My guy is still is on the decline but we are keeping our head above water. Lost a brother in law on September 5 and my baby brother on the 16.sister in law wants to do a surprise birthday for my husband and a not so much surprised 34th wedding anniversary,shouldn't complain but I know it's a lot of work for me and then they leave me for the clean up..
Again I can do this
Venting thanks for reading
Dee
You just are worn out and I think you should let your sister in law know that so much has gone on and if she wants to throw a party that would be good BUT the set up and break down of the party she will need to do. See what she will say. Your fisically and emotionally drained. I know where your coming from years ago I wanted to have a 30ith birthday party for my husband and I asked my mother in law if I could have it at her house. Now I would've done everything oh yeh I did but she got involved and she came out and told my husband her son that she planned the whole thing. At that point I gave in. You know I don't know why I told you that oh yea don't let your sister in law make you clean up you already have your hand ful carrying for your husband.
Be strong you can do this.
Throw the party! It will do YOU good. It's surprising how much energy you can raise, if its for something you want and not PSP related. I had quite a few parties, during Steve's journey. One, a week before he died. The key is keep them relatively small, food simple. Disposable plates and anything you can get away with. Also, make sure a few stay over and before you all go to bed, clear up. If you start, people do enjoy in.
To have laughter and fun in your home, will bring joy to both of your hearts. There is nothing like having a night off from PSP! Go for it and ENJOY!
Lots of love
Anne
I agree with Anne, tell people before that you need help with cleaning up after, good idea of Anne getting people to stay. It is our 50 wedding Anniversary, George wants a party 🎉 which will get paper plates, plastic knives and forks, except all the help offered to me. You could even do a hog roast, they set it all up for you. Have a lovely day and enjoy it, askfor help!!!!!! Yvonne xxxx
I have been dreading putting something together for our 50th!!!!
Agree. This is a time when you don't need to prove anything about hosting skills. Everyone will be eager to support and want to see you both happy.
Just enjoy !!!
love, Jean xx
I agree with the tell her to do it all if she wants to do it. Bring the food and supplies then clean it up after. You and your husband will be guests. No one can go to a party they throw. You would be too busy working as the host. As guests you both could enjoy the company for a few hours.
Oh dear, its really NOT been a good September....I am sorry. And about your anniversary. Remember, it's YOUR anniversary....you don't have to please anyone else but you and your hubby! But if you want to have one , guests must bring a dish if they want to attend. That may reduce the cooking for you....and you can get volunteers to help clean up.....
I just read Headys post and I have to say , I do agree...
make sure to keep it simple and have help...and then you can have some fun, away from PSP for a minute!
AVB
Thanks all,was feeling little sorry for myself.
Dee
Hi Dee
You have had a lot thrown at you.
I agree with all of the above posters!
Maybe it is not just feeling sorry for yourself.
I sometimes feel low energy and everything seems like a mountain to climb.
Caring can be terribly draining physically and emotionally. But, you know that.
Wishing you the very best
Warmly
Kevin
When it was Chris' birthday last year I rented a house , provided drink and basics and everyone brought a contribution . Every one washed and cleared up and we had a wonderful time . Those who wanted could sleep over.
Least work I've ever done !!!!
Jean xx
Eyes closed - so frustrating!
So many obstacles with PSP 
Relaxed and ready to continue
PSP Symposium, London, Wednesday 28 September, 2011
