ultimate passing, but this knowledge does not make their passing any easier or less traumatic.

I pray that the memories of your beloved husband are a blessing to you, your children and the rest of your family. 🙏🏻

Even as your heart is breaking, may you find peace in knowing that his suffering has ended and remain in joyful hope that you will one day be with him again!🙏🏻

Many prayers to you and your family 🙏🏻

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rhenrick in reply to MaxWife

Thank you so much.

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turkeyjoe1

My deepest sympathy for you and your family.

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Voodoo33993

I am so sorry for your loss.

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LupronMan

🙏❤️💪

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NOCanceros

R.I.P

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RJAMSG

I’m sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and the family.

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TommyCarz2

My condolences to you and your family. It seems that sometimes these "treatments" can be catastrophic , and our skepticism, or concerns seem to be ignored, as many in the medical community, as well as those pretending to be in the community, have tunnel vision when it comes to "treating " illness. Again, my condolences. This must be excruciatingly painful for you, Knowing in your gut that this "treatment" was a ticking time-bomb. 🙏

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rhenrick in reply to TommyCarz2

Yes. I did not want my husband to do it and implored him to stop at treatment 5 as I could see the changes in him. The doctors waved away my concerns. It is known that it can cause severe gastric problems. We discovered this too late. The doctors denied this side effect.

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Tinuriel

Thank you for sharing this with us, and for the care you've shown your husband on this journey now ended. May you sense the love of God carrying you during this season. Praying for you and your family.

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Inwood

I’m sorry for your loss and pain. You shared a lifetime. You are in my prayers.

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Brbnbrn

God bless you and your family with comfort during this grieving time. 47 years is a blessing in itself. Many wonderful memories I am sure. 💙 💜

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DesertDaisy

I'm so very sorry for your and your sons great loss.

Kay

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Istomin

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

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Lavender22

I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself.❤️❤️❤️

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Kestrel5

I am very sorry for your loss.

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TEBozo

We're so sorry for your loss. Really sorry. What we are finding from some, that the cure is worse than the disease.

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rhenrick in reply to TEBozo

Exactly. Please take heed of this everyone here.

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Har036

Sending condolences and prayers for you and your family. I pray that you will find peace and comfort in the many memories you made with your husband over your 47 years of marriage.

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BanjoPicker

Hope you find peace and comfort as you move forward.

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FjSENC

I am so sorry about the loss of your husband.

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WoodChuckHill

Condolences to you and to your family. I believe at some point you will remember many good memories of the last 47 years spent together. Until that point arrives, please take it day-by-day.

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Vangogh1961

Sorry for your loss.

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carbide

My condolences. 🙏

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Lokicliff

We are so sorry to hear of you and your children’s’ huge loss. Many prayers for strength and peace.

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Metaldraft

my heart felt your compassion as well as your family together fighting and wishing for longevity I hope that you felt and sons that he gave such great happiness that you collected and treasure his continuous fight that will endure a lifetime of great fortitude

May you find peace

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rhenrick in reply to Metaldraft

Thank you.

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fourputt

I say once again. When one of "us" dies we all die a little inside. I am very sorry for your loss.

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rhenrick in reply to fourputt

That is so true. What a lovely comment. We are a family and I am overwhelmed by the responses here. So loving and compassionate. Thank you all.

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Ian996

My sincerest thoughts are with you and your family Rest in peace Ron

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Break60

God bless his soul and his family!

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Murphpup

I am deeply sorry for your loss!

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Peeffervescence

I wish you peace and healing

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JazzMan42

RIP Ronnie

Sending prayers for strength and comfort during this difficult time may Ronnie R.I.P. he gave it a good fight.

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Pianodude

Sorry for your loss.

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GoBucks

May you and your family be blessed with strength in the coming days. Condolences to all of you.

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dadsdrdawn

Prayers of strength to your family for being by his side.

Wishing you all fond memories when he was strong.

Sent with love,

Dawn

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HotRod4321

Prayers, Love and Godspeed!

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Wdoug

So sorry. Keep your happy memories alive to comfort you.

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anonymoose2

No more suffering for him. It’s a fate that we ALL must take and those still on this earth are left picking up the pieces. Be strong and move forward as that is what most likely he would want for you. Love never returns void. Your love for each other for all these years will be reunited in a place that will be glorious.

Blessings ❤️

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rhenrick in reply to anonymoose2

Thank you for those words.

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Flydoggy

So sorry for your loss, may your memories sustain you through the days to come.

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Runner4000

I’m sorry. Thank you for letting us know.

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Sagewiz

So very sorry for you and your family. Wishing you all peace in your journey of grief.

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Cub49614

🙏🙏

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j-o-h-n

"Our sons and I are grateful that he is now at peace".

Your dear Husband Ronald will always be watching you and the boys. He is so proud of all of you that he's floating in the air without his wings.. May the thought of his everlasting peace and tranquility remain forever in your heart as well as in your sons' hearts. God Bless.

j-o-h-n

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rhenrick in reply to j-o-h-n

Thank you so much.

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northshoreguy

So sorry for your loss

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EliasJ

I share in your loss. My husband passed on March 13th, 2024. He was diagnosed in November of 2015 with stage 3 prostate cancer metastatic to bone. Responded well to initial treatment but as time passed, his cancer became resistant even to radium 223. He refused chemo and was referred to palliative care late last year then to hospice care in January of 2024. By then it was end stage cancer. We would have been married 48 years on March 20th and he would have celebrated his 74th birthday on April 11th. My sons and I are fully aware of that gaping hole you mentioned and also grateful he is no longer suffering. God bless you and yours sons. I will be praying for you.

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rhenrick in reply to EliasJ

I am so sorry to read this. My heart goes out to you and your boys. I know exactly what you went through. God less you and the boys and may we both find some joy in the world again.

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j-o-h-n in reply to EliasJ

Dear Ms. EliasJ,

I am sending you my most sincere condolences to you in the passing of you dearest Husband and I extend my condolences to your wonderful sons. Of course his memory will forever be kept alive and will be especially celebrated on his birthday April 11th. Time heals all wounds.

It appears that April is not a good month....................... My Dearest Dad died 69 years ago on April 16, 1955.

p.s. I wish to ask how is your dear Father doing?

j-o-h-n

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Sunlight12 in reply to EliasJ

My condolences for your loss, Mrs EliasJ. This disease is a darned tough opponent. And it takes too many men. Wishing peace to you, your sons and all who loved your husband!

In solidarity,

Sunlight

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Claud68

So sorry for your loss , rhenrick and EliasJ. God bless you and your families. My husband passed on April19th 2024 after 53 years together. We also married on March 20th (in 1972) and Nicolas was 74 on April 14th. He was diagnosed in 2018 stage 4 Gleason 9 prostate cancer and had 12 Lu177 treatments (Pluvicto) since 2019, no ADT and no chemo.

He had severe anemia for several weeks and very low platelets and fatigue and weakness. So he was hospitalised on his 74th birthday but had cerebral hemorrhage on April 18th in hospital and died on April 19th at 4 o'clock in the morning.

We are so grateful he never had pain despite his cancer and his bone mets for three years. Our two sons and our daughter will be with me for the funeral on Thursday, April 25th. He was a wonderful husband and a loving father and we miss him so much.

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rhenrick in reply to Claud68

Almost a mirror image of my husband's experiences with low platelets and hemorrhage. I am so sorry for you and the family. God bless.

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j-o-h-n in reply to Claud68

Dear Ms. Claud68,

My condolences to you and to your three offspring regarding the passing of the "Man of the House''. May the love you and your children have for him be held sacred forever in your hearts and may the sun shine brightly on all of you on this April 25th. I wish to add what Greeks say to mourners during this time.....Ζωή σε ςας (Life to us)....God Bless all of you.

j-o-h-n

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Sunlight12 in reply to Claud68

My deepest condolences, MrsClaud 68. It is so very hard to lose our wonderful husbands and fathers!

I want to thank you for sharing your and your husband's story. These histories are incredibly valuable to others, as they learn what to be aware of and consider options.

Wishing peace to you and your family!

In solidarity,

Sunlight

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Fiddler2004

Very sorry for your loss 🙏 thank you for the info...

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garyjp9

My deepest sympathies to you and your family for your loss. May he now rest in peace.

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cancerfox

Words are totally inadequate at a time like this, but I hope you are comforted by the love and support of family and friends.

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Ghostlycomet

Condolences

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Sunlight12

I am so very sorry for you and your family's loss, Mrs. Rhenrick. We can know the end is out there, but it is still hard when it comes, especially when it comes more suddenly than we thought it might. Thank you for sharing your husband's story here - it is so valuable to others to have these experiences and information. And thank you for fighting along side him for these four years - that is a wonderful gift to give the one you love!

Wishing peace to you and all who loved your husband 💜

In solidarity,

Sunlight

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rhenrick in reply to Sunlight12

Yes in solidarity.

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Sunnysailor

I’m so sorry for your loss and thank you for posting about your experience to help others in this community.

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davidjroberts

Sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Stay strong

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