Unhappy

[Helsby]

I feel as if the whole world is watching me ... like its just waiting for me to make a mistake and it seems like I make mistakes all the time.

I feel like a mess like I have just messed up my whole life.

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I'm guessing you are mainly talking about work here. Sounds like one of your problems is you are setting too high a perch for yourself. You need to adjust your expectations to a level that best resembles your character - some people are strong and they are respected and they find things easy to do that others would find a challenge, that's the way they are made. However it was never intended for us all to be like that and that's simply life. If you are like me, a weak person, then do your best to lower what you expect out of life - if the boss doesn't rely on you for much, then that's ok, that happens where I work.

Man I have the worst phone manner in the office, I hate using it and it is embarrassing at times, as a professional person it makes me look very poor, particularly as those around me are excellent in that respect. This gets very painful, however because I have accepted my capabilities are low in this and am not looking to impress anyone, I have less far to fall with a failure and find it easier to get up again - in fact I get quite a buzz at being humble and feel I'm progressing in life when I'm working at it or letting this aspect grow in my life.

So yes work at reducing your how you see yourself, out of that then will come a buffer regarding what people think of you, it won't bother you so much.

I know I am a weak person relative to others in many ways, but I try to reduce what I want or what I'm content with so it fits more with who I am and it is much easier then to live that way.

..but it takes time and practice unfortunately.

all the best,

Rich