Been too ashamed to come back on here for the last few weeks. Regained almost a stone. Can't seem to break the cycle.
6 week binge : Been too ashamed to come... - Weight Loss Support
6 week binge
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BridgeGirlAdministrator2 stone
How do you think the forum can help you? I see you've posted with two different weigh in teams - Monday and Wednesday. Maybe decide which one you're going to belong to and make a regular commitment. Remember, they will value your support as much as you will theirs.
I don't think you've ever tried the daily diary (apologies if you have). Why not head over there now to see what plans other members are making? And then decide on your meals for tomorrow and post them on Sunday's diary.
Also, while you've been away we've started a daily chat thread. It's a good place to drop in for a general natter at any time.
Pick yourself up. You've had a good weight loss in the past. Have a look at what changes you might need to your diet and then get back involved with the forum.
All the best
BG
Hello, I'm new here and was wondering where to find the daily chat thread? Sorry if it's obvious! Thanks 🙂
Not at all, it isn't obvious. Welcome to the forum 
You'll find everything you need by following this link healthunlocked.com/weight-l... to Pinned Posts - a list of posts starting with Welcome newbies and going on to the day's weigh in, daily diary (where members post their meal plans), daily chat (which starts off with a topic and goes off in all direction) and several more activities and clubs.
This is a great place for information and support. Do some exploring, read and reply to posts, ask questions, encourage others - it will all pay off for you.
This gives you a tour of the forum, if you haven't already taken it healthunlocked.com/?tour=true
Finally, if you're using the app it doesn't reach all parts of the forum: you're best using the website
Thank you!!!!
Just take your time finding your way around. It's worth it
Glad to see you back. I'm struggling with my binge eating too but have kept coming on here every day which I think has helped. I'm sure we both can do it! Even with your gain, you've lost a huge amount of weight overall. I'm thinking today that every extra binge is a step further away from my 2 stone badge which I achieved in December.
in reply to Greendream123
Its so hard isn't it? I've avoided coming on here because I feel like I'm letting people down somehow
You wouldn't be and most certainly haven't let anyone on here down❤ by posting today you've taken the first step in taking back control. Go easy on yourself, have a look at the daily diaries and join in with the chats. The support is, and always will be, there.A massive step forward for you to come back, hello again, you've been missed x x
in reply to Progressoverperfect
Thank you very much x
Greendream123 in reply to
I get what you mean, it can be a bit embarrassing but I try to be as honest as possible and post in the DD every day. Please do come on here even on bad days if you feel you to it.
in reply to Greendream123
Been running from this site for 6 weeks. Time to buckle down again. Thank you x
Great you are back . It is hard to eat less when it is colder . Not just the food though as I find if I don't exercise every little treat I have really seems to pile on pounds . If I can't get out I exercise via You tube . Even 25 mins will burn off those few cals you may have eaten. Know it isn't precise advice but exercise motivates me to keep moving . If - like me after Xmas you still are snacking then try to eat just one of anything . It is horrible and hard but please keep posting.
in reply to focused1
Thank you
Nicely said x
Shield-Maiden in reply to
Please don't feel that way...you're NOT letting anyone down x
Hopalong1Challenge Host2st 7lbs
Hello Hidden Good to see you on. Well done owning it. Hope you are coming back to Wobblers. Please don't think you are alone. My weight goes up and down. What BridgeGirl says about the Daily Diary is something I do myself, every day I can, making a plan for food and exercise, it also helps me touch base and get my head straight for weight loss. Hang in there and keep posting xx
in reply to Hopalong1
Thank you very much x
Caroline626 stone
Welcome IamwhatIam517 sorry to be so blunt but we cannot help you if you do not come and that with us. I am sure a lot of members have done the same. I know I have. This forum is here to help you get through these things. A daily chat has started up and enough though there is a topic for that day, it is there to chat about anything and everything you want to there is usually some one there. I can see your badge and you have lost weight. So you can do it again. You said you have put 1 st on but you have lost more. What you have to do is puta line under the past few weeks and start again even if it means starting at the beginning. The main thing is Not to give up. 😊😊😊
in reply to Caroline62
I know, I've been wanting to hide under a rock recently. Thank you very much
springersruleModeratorHost76kg
Ahh, there's my fellow musketeer. I've missed you. Dont ever feel ashamed to come here, i'm sure most if not all of us have had to deal with this on some scale. That is all in the past now. You are here again and we'll help you through it if we can and you'll let us. Come and join in on the Daily Diaries. Its a great resource and there's plenty of us to put our heads together to help you keep going.
As BridgeGirl has said there is now a new Daily Chat post. Go take a look at some of the past posts (in Pinned Posts) which may just lift your spirits and possibly give you motivational ideas. Today's is about the exercise we do but we've had all sorts of themes and you will be very welcome there. You can even chat about anything you want, it doesnt have to be about the days topic.
I hope we see you around here a lot more xx
in reply to springersrule
Bless you, sorry for letting the side down. Time to start again
YOU HAVE NOT LET THE SIDE DOWN, thats me in my best teacher voice, telling you to be kinder to yourself. As springersrule said, we have all done it at some point in the journey. Its how we move on from it that counts. And you're doing that by posting here, we are here, we will support in any way we can, now go and post in tomorrow's daily diary and I'll see you over there!! You can do this, you will do this WE CAN ALL DO THIS TOGETHER ❤
in reply to Progressoverperfect
Thank you very much x
You are most certainly not letting the side down Iamwhatiam. You've had a holiday and now you are home. Get sat in your favourite chair in your jarmies with a coffee or other hot beverage and get chatting with us. We're all behind you as you would be with us if the tables were turned. Tonight or tomorrow is a new day and a fresh start. You've lost so much already and i'm told new weight comes off easier so lets get started straight away.
As an aside, you mention you just want to hide in a cave. Have you thought to have a chat with your doctor or a nurse at your practice, they may be able to help with how you're feeling.
Come on the Daily diary for tomorrow is calling you 💖💖 xx
in reply to springersrule
Thank you very much x
Varensia in reply to
Hi your header made me pop back in.. as we are all fighting, lockdown and the emotional weight battle, and I have found myself reaching for sugar comfort treats... in the conversations with myself.. I know it’s about self care ... be kind to yourself....even one day back on track you will feel better
in reply to Varensia
Thank you x
Lytham3 stone
Heyyy, good to see you back ! C`mon, you're a LEGEND ! You can do this girl! x
in reply to Lytham
I'm gonna cry. Thank you. Fresh start tomorrow
Ha ha ! Yayyyy ! That's my girl, you're my inspiration, we need you! x
Hey, I've just been looking and you joined the Spring challenge but never did the first weigh in? Would you like to draw a line under things now and restart on there now with a new weigh in? x
Tall1732Restart June 2023Maintainer
I’ve also had some really heavy binge days since Christmas I’ve not been below my weight of 85kg since 24 December I find that when I’m a bit stressed or over tired I seem to over eat.My problem is that once I’ve had something sweet like chocolate it sets me off and I just can’t stop. I had a bad day last Saturday and another day on Tuesday. My weight can dramatically go up by 2 kg after these days. I’ve decided by the end of February I’m going to below my weight of 85 kg again,currently at 87.3 kg. When I look back at my weight app I was 109 kg this time 2019 and 104kg 2020. We all have times when things go wrong.don’t Threat just see it as a minor blip and move forward. I know I need to have a total sweet food ban for Feb and I will achieve my goal and increase my walking when weather permits it. You can do it.
in reply to Tall1732
Lets do this!! Thank you
Hey Hidden nice to ‘see’ you back, please don’t ever feel like you should be ashamed. I will take the liberty of saying everyone understands how it goes! We’re all human and it’s never going to be perfect and plain sailing the whole time! And the world climate isn’t exactly making it easy for us.
I think you should give your self a big pat on the back for coming on and accepting where you are! And go easy on yourself! Okay you may have gained a stone but look at your badge you lost 4 so you have hard proof that you can do this!
Hang in there, and take small steps, so you might not get back in full swing straight away but you can maybe have a little bit more veg or an apple a day or whatever floats your boat!
I’ll stop rambling now but you’ve totally got this and you’ll never disappoint anyone, everyone’s cheering you on X
in reply to
Thank you very much
Great to see you back, you can do this!
in reply to Aussiegirl270416
Thank you
Flo-jo in reply to
😢Aw I felt so sad reading your post, I had a lump in my throat, there’s nothing to be ashamed of we are all human which means we are going to muck up on occasions. What is good though is when we fall off the wagon we can dust ourselves down pick ourselves up and start again😊There’s no point stressing or beating ourselves up, what’s happened has happened, it’s simple just start a fresh. Looking at your badge you have still lost 31/2 stone that’s more then most of us, it’s more then me😁 take a positive you have probably boosted your metabolism, good luck you have got this. 👍
Lovely reply Flo-jo x
Oh sorry for late response had a busy day today, that’s very kind of you to say that Shield-Maiden, thank you😊
The most common thing I've heard around binge eating is that the urge is strongest when we've been restricting. When we've denied ourselves foods for a while it just makes us crave them even more.I'd really recommend watching Kiana Docherty's videos on YouTube as she explains it really well, but basically you could try intentionally not dieting for a bit. I know it's really scary to get out of the mindset, and you might gain a little bit more weight initially, but relaxing your mind around food might reduce the urges to binge, and allow yourself to eat in moderation, which should stop the binge-restrict cycle.
Just a thought, good luck. Whatever happens you are NOT a failure, and it's only diet culture that makes you think you are. Losing weight is so so hard, and I'm sure you've come a long way in improving your health. Just remember you're worth more than your size.
in reply to 1stoneandcounting
Thank you, I'll look into it
Awesome response and good advice x
Maisie487lbs
Morning IamwhatIam - you made a brilliant step in posting how you have been feeling and the replies affirm what a great place this is!!
I felt just like you for 4 weeks. Pre-Christmas I reached my 2st badge and was so proud and felt great. Post-Christmas, with the wretched weather, short days, cold house, Covid situation, I turned (as I often do) to food for comfort................... couldn't get out of this cycle and gained 12lbs. I, too, felt ashamed and was embarrassed about posting my gains.But I did, support has been fantastic and I reined in my comfort eating and took one day at a time.
I decided to eat substantial meals and to have a slice of cake when my mid-afternoon hunger pangs strike and have found I haven't binged or over-eaten. In only a few days I felt more in control. You, too, will get your mojo back.
I have joined Lytham's Spring Challenge where my goal is to reach my pre-Christmas weight. By then, the days will be longer, it will be warmer and I know I will be able to lose the final half stone to reach my ultimate goal.
We are all different and cope in our own ways but you and I know that we can do this - look at our track record!! So, well done on being bold enough to tell us how things are, you were braver than me - I tried to sneak my weekly weight post at the end of the day so fewer people would see it!!
So I hope you have been greatly encouraged by everyone's replies and suggestions. You will get your mojo back. This really is a great forum to be on - my very best wishes to you. 😊😊
in reply to Maisie48
Thank you very much 😊
gman1961Restart April 2024
No shame ,and you are not letting anyone down.That's what this forum is about being able to be honest when things aren't going right.Easy to post success,you can do it .Start again ,so many of us have done before.
You are not alone .
Gary
in reply to gman1961
Thank you Gary
I am the same, I know how you feel.Lockdown does not make it any better.
I think we just have to forget about the last few weeks and start again !
Facts will not change the past so let’s move forward.
Do you know your triggers for breaking healthy eating?
Mine is self esteem which often tells me I am no good. Usually when I am am in down in the dumps already.
in reply to Askepot
Thank you for your reply x
Asti7Visitor
Don't be so hard on yourself. These things happen and are our own worst critics. You have done so well overall. Forgive yourself any small lapses and you'll get back on track. Good luck
in reply to Asti7
Thank you
Scaffie2 stone
Oh iamwhatiam we’ve missed you. It happens, come back. Life is hard enough without Covid and all the things it makes hard. Please please don’t feel to ashamed. If you want to sort this looking at WHY I did it helped me. You know I have weeks I got so fed up posting sts. It’s even more miserable on your own. Come back and maybe the support can help xxxx
Hi, thanks for posting, you are not alone as I always seem to lose some then put back on. But still determined, I always think of Eddison and the light bulb, he just saw each try as a learning opportunity. So next time I try something else like try a new hobby. I also tell myself that still lost some weight which is a great achievement and start again. Slow and steady. You are doing so well, keep going 🙂
in reply to
Thank you x
I’ve had to reply to you as this was me for most of my adult life on and off diets and binge eating and putting all my good work back on and more sometimes 😩Diets just do not work once at a “Goal “ weight you feel fabulous and slowly letting old eating habits creep back in ...that I’m afraid is the pattern of many dieters.
My life has totally changed now I will never ever diet again the reason being I’ve discovered Time Restriction eating .
It’s not what you eat it’s when you eat it being the main issue as every time we eat our insulin spikes ( I won’t go into the science behind all of this ...this is what you can research if your interested in this lifestyle)
But I would really love you to do is to check out Gin Stephens ( American lady the mirror image of many failed diets of many people like herself ) her book Delay don’t Deny. Is her first book which I first got my hands on and she’s now has a new one out Fast Feast Repeat which goes more in-depth to how this way of lifestyle is just healing in itself it’s life changing.
One last thing I’ll mention is It’s not your fault you’ve failed and you will find out why reading this book we’ve all been brainwashed into thinking calories in calories out works ...it doesn’t Please read this book x
Best Wishes
Diane
in reply to Diane1962
Thank you very much
Hi Diane,
I have Gins books, and have recently tried getting down to a 4 hr eating window...it works...but, I have found that, you have to be in the right place mentally. It's for me, in the future, when the weather is warmer, and, I have less stress etc...
....I agree, that it works, and, is well worth a read.
Thank you for sharing x
Tracy (Shield)
Hi Tracey..yes It certainly does work it’s my forever lifestyle now and for me it helped so much with my stress levels no more diet mentality was such a big stress relief for me just the pure freedom of never having to diet again !!!Good luck Tracey it’s so worth it x
Hi Diane,
Thank you.
I hope you don't mind me asking...what window do you have most days?
When I am ready, I aim to try this again, but for maybe just for 2 or 3 days a week to start with.
Hi Tracey I started off with 18/6 then progressed to 20/4 I’m now loving OMAD and pudding! Once I’ve eaten and satisfied I close my window this helps with mindless eating and it certainly works !
Have you seen the Facebook groups and real life stories on her podcast so inspirational worth a listen !
Hi Diane,
Thank you...yes, I aim to try this properly in Spring or Summer, I know that it works.
I'm glad that it's working so well for you 🤗 x
walkinthewoods7lbs
It’s a horrible time. Give yourself a break and focus on your needs. I know all about shame and weight gain but have been happier since I have been practising some self care and reminding myself of all the positive things I do like a long walk or half an hour garden. Take care
in reply to walkinthewoods
Thank you very much x
DizzeeB1 stone
Hi IamwhatIam,
Welcome back. We’ve missed you in Weds Wobblers. Just sending you love and positive thoughts and letting you know it is great to see you posting again.
I’m not an expert in any of this and I get sooo frustrated with myself at times. I think most of us probably do. But it’s not an easy thing we are doing. And most people have bumps along the way. But you are back and that’s brilliant and just concentrate on being kind to yourself. Hopefully the pounds/ounces/grams will slowly shift again. But as someone else said, you are more than just your weight so please don’t be ashamed.
Huge hugs. 🤗 🤗 🤗
in reply to DizzeeB
Thank you very much 😊
Hi Hidden , I have just seen your post and had to reply. Well done for coming back to the forum. I have been stuck in a ‘binge-purge-starve-repeat’ cycle for the last 10wks with the ‘excuse’ being Christmas. I am about the same weight now that I was in November, so another 10wks of my life wasted. I recognise and empathise with you and the others who replied to your post. I put 1/2 stone on in that time. For me I am trying to stick to LCHF, my craving for sweet food is reducing, although I have still been overeating but sticking to LCHF. Like others have said, you are not on your own, you have done so well to loose all that weight. I am a Wednesday Wobbler as well but hadn’t posted for a month over Xmas. Happy to chat for mutual support😊
in reply to Pink4eva
Exactly my experience. So hard to forgive oneself I find. Thank you for your reply
Dear IamwhatIam, I won't repeat all the wise things people have already posted. I just wanted to say that you have not only given comfort to so many of us simply by sharing what has been happening in your life, but you have also shown just how strong and powerful we are together. I salute you.
in reply to setterlover
Thank you
CherryN2st 7lbs
I know exactly what you mean. I decided to indulge a bit over Christmas and completely lost control, I put on 10lbs. I didn’t want to come on here but I forced myself even though the weigh in was bad and I lost a badge that I’d been so proud of. But the people on here have been so supportive and it’s made me feel much better. I’m still struggling to avoid the binges and ‘treats’ but it’s getting better. Well done for being brave enough to come back and not hiding away. You have no reason to be ashamed, you just had a blip and you can overcome it. Be kind to yourself. x
in reply to CherryN
We're so alike. Thank you for your reply x
Hi IamwhatIam,
Thank you for being brave, and, posting.
I too have been considering posting this weekend...a similar thread.
I still might...then I can write a shorter, one liner, for my weigh-in on Monday, for the Mass Movers, and, for the Spring Challenge.
Why don't you take the mental stress off, by deciding to 'maintain' your current weight, until you're feeling mentally stronger, when you can start to work on losing again?
I have decided to do this, and, instantly, I feel more relaxed about it all.
Also, another suggestion, perhaps.....
......Ask Admin to change your badge...get rid of the numbers......I'm glad that I did that...
......after all, I will always have to watch my diet, as in, the food that I eat...now that I'm no longer 20 something...so, I will always be 'working at it' and, I will also always be, a 'work in progress'
It's a learning curve...
And,
You've got this! xx
in reply to Shield-Maiden
Thanks 😊
I’m sorry you feel that bad. Shame and guilt are something I feel on a regular basis as well as useless, ugly and disgusted with myself. I just wanted to say that I’m sorry you are struggling.
Hello Hidden Please try the daily diary. As well as planning diet and exercise it helps me get my thoughts in order. I bought myself ten red roses yesterday. My husband had been away for work and asked if I had another fella. They were from me to me. All the best x🌹🌹
Hi and welcome, Mercurial
Don't feel that way about yourself, we're all here to support each other.
All of the information you need about the forum can be found in Pinned Posts
healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh... and we hope you'll be joining all the Events, Challenges and Clubs that we run, especially a weigh-in and the daily diary.
We've found active participation to be key to successful weight loss and, of course, it's a good way to get to know people, find inspiration and share support and encouragement.
Wishing you all the best
in reply to
Thank you x
We have all been there. I'm.heavier than my starting weight. You will get there. Keep trying. This might be the time you succeed 👍
in reply to Jewels46
Thank you very much 😊
Dear IamwhatIam517,I'm so sorry to hear that you have struggled. Please don't feel ashamed, we all have times when it's not easy to stick to our plans - sometimes it's impossible. Best laid plans and all that......
You have taken a huge step coming back on here and I'm sure we all wish you good luck with your journey. One day at a time.
Hugs and best wishes.
Carole
in reply to Horse_and_hound
Thank you 😊
dawnz3 stone
It is so good that you are back! Just do what is comfortable for you; scroll through a bit, read - and reply if you want. Please don't be hard on yourself because it will stop you in your tracks. When you are ready to set a reachable target for a week or a month , go with that. Bite sized pieces forgive the pun! You know you best, so you know what needs a tweak and a throw in the bin.... all good wishes
in reply to dawnz
Thank you for your kind reply x
Bless you, Its such a hard cycle to break & we all have bad times It has taken me years to get control , & I still have binge days. Have you tried thepy to help work out why you binge? it helped me alot! I still Have stuggles. Stop beening so hard on yourself.
Welcome back, Abby14
If you're still looking for support while losing weight and as a reminder, all of the information you need about the forum can be found in Pinned Posts
healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh... and we hope you'll be joining all the Events, Challenges and Clubs that we run, especially a weigh-in and the daily diary.
We've found active participation to be key to successful weight loss and, of course, it's a good way to get to know people, find inspiration and share support and encouragement.
Wishing you all the best
in reply to Abby14
Ths k you for your reply. I have in the past. I just like to eat basically. I do a bit of emotional eating too
Binky68Visitor
How are you ?? I already listed once and it vanished so I’ll wait to see if you reply before I share my words of wisdom as a fellow binger
in reply to Binky68
Hi. Not sure what happened to your last reply sorry checked all of the above and can't see it. I'm ok thanks. Restarted my journey
Don't lose hope buddy. It's part of journey.
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