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On Monday, October 2, my wonderful husband was freed from PSP. Mike was the love of my life, and although we only had five years together, I wouldn't have missed it for anything. PSP and all. Love and prayers to all.

Chris

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easterncedar

Dear Chris, I am so sorry. There is never enough time to be with the one you love, but that was way too little. Such a loss is a very hard thing to live through - - rather "with"; I don't think most of us ever get through such loss, we merely learn to survive it. Still, I feel the same as you: I wouldn't have missed the love I shared with my wonderful man for anything.

My deepest sympathy. Hold on, rest, be kind to yourself now, and know there are people here who care for you.

Love, Sarah

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Flemingc in reply to easterncedar

Thank you, Sarah. Love to you, too.

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Yvonneandgeorge in reply to Flemingc

Chris so sorry to hear this sad news, but at least he is away from this horrible illness, so sad. Yvonne xxxx

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Jafarrar in reply to easterncedar

So sorry to hear this it is so very hard. We want peace for them but we don't want to say good by may the peace of God be with you now. We never get over the loss we just learn to take one step at a time. My husband is taking a down turn getting much harder to care for and he says he wants to die. I can only take one step at a time now too I think this is why God tells us not to worry about yesterday because it is gone and do not worry about tomorrow because it is not promised but live for today. God Bless us All fighting this battle.Love You Jenny

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Marie_14

Chris I am so very sorry that your husband has died. Five years together is nothing in the scheme of things? How very sad that you didn't have many years of happy and healthy life together. Of course you are lost now. You will find a way through though. We really don't have much option do we? The road ahead is a hard one though. You will miss Mike more than words can say. However go on we must? Take care of yourself.

My condolences to you and prayers too.

Marie x

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Heady

Hi Chris, so sorry to hear that Mike has lost his battle with PSP. May he rest in peace, finally free from this evil disease.

Lots of love

Anne

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Satt2015

My sincerest condolences Chris. Make Mike now rest in peace x

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Trillo in reply to Satt2015

Hi Amanda, how is your dad and how r U and your mum ,c

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Satt2015 in reply to Trillo

Hi trillo, I’ve messaged you x

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Katiebow

So sorry to hear your sad news Chris, five years together is no time at all but I'm sure you don't regret one minute of it. Take good care of yourself.

Love Kate xxx

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doglington

So sorry for your loss. Glad you had the happy memories from Florida !

Love, Jean xx

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enjoysalud

I am so sorry. I do celebrate that whatever suffering he endured is gone and that he's not here to get progressively worst. I lost my son five months ago today (May 4, 2017). A GRIEF group was helpful for me. One thing I learned was that however you mourn, it is the "right way"................grief is as different as the people experiencing it.

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Zeberdee

My sincere condolences I am so sad for you jx

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Spiralsparkle

Sending you much love xxx

We all know PSP has robs us of our loved one and do know no words get make your heart heal,only time.

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

Dee

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PSP-help

I'm so sorry. I don't know what else to say. Sending lot of strength your way.

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Trillo

I'm so sorry for your loss. RIP. No more suffering from PSP.

My sincerest condolences Chris. No more suffering from PSP.

Hugs and courage.

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sasmock

I'm so very sorry for your loss x

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Sarah1972

So sorry for your loss Chris, please take comfort in knowing you both got 5 years to share your love, and the hard work you put in to make sure he was not alone. My thoughts and deepest sympathies are with you. Please look after yourself now and continue to make your husband proud. Much love

Sarah xx

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vlh4444

I am so sorry for your loss. It is such a sad time for you and I send you all good wishes. My husband died exactly a year ago on Monday evening and it has been a difficult year. I'm beginning to feel more positive now and I hope you will be able to too as time goes on.

Love Vicki x

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Althea-c

Dear Chris,

My heartfelt condolences.

Mourn deeply my dear ...

At last your darling Mike is at peace.

Much love

Althea

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Elaine1969

So sorry xx

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laila123

so sorry for your loss

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homesupport223

My heartfelt condolences. So sorry for your loss

Henry

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NHGrace

Congratulations on your 5 years with Mike. It's not about how long, but how well/much you loved one another. Some people never find that level of connection and I'm sure he was as lucky to have you as you were him. Be kind to yourself.

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Tippyleaf

So sorry for your loss, be kind to yourself during this difficult tim

Love Tippy

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johns65

So sorry for your loss Chris. His struggle is over and PSP is gone, but your good memories of you together will live on in your heart forever. Hugs from Minnesota. Joyce

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daddyt

I'm so very sorry for your loss... keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Tim x

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JantheNana

I am heartbroken for you as well.Being just 3 months into my own loss,I definitely know what you are experiencing.Take care of yourself,try to rest and relax,Blessings,Janet

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Tttp

Dear Chris so so sorry about your hubby, no more suffering with this terrible desease. Please take care of your self. Many hugs. Netti

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Debbieann

My thoughts are with you, PSP took my husband in January, so don't keep up with the posts so often

Love Debbie xxx

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Duffers

Dear chris. So sorry for your sad loss. Rest in peace Mike.

Marie

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Ratcliffe

I'm so sorry to hear you've lost your partner. Please take care of yourself at this difficult time and remember the good times.

Make sure Mike has a good send off, he deserves it.

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2660Carol

Chris Im so sorry for your loss of Mike Ben was my husband of 45 years this April he died Jan 29th 2017 we didn't make it to 45 years but we had a very happy marriage straight up to the end He died with PSP a terrible disease he got it 60 years old and died 68 years old slowly taking his dignity of life away from him his disease was misdiagoised with Dementia and Parkinson 3 months before he passed PSP was diagoised Thank the Lord he didn't go into advanced stages of PSP he passed at home with surrounding Family around him I can still see his last breath in my thoughts the last 10 months I had to place him in a Nursing Home but I was allowed to bring him home the last month of his life so the 7 years before when he came down with this disease I took care of him at home many falls many agitations many swallowing issues bowels and cather issues but now in heaven he is free of this terrible disease that affected us both me mental and emotionally he was my Sweetheart Love Carol2660

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Flemingc in reply to 2660Carol

Thank you, Carol. I’m glad Ben was able to spend that time at home with you.

Hugs,

Chris

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2660Carol

So sorry for your loss of Mike time will go on we will be left with memories of our loved ones I don't know about you but do you get any signs of Mike around you it makes me feel good knowing Ben is with me to many coincidences of signs of him like cardinal birds butterflies radio changing or stop playing and especially visitation in dreams I talk to him sing to him and dance around I tell him at nights to come into my dreams because I miss him dearly it works especially when time is stressful they hear us Im sorry but Im expressing my feelings about death and thereafter keep in touch Carol2660 if you want my email to talk let me know

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Flemingc in reply to 2660Carol

Thanks, Carol. I do believe he’s near me. Lots of “coincidences”. I miss him sonmuch and the sense that his spirit is close is a comfort.

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2660Carol

Chris they say we go through stages of grieve I believe that at first I would smell his clothes then I would look at pictures of us when we were young then I carry around a picture of Ben in the car or wherever I go my purse I talk a lot to him I was down my sister Marion cottage with my other cousins and we were listening to music the disk shut off in the middle of song we all knew it was Ben with us because as a group we always would go down to her cottage and get together Ben too He couldn't even walk good but we got him there My sister Marion latter after I left to go home played the same disk she said It played all the way through Ben wanted us to know he was with us there Im sorry Im ranting off on everything this is part of the acceptance you go through Last nite I dreamed Ben and I broke up we dated since the age of 15 I tried to find him couldn't then my right mind said he is dead I didn't like that feeling of us breaking up we were highschool sweethearts we married at 22 then 45 years latter all memories thanks for listening Carol 2660

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