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My Barry passed on 27th November

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The last few months of his life were unbearable for him and all his family and friends.

He was a fighter who eventually succumbed because he wanted to. PSP will never win ...

The past 5 years has brought us closer than ever before, and we shared a richer and deeper love especially in the last year.

Barry's celebration service was attended by 310 people.It was beautiful ... The venue was at the sea edge ( as he so dearly loved the sea )

Our pastor gave a fitting message and read eulogies from friends.

Both of our daughters spoke, our son in law,

my nephew, our granddaughter, and a swimming friend of Barry's.

The eulogy from our grandson who is away in the Antarctic was read.

Our younger granddaughter sang the most beautiful rendition of " here comes the sun "

Our younger grandson also gave the sweetest message.

All Barry's favorite songs were played together with a slide show of times in his life.

The snacks were wonderful and we all sat on the deck to watch the most glorious moon come up. ( super moon which is only once a year ) A wonderful evening for a wonderful man.

Until we meet again my darling.

To all the brave people I have met on this forum,

I wish you strength and love.

Althea πŸ™πŸ’›

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Luv u mom.... he is shining down on us all with that BIG SMILE of his that we haven’t seen for a long time. He wants us all to go on living this wonderful life here on earth until we meet him one in eternity. U were a wife and carer in a million.

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Thank you my darling daughter πŸ¦‹

You have my deepest condolences

Ron

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Thank you Ron πŸ¦‹

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doglington

So sorry, Althea.

He'd earned a good send-off !! It sounds perfect.

I hope you get the same comfort I have from feeling that about Chris.

Its hard suddenly having time and no purpose. There are a number of us who know how it feels and I hope you will stay with us.

Big, big hug, Althea, love from Jean xx

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Althea-c in reply to doglington

Thank you Jean πŸ¦‹

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Bargiepat

So hard to read without shedding tears.......

All love to you and your family,

Patrick.

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catherine_h

It sounds like a beautiful send off althea, encompassing who Barry was and all he appreciated in life. I hope you and your extended family find comfort in the happier memories in the coming weeks,months and a new path winds it way in front of you xx

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Zeberdee

So very sorry for your loss ... my condolences to you and your family. Now take care of yourself. Jxx

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Thank you. Much love πŸ’›

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enjoysalud

The memorial sounds wonderful. You forgot to mention what biblical passages were read. I greatly appreciate you sharing his good-by memorial.

This last Thanksgiving without my son was difficult, but made easier by me not hosting it and flying up to Portland, Oregon. The family was the same, minus my son Jeff, but the setting not being the same was comforting.

Prayers for the year ahead.

love, Margarita, here in Los Angeles, CA

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Althea-c in reply to enjoysalud

2 Corinthians 4 : 16 to 18 said it all,

As you know. Thank you Marge and bless you πŸ™πŸ’›

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Yvonneandgeorge

Sounds lovely, sorry for your loss, Barry is in a better place, smiling down on his lovely family xxxxx

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tlovins

May you find comfort in his peace.

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Bless you πŸ’›

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JR61

Sincere condolences to you and your family. JR61 x

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Thank you. Althea πŸ¦‹

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Marie_14

Dearest Althea I am so sorry to hear of Barry's passing. I know how much you loved him. You will miss him so very much but time will make you remember all the happy times.

Please stay with us. Oddly it not only helps those who need help and support but also those of us who have lost our loved ones.

Hugs and kisses to you Althea. Condolences to all your family. They sound so nice.

Marie x

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Althea-c in reply to Marie_14

Dear Marie, when I am stronger I will keep in contact. You have given so much of yourself to this group and for that I will always be grateful.

Bless you my friend. πŸ’›

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Heady

Oh Althea, I am so sorry that Barry has gone. May he rest in peace, finally free from this evil disease.

I don't know where you live in SA, but every bit of coast line, I ever visited would be a perfect place to hold that final goodbye.

Now is time for you to look after yourself. You need space to recover physically, to get over the caring. Time to get to know who you are now. Dont beat yourself up, because this doesn't happen tomorrow. You gave your life to Barry, caring for him, loving him. No guilt! No regrets! Use those hard learnt caring skills on yourself now.

We are still all here for you. I won't mince words, it's bloody hard, but I am beginning to realise, it is possible to carry on.

Sending big hug and much love

Lots of love

Anne

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Althea-c in reply to Heady

Thank you Anne, I will take your advice. Much love to you. Althea πŸ’›

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aliciamq

CondolencesπŸ₯€

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Bless you and thank you. Althea πŸ’›

Althea

Not sure if I can say any words that will lesson your pain of losing your love.As said, Barry is now free of the dreadful disease.

Time to take care of yourself.

Dee

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Thank you Dee, much love Althea πŸ’›

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Spiralsparkle

That sounds a most beautiful service and celebration of life.

Thinking of you all x

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Thank you. Much love πŸ’›

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Satt2015

My sincerest condolences to you and your family Althea. I’m pleased that Barry is now free of Psp! May he rest in peace. As for you darling, take time now to grieve in your own time x ❀️

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Bless you and thank you πŸ’›

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PUTLAND

Althea so sorry to hear of Barry's passing. Such a horrible disease to endure. Liam passed away on the 15th Nov and we also had a great goodbye. Now we must continue with our beloved husbands. I feel Liam has been guiding and helping me and I talk to him all the time. Xxx take care and to all the brave people suffering from PSP and their Carers I hope you can keep loving and caring. Xx

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1941mary

Dear Althea ,

What a send off ... all the family contributing .. I’m sending you and your family so much love and I’m so sorry for your tremendous loss .

Jude xx

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Katiebow

That sounds like the most wonderful goodbye to the man you loved and who obviously meant a great deal to family and friends. He is now released from the horrors of this awful disease. It's now your time and for the emphasis to be focused on you Althea, I'm sure you will be loved and supported as you take time to grieve and make some kind of sense of your PSP journey with Barry. Take good care of yourself.

Sending love and big hugs

Kate xxxx

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Althea-c in reply to Katiebow

Thank you Kate, all my love and good wishes to you. πŸ¦‹

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Kevin_1

Dear Althea

Your post brought a tear to my eye.

Such a wonderful send off and so much love.

I wish you the strength you need until you both meet again.

Warmly

Kevin

xx

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JantheNana

Althea I have followed your posts for some time now and your way with words has been a blessing to me!I have prayed for you many times and will continue to do so! Janet

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Althea-c in reply to JantheNana

Thank you Janet, much love to you. πŸ™

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sarahb01

My heart breaks for you at this time! I'm truly Grateful that you're precious one is free from this horrible disease!!

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Thank you Sarah. πŸ’›

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Duffers

Hello althea. The celebration of Barry's life sounded wonderful. May it give you comfort when you think back on it in times to come. God bless and keep you all strong.

Marie

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Althea-c in reply to Duffers

Thank you Marie,

Only saw your message now.

πŸ’›

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41273416a

I am so sorry for you all. The service sounds lovely. Thank God the disease is over for him. Love, Mary B.

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Thank you Marie. πŸ’›

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GonnaMissDaddy

I'm very sorry for your loss. May your dear husband rest in peace and may you find peace here on Earth.

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Thank you. πŸ’›

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EricaE

Dearest Althea - I am so very sorry to hear that your Barry has gone. I wish you strength as you face a new chapter in your life and hope you find comfort in happy memories of your life together. My sincere condolences. X

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Thank you Erica πŸ’›

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