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My husband treats me horribly. He makes fun that I have cancer. Isn't the stress very bad for me and how can I escape it?? He is extremely abusive and says we all have to die, some of us sooner than others. It's bad enough that I don't know whether I'm gonna live or die. I cry all the time.

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27-359

I am so sorry that you are not getting the support that you need, but wonder if you have a close friend or family member who can help you. You should be able to expect more from your husband. Has he always been uncaring, or is this perhaps his way of dealing with a situation over which he has no control.

Jenny

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Suzanne333

Oh my goodness. That's awful. You don't need that in your life. Is he usually like that or is it a reaction as he just can't cope with your illness. Is he angry and taking it out on you?

I hope you can sort it out. You've enough to deal with and need support and love Xxxxx

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Tesla_7US

This is emotional abuse. Does he also physically abuse you? Has he always been mean? Does he have Asperger's? Do you have children that are old enough to help you? I'm wondering if he's always been mean and self centered and now that you need help you're noticing what a jerk he is? No one should put up with this type of behavior. The stress of his negative behavior can impact your ability to recover. Right now you sound so mentally worn down that your body will be affected by your depression. Please contact one of the administrators here at Ovacome. They will know how to get you help.

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Sherryross

That asshole! Wish I could be there for you, nothing worse than a nasty man. Listen to Tesla and save yourself!

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missa13

Hi Geppy -- this sounds really awful. Please call our helpline at 844-ASK-SHARE. We have a comprehensive resource guide with listings all over the country and can connect you with an organization who specializes in cases like these. No one should be spoken to like that, and you're not alone <3

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Lizchips

My husband is an only child, he doesn't know what to do. He was a marine and a cop, he tries to support me but would make fun. Too. I think he's afraid to lose me. I sat him down and told him I'm not going to live this way. No more negative anything from him about me or anyone else. He works out a lot and sometimes says things about others to me. Once I sat him down and told him I wasn't putting up with this and told him either he knocks it off or we are through. He stopped. Good luck.

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Neona57

I was wondering if it is because he cannot deal with the situation. My husband is very supportive and upbeat and I think he is possibly in denial about the reality of things. I know he is afraid of being left alone,

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hgwright

Hi Geppy. I am relatively new to this group, so I don't know if you have posted an update to your post regarding your husband's behavior. I am concerned about your well being and am hoping you have sought counsel and are in a better situation with this situation. Please let me/us know. Hugs 🤗

Helen from the USA

leave him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’m sad to read your post. If there’s any way to leave him, it would be worth it. He’s an abusive creep. You are worth more than him. It’s hard enough dealing with cancer but to to live with meanness takes it to a new level. Take control. Please. Emotional abuse takes its toll. And it’s liberating not to have that in your life. Please keep us updated. We’re all in your corner.

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Wicomico

You deserve to get away from this guy!

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Heidels

Why do you tolerate that from him?You fear speaking up because he might strike you or what? Is this the way he can handle it by pretending it isnt a serious disease? Is he being a hard ass now because you have cancer or is he always like this? If he is always like this, then stop it now.Dont ever stay with someone who is abusive, mentally or physically. Life is too short. If he is just starting to behave like this then maybe he is having trouble digesting it all, so talk to him, make him understand how you feel.

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