My dad never acknowledges me

[missanne34]

I posted about this a couple of months ago however it hasn’t really improved much. Since my mum and dad split up, my dad has resented me and treated me like I’m nothing, making me feel uncomfortable in the house and always making me feel on edge. He will go for weeks without speaking to me, I know he doesn’t care about me and it’s taking me a long time but I’ve accepted it will always be that way. It’s been like this for 5 years now, we got on fine when I was little, it’s jsut since my mum moved out he just always said why don’t you leave, you live here for free, why are you here. (My mum only has a small flat so this is not possible, I’m a student studying to be a nurse as well). No matter what I do, he’ll find a fault in me. He makes me feel I’m stupid, and not worth anything. He hates I am close with my mum to. He made the house very un homely, painting the walls dark grey and getting rid of the dining table. When I arrive home, he keeps his back to me and doesn’t even turn round to ask how I am. I think if he never saw me again he wouldn’t care at all. It’s just really getting to me now my dad dislikes me, for no apparent reason. I’m working in intensive care at the moment and he belittled me and said don’t turn any of the machines off, he doesn’t believe in my abilities even though I’m doing really well and I’m proud of myself.

My boyfriend lives with us, my boyfriend is trying very hard to find a job in his field and has offered to pay rent on several ocassions, my dad keeps refusing. He shouted at my boyfriend saying he’s angry he hasn’t got a job yet, even though it’s only been a couple of weeks. He’s trying hard.

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I'm sorry to hear this. It's hard to believe that a father could act that way towards his daughter, it's so unfaire. I'm only 13, but I still want to ask you,

Would you be able to tell your father that you think he doesn't like you? Do you think it's possible that things between you and him can change if you explained to him how you feel?

If ever you want to contact me personnaly, here is my email: [e-mail]

[sweetiepye]

You must never let anyone treat you like that. You are a worth wile person who deserves respect. You are also letting your bf see how little regard you have for yourself. Of course your Father knows exactly what he is doing. He wants you gone, so go. You probably remind him of your Mother. Until your bf and you can afford your own place move in with your Mother and have your bf move in with his family.Finish your schooling and keep your self respect and then move in with bf. It's important. I also wonder why your bf is willing to live with someone who treats you so badly. You might want to rethink that relationship. I know it's a harsh answer, but it's what I would tell my own daughter