Today we had a carer here for 4 hours so mum and I went food shopping, no biggie, mum and I rarely get a chance to go out together, we used too regularly 😢
Anyway I explained to dad the carer would be here, he agreed he'd be safe, she's a lovely lady! I also explained we would be going food shopping but wouldn't be too long!
Dad was obviously not happy, but I truly believe mum and I need some time whether it be together or just doing jobs indoors that we do not usually have time for!
We were back within 2 hours and dad looked quite sad, but not being horrible, no sadder than before this was mentioned this morning
The result being mum feels guilty for going out and now she feels sad which makes me sad!
I appreciate the whole situation is shit but I also think that we need the 2 seperate 4 hour breaks each week! Or am I being mean?
We are doing everything within our power to keep Dad at home and have no intention of that changing but I do truly truly believe that mum and I need some time to do normal things including food shopping, lunch, visit friends or simply go upstairs and watch a film or snooze!
As soon as we wake up, so it all begins again, medications, food, washing, washing up, more washing and then more washing, carers, district nurses, hospice nurse blah blah blah and yes we are both continually knackered!!
I don't mean to moan because I dearly appreciate its a million trillion times worse for dad, but I still need and want mum n me to have a little bit of 'normal time'!
How do I help mums guilt?