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Please help. Binge eating disorder and depression? I think i need help.....

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Hi i am a 19 year old girl and i think i need some professional help. I was just wondering if any one else has been through the same thing that i am going through and how they got help? I am seriously depressed and have been for over a year, although on the outside i seem just like a reserved introvert who spends almost every spare minute alone. I am overweight and have been having binges for the last 6 years. I have major confidence issues and will not let myself have close friends because i am anxious that they are constantly talking about me behind my back. I have this stupid thing in my head where i play out the situation but substitute their words with the things i would say about me if i were a different person. It is a never ending circle where i am depressed about my weight and so i binge because i am depressed and then i get upset about the binge and it starts all over again. When i have a binge it is like i just switch off, its not even me, its really hazy and i just get upset and physically cant stop reaching into cupboards and stuff. Even when i was slimmer and going to the gym all the time i would still do this and come home and cry. It is stopping me from doing all the stuff i love because i am constantly sad and worrying about what they are saying about me. I am worried to tell my parents because they are strict and would just tell me i am being silly and wouldn't believe me. Please help me ! What should i do ?

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Hi there, I'm sorry that you have been having a hard time dealing with depression. Speaking as someone who can relate to your problems - I understand how hard and lonely it can be, to live in the vicious cycle of binge eating and self-loathing and ultimately, depression and retreating socially.

Don't be worried- your anxiety about people talking behind your back are more often than not a manifestation with the unhappiness that you feel about your eating habits. I have found that the thoughts and worries I had about friends and family saying nasty things when I am not in the room is simply not true- and even in cases when it has been the reality- I have found that the best way to cope is simply to not care.

I know it seems difficult - how does one simply "not care"? These thoughts can be very overbearing and impossible to let go. However, the way to let go is to simply find other things for your mind to get a hold of! Re-discover things that you like, find your passion in something meaningful- not for others but for yourself. Be adventurous, and seek things that excite you and make you feel alive, rather than being petrified and paralysed by your fear of being seen.

In my experience, 'house arrest' or not going out and staying at home for extended periods of times (going out to get food to binge on is not considered) can be very destructive. Even if you go out for a walk in the park, or to the mall with a friend- these activities can take you out of your bubble and make you realize that there are more things out there that you can do- Life's too short to be worrying about other people's thoughts!!!

Lastly, I know it's tough and every day is a struggle. Don't be discouraged if you relapse. Have faith that you will overcome this and be happy. Despite everything and because of everything.

Chin up! :)

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patdandTOP

Hiya. I'm really sorry that your going through this at the moment but it will get better. I should know. I have depression and anxiety and have recently began developing anorexia. No one knows about my anorexia but I recently decided to tell people about my depression. I called 111 and told them how I'd been feeling and how my friends had convinced me to call because I was feeling suicidal. Since then I have had loads of appointments with doctors and specialist and they have diagnosed me with anxiety and they are helping me and...well there is not much else I can say. You are very brave for asking for help and people will help. But always remember NEVER GIVE UP! xx

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