A beautiful day for my husband's send off

[DenB]

The day before yesterday here in Kent, was a day of torrential rain but yesterday, the day I would be sending my husband Roy off with final farewells,was beautiful and bright. The whole day turned out just as I had planned for my wonderful husband who passed away recently on 19th July 2019 of CBD.

So many of the lovely people that he had known over the years were there, some who we hadn't seen for 40 years, which was amazing!

I wrote the eulogy/tribute and my eldest granddaughter read the poem that I had written and we celebrated his wonderful life and how many people he had touched in his lifetime.

The whole day was a mixture of heartfelt sadness and the joy of remembering who he was as a human being....

I would like to share the poem with you all....

He's in my heart

The light has faded through the window,

Leaving shadows and a worn out day,

I close my eyes and I can see him,

He is just a breath away.

He sits beside me on days like these,

He holds my hand when I am scared,

He's on the page of every book I read,

He is the wind that blows my hair.

How can I say that he is gone,

When he's in my heart and in my home,

And in everyone we've ever known.

He's in place we've ever been,

In every film we've ever seen,

He's in my every waking hour,

And in my dreams.

Oh, I know that he's still here,

I hear him whisper in my ear, "Be strong",

He's in every sad love song,

And I see him in my daughter and my son.

The light has faded through the window now,

Leaving shadows and a worn out day,

I close my eyes and I can see him,

And in my heart he'll always stay....

Love to you all

D X

[NannaB]

Oh D, a tear has just dropped onto my iPad. What an amazing poem that says it all.

I’m so pleased Roy’s farewell was all you could wish for with friends and family around you on a glorious day. I’m in Kent and went to a funeral the day before, it was wet, cold and windy. A sunny day can make all the difference can’t it?

Roy will always be in your thoughts but there is life after PSP and I’m sure he would want you to live it to the full.

Very best wishes for the future.

❤️ XxxX

[DenB in reply to NannaB]

Thank you so much and sending all my heart felt wishes to you to......

Love Denise x

[Spiralsparkle]

Oh my that poem hit me right in the chest. It made me cry but in a good way.

What beautiful words.

Your description of the funeral sounds like it was all you had wished for.

Sending you and your loved ones massive hugs during this traumatic time and transition yourself.

Xxx

[DenB in reply to Spiralsparkle]

When I was writing my eulogy for Roy, I was sitting in the garden on a bright day and as I sat there, a butterfly landed on the page...how beautiful was that...... Yesterday a butterfly came and landed onto the flowers that my children and grandchildren had left......

I will lift my head up and go on with Roy in my heart....

Thank you Spriralsparkle

All my best wishes

Denise X proud wife of Roy x

[Spiralsparkle in reply to DenB]

Butterflies are such a beautiful link to spirit.

May many more cross your path x

[DenB in reply to Spiralsparkle]

Such a sweet message

Thank you

D x

[Beads0122]

DenB,

Beautiful.

Bobby

[DenB in reply to Beads0122]

Thank you Bobby,

All my best wishes to you

D X

[Kevin_1]

Oh, D

Such an evocative poem.

I wish you the best for your healing and your ongoing journey.

In sadness

Kevin

[DenB in reply to Kevin_1]

Thank you so much Kevin

and Iwish you the best on your ongoing journey

Denise x

[Wifey4U]

Beautiful poem but I am weeping.........

[DenB in reply to Wifey4U]

❤️

[doglington]

Made me cry as it brought back memories of Chris funeral. It was a very emotional and uplifting day too and has given me lots of comfort.

What a lovely poem you wrote. He sounds a really special man. I hope friends and family are there to support you - and you them.

Good luck in the future.

Love Jean xx

[DenB in reply to doglington]

Thank you so much Jean. X D

[AliBee1]

That is lovely. Thank you for sharing as it meant so much to me. Love AliBeexx

[DenB in reply to AliBee1]

Thank you AliBee xxx

[Marie_14]

Denise

What a beautiful goodbye. I have just shed a year reading it as I suspect most of the lovely people on here will have done.

I am glad Roy had such a lovely day. You really did him proud.

God Bless you and your family.

Marie x

[DenB in reply to Marie_14]

Thank you Marie x

[Nanny857]

Beautiful poem Denise thank you for sharing and I'm so glad the day went well for you. Now I wish you all the very best for the days ahead with Roy in your heart. Take care. Lots of love Nanny857xx

[DenB in reply to Nanny857]

Love to you too Nanny857 xx

[Katiebow]

What a beautiful piece of poetry as an ode to your dear husband, wish I could write words as evocative and tender as that. I'm so pleased that the sun managed to make an appearance after such dismal weather it does help to make the day a happier memory, its bittersweet finally saying goodbye but I felt a strange sense of joy as well as sadness when celebrating Ben's life with friends and family and treasure the memories of that day. I wish you well on the journey that lays ahead and hope that you get lots of love and support along the way.

Sending love

Kate xxx

[DenB in reply to Katiebow]

It truly was a sense of joy and sadness that I felt, with all our wonderful friends and family around me on that day.

It was a good day, something I wasn't expecting it to be, although I wished for it!

I wish you well on your journey too, Kate

Much love

Denise x

[Inparadise]

Lovely poem........that is how I feel about my husband (who has PSP). I could never write with such elegance as you in your tribute to your Roy. God bless you and your family. You are an amazing woman.

Kerry

[DenB]

Thank you dear Kerry

You are very kind!

Much love

Denise x

[Hiking13]

What a beautiful poem and I am so glad you had a good day. I know just what everyone means about the funeral being an uplifting experience, it’s a hard day but it’s nice to celebrate the life of our loved ones. I felt a great sense of peace after Steve’s and was touched by how kind and supportive everyone was and how we all managed to smile and laugh and share the memories. I love the butterfly moment, I feel a similar sense of Steve’s presence when the birds visit my garden as Steve and I made the garden together. When I got home from hospital the night he died an owl hooted for hours and my sister and I were so sure Steve was watching over us. Take good care of yourself as the coming months are tough, it’s nearly 8 months since I lost my wonderful husband and I still really struggle some days but your poem really helped this morning. Thank you and lots of love and hugs to you and everyone on here at what ever stage they are at. Sarahxxx

[DenB in reply to Hiking13]

Oh Sarah, that was so lovely.

I too feel a sense of peace with the kindness shown and felt. I didn't expect to feel so uplifted but that is what the spirit of good people and love can do.....

My wish is for everyone to feel that, as you say, at whatever stage they are at.

Much love to everyone.

Denise xx

[HilsandR]

WOW! Just beautiful, D, and despite weeping into my bowl of fruit and yoghurt your words have transported me into a place of such peace - thank you so much for sharing. Wishing you the continued love and support of family and friends as you negotiate the twists and turns of life without Roy.

With Love,

Hils X

[DenB]

Sorry about the soggy fruit and yoghurt, Hils but thank you for your kind words.

Denise x

[catherine_h]

what a fabulous poem, encompasses the sadness but also the happy memories and even the comforting thought that he is with u in so man yg different ways now. sounds like he made an impact on the world. I hope the strength he sends you know gets you through the next while. xx

[DenB]

Thank you so much Catherine_h,

It isn't what you take from this world but what you give and what you leave behind and that is why Roy will always be here with everyone he has ever known or ever touched. I believe those words more than anything else I have ever believed before....

Denise X