Should I be pleased!

[Debbieann]

He said if I don't like it why don't I leave! Bloody good idea, why didn't I think of that!!

Debbie xxx

[honjen43]

Agree with you! How many times have we all yelled "Stop the world; I want to get off!" But we would all want to be sure we could get back on!

Have you got someone who could stay with him for just an hour? Then you should go for a brisk walk and get the fuming out of your mind!

You need and deserve a break! And you need help and a place to get it, or other people to talk to! Get those plans for assistance started. Have a wine or a coffee or chocolate or whatever. Then take a few deep breaths, and go back calmly to your man and give him a hug, and ask if now could be the time to talk!!!

We have all been there!! This a good place to find some answers and to rage when you have to!

God give you strength!

Hugs

Jen xxx

[vlh4444]

Sending hugs and sympathy 🌸🍫❤️. You know he does appreciate you really, it's just his muddled brain won't let him express it properly.

V x

[Heady]

Oh Debbie, we have all been there! But then, how times before PSP, has this sentence been carelessly thrown out? I know that was always S's closing line to a row.

Let's face living with a man is one of the hardest things we women do, add PSP into the frame and we have no chance. Personally, when S and I could still throw words around, I regularly gave him my thoughts, still do, it's brilliant, he can't bite back. It never was a crime to shout at your husband, it still isn't.

So I would advise F, which side his bread is buttered, very quietly and calmly. That should frighten him enough into silence and maybe(!!!!) a bit of appreciation. 🛫🐷🐷🐷🐷🐷🛬

Lots of love

Heady

[Georgepa in reply to Heady]

Whoa !!! I am not having any of that Heady , we chaps are so easy to live with ,tolerant unselfish ,unassuming ,brave in the face of adversity,long suffering and silent when ill .Gosh we are a positive delight to have as a partner .Now women can be a bit tricky........

[Heady in reply to Georgepa]

OK, I will accept, that I can be, occasionally, a little bit trying, but only when S stops showing the good virtues you are claiming!!!

Lots of love

Heady

[doglington in reply to Heady]

Irritatingly Chris IS patient and stoical now. He never was. He is also self-centred. He never was.

So all the rules have changed. I do miss the verbal fencing. [ Others called it bickering !]

Everything has changed.

Lots of love, Jean x

[jillannf6 in reply to doglington]

i agree jean,

;lolkjill

[Dizz58 in reply to Georgepa]

My mum's certainly bl***y tricky Georgepa

[pzagy in reply to Georgepa]

Georgepa, spoken like a true male, but remember the 'man cold' theory. Sorry I had to. In reality men are easy to live with, if they get what they want lol. I have been together for 26 years and many spats, arguments and 'why don't you just leave' moments.

I think it made us stronger, now that we are facing CBD with his mom we are facing this together, some things he cannot face and I take the them on full force.

Heady said it best, you cant stop the comaraderie between husband and wife just becasue one is not well, you have the carry on and 'think' things are the same even though they are not. Treating them with kid gloves I think will make them feel incompitent. Argue away Heady then give him a big ole kiss to make things better

[Heady in reply to pzagy]

At the moment, all he is going to get is a trip to the supermarket, which I may just forget I took him!!! I bet some communication would be back, very quickly.

Lots of love

Heady

[pzagy in reply to Heady]

your the best Heady, chin up

[Heady in reply to pzagy]

I'll try. Thank you

Lots of love

Heady

[Georgepa in reply to Heady]

Feeling slightly out numbered here .But I guess its the lot of us poor,long suffering (in silence) blokes .

[jillannf6 in reply to Georgepa]

yes but georgepa u r on the site and are v helpful unlike my partner who wlll not even come on the site like i do

lol jill

xxxxx

[Escada29]

Hi Debbie I have been in turmoil too feeling like I just want to leave I dont want to be here and I dont want to take PSP into 2017 its been going on for far too long and Ive had enough, love him as I do I have just had enough xx

[Marie_14 in reply to Escada29]

Escada

It is so hard all of this. I know how you feel. However if anything happens to my husband I will just crumble...again! I love him to bits and wish with all my heart I could do more for him. Wish I could find that magic wand but know there is none. That is one of the hardest things to bear. Hugs to you.

Marie x

[Katiebow]

Dear Debbie, PSP and the consequences make you so weary, physically and emotionally. I guess now you aren't getting a break when F went to the hospice day care has impacted on you massively. Any news of other support to let you have a break otherwise you will break yourself. I feel under pressure at the mo knowing Christmas is round the corner and I've done nothing yet, have to buy online but can't work the enthusiasm to research and purchase, just an extra pressure I feel I can do without. I expect that you are feeling pretty much the same and the knowledge that things aren't going to get better doesn't help. F is just venting his frustration and you are always going to bear the brunt of that, he is probably scared that you will leave him.

I don't think there is any easy answer to this but you have to try to put your sensible hat on, as Heady said in a normal relationship you have your moments but generally are able to work through your problems, it's different now and that makes it much harder.

Sending a big fat hug and try to hang on in there Debbie,

Love Kate xx

[easterncedar in reply to Katiebow]

i feel the same about Christmas. I know most folks won't be too disappointed if I fail - they will understand - but there are things I need to do for my guy, and I am stretched to the limit as far as time goes.

[Julieandrog]

Hi Deb

Is there any chance you can get a break?

With loads of empathy

Julie x

[doglington]

I'm tempted sometimes !!!

Another time he suggested I get a divorce so I can get on with my life !!

If only it was that simple.

Big hug to you, Debbie xxx

[daddyt]

I hope that I never get to the point where I'm impossible patient. I'm pretty sure it's the disease talking... stay strong. xx

[Marie_14]

Debbie

Big hug to you. I haven't had that one as he is just so scared. He depends on me to the point I think I will go mad. He's always been like that though. As Heady said couples always have rows. So at least your row is understandable. It's just PSP makes you feel bad for having a go back, or even thinking of it. Speaking as one who really lost the plot the other day. Haven't had a chance to apologise to him yet! That has been really difficult. We all go through hell with this one way or another?

Give him a hug and tell him you love him. Love tends to heal most hurts?

Marie x

[gypsywoman1947]

Oh I love it !!! Yes why didn't you think of it. Thank the Lord for this site to vent xxxx

[Yvonneandgeorge]

Debbie chin up, PSP has taken everything away from him, I am sure he doesn't mean it, they have no empathy, it's hard when you are there main career, by deep down I am sure they appreciate what we all do. George has said I know you want to divorce me, sometimes he can be really horrible, I end up shouting, then feel bad I shouted at him. Last few days he has been so miserable, doesn't want to talk, so I have just got on and done what I have to, I think he is fed up with all that is going on, and he just doesn't want to be here anymore, what have they got to look forward too? Xxxxx big hug coming your way, remember Debbie he does not mean it xxxxxcx

[jillannf6]

oi agree with wha aha sheen siad

lol jill