Hi i'm lyndas daughter. As you know from my mums feed my lovely grandma died. That by it self was hard on our little family. It was after my grandmas funeral mum went into hospital. Test after test my mum was told she had a rare cervical cancer. It was a very short battle,my mum died 3rd november. I saw my mum had an email from this site about new posts so decided to investigate. I read her lovely posts about my grandma and especially about the last days of my grandmas life. It broke my heart to read but also made me smile she found this group so comforting. She often told me tales about snippets of peoples lives sometimes sad and happy times.
My mum was a strong and lovely lady that always put her family first. She hid her struggles at time. So i feel comfort she did have support from you.
Me, mum and grandma were a close unit of three and now there is just me. But i feel i have two beautiful angels by my side. Thank you xx
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Oh dear that is so sad, your mum was a lovely amazing lady, so so sorry to hear she has passed away, after the death of her mum, your grandmother, sending you all my love and condolences, stay strong, your two angels will be by your side looking after you. Please keep in touch and let us all now how you are. My husband passed away just over a year ago. Big hugs Yvonne xxxxxx
Thank you to be fair im absolutely heart broken. I thought in selfish way I would get my mum back. She could get to enjoy her life as well as grief but it was not meant to be. Life is just so cruel. Xx
I know exactly what you are saying, it’s so unfair, but you have some lovely memories, hold them close, and grieve at your own pace, I know a lot of people will be so shocked by your post, your mum was always there for us, and we will be here for you lovely lady, where do you live? Xxxxx
Am so sorry to hear of the loss of Lynda, too. That would rock anyone after the trauma of your grandma's illness.
I think your hopes (and disappointment) of (not) getting your mum back are quite normal after watching her devotion at her mum's side. It must have been in her thoughts too, that she would get her life back and spend quality time with her daughter!
You are a strong family, united in the love you have shown for each other. You will be buoyed up by the memories you have of your mum, and her dedication to your grandma.
When the dust has settled, take time for yourself and grieve in your own way. May God give you strength in the low moments, and show you how to get back out into the world again. Make your two lovely Angel's proud of you!
Hi there, I'm so very sorry for your loss of your mum, your grandma died just a few days after my mum passed away, we used to talk about our families,how we were getting on. Your mum was telling me she had terminal cancer and wasn't sure how long she had left, she said she was going to tell the lovely people on this site, but it's all been very quick and I don't suppose she got round to it. I'm so glad we had little chats it was nice to no there was some one in the same situation and it helped, we also found out we lived quite near each other, your lovely mum will be sadly missed, sending lots of love and hugs to you Julie xx
She spoke about you and I know she thought about you as you were going through simular situations. I know she would want me to share the news. Kerry. Xx
So sorry to hear your news, Kerry. The courage and strength in your family is part of your heritage, too, and may you draw on that strength to see you through this grieving time and beyond.
So sorry to hear about your Mum and so soon after your Grandma. Your Mum's posts & replies were always thoughtful and supportive. You must miss them both so very much. xxx
Hi, I am really sorry to hear about your Mum, may she rest in peace.
Thank you for letting us know, this group is like a big family, we all care and try and look out for each other. I am glad you got the sense, that we were able to get Lynda through her caring days of looking after your grandmother. She certain contributed to helping us along our journey.
Also it is a huge wake call for all of us here. Our Number One Duty on this planet is to look after ourselves first!!! Only then can we care for others. This is a familiar story, I am not saying Lynda's illness was caused by caring, but there may well of been early signs that she ignored, due to fatigue. Only regular rest and re charging the batteries occasionally, listening to YOUR body and its needs, to make sure you are still on an even keel. You owe to your loved one. We all say, only we can look after them the way they deserve, that's a wonderful statement, BUT who will care, if we aren't there??? Our job is to provide the best care, not necessarily give it!
So sorry for your losses is that you’re mum in the photo ? she looks very young she was lovely on this site helping everybody she could I hope you find peace you had quality not quantity god bless you xx
Thats a picture of me and my mum she was 50 there we had a lovely weekend celebrating. She died at 54 im just pottering in my house but keep thinking of her and grandma. So strange i cant text her or ring her. Xx
I’m so sorry to read this. My heart aches for you, especially for the changes in your group. Though my situation isn’t exactly the same, my mother, sister and I were a very tight knit group. In addition to being family, we were each other’s best friends. We did almost everything together: cooking, vacationing, walking, even running businesses together. I lost my sister to cancer quite suddenly (she was caring for mom who has CBD). Though mom is still here, she is all but gone as she is in late stages and in a home and can’t much talk anymore. I have really struggled the last several years; I feel very adrift as my female “tribe” is gone. I was waiting to have some girl time with my sister after mom and her grueling condition left our lives; someone to heal with. We had planned day trips to museums and lake side towns - basically things we couldn’t possibly do or enjoy while caring for mom. I feel cheated (perhaps selfishly).
I do have a wonderful husband and two equally wonderful grown sons, but I miss my girls desperately. Bless you.
Your mother was lovely; I remember her posts as loving, supportive and strong. Angel, yes, I think that may have been her true calling. I grieve with you and pray that you find strength to be the woman that they want you to be. Francis de Sales said, "When you enter a new town, be aware of the presence of your guardian angels for they will be with you." As you enter each new day, be aware of the presence of your angels, for they will, indeed, be with you.
It is sometimes such a cruel world and to lose two people so very dear to your heart seems so unfair. I can't imagine how difficult it must have been for your mum to care for her own mother knowing she had a terminal illness, caring for someone with PSP/CBD is a full time job and leaves no time to care for yourself. I'm glad you found this site and were able to access the posts your mum wrote and see the support and solace it gave to her and so many more who shared their thoughts and worries here. I hope it bring you some kind of comfort reading and sharing your own thoughts after such huge loses
This is difficult news to grasp and I am so very sorry for your loss. I am taking deep breaths and I’m trying to stay composed. I love this website but sometimes I get tongue tied. This is one of those times.
I’m glad you found your mum’s email and that you were able to see how comforting this site can be. Your mum was full wisdom and encouragement. She will be dearly missed but not forgotten.
Shock!!😧 Lynda was a frequent and compassionate contributor here. I can hardly believe it 💔
How cruel for you to lose your matriarchs all at once! I'm sure no words will help at such a devastating time, but you must come from some very strong and special genes.....
Be well, dollyjunior: Your mom will be missed by many.
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