can psp lead a person to end a relationship? - PSP Association

PSP Association

9,232 members11,334 posts

can psp lead a person to end a relationship?

13 Replies

my husband has psp and he decided to end our marriage & go back to his family abroad? we also have a 7 mth old baby? im confused and worried?its been over 6 mths, please help? thanks!

13 Replies
ray-wiffen-1958 profile image
ray-wiffen-1958

hi smile,

sorry to here of your marriage brakeing up because of psp

ive got cbd and it dose put a strain on your marriage so perhaps

he thinks you will be better off with out haveing to look after him

and spend more time with your baby, but no matter how bad things

get with this illness i would never ever walk out on my family, i dont

know about other people with this illness but it does affect how you

perform in the bed room i know it does me and it makes me feel

inaddequit and it makes you feel that you have failed in your dutys

as a man, i do hope every thing gets sorted for you and you take

care,

kind regards

ray

in reply to ray-wiffen-1958

hi ray, thankyou very much for taking the time & unloading the confusion and worry i was having to live with. your reply has made me feel much better and given me hope and i feel i shouldnt blame myself for whats happened.im sorry to hear about you but at the same time im also very proud of the way you made me understand & knowing how strong you are to let me know abt yr condition and how to deal with it.i hope the best for you and plz dont feel that youve failed because havin true love for each other and understanding & helping each other thru is wat matters.so dnt wory.thank you.take care.

kindest regards, smile*

jillannf6 profile image
jillannf6

hi

i am 65

i\actually decided to divorce my husband of 33yrs b4 diagnosisi

- reckless or what ?

i possibly wa s in te earlier stages of psp but do not eally know 4 sure

but i am happier now than when i wa married and we r friends now

i was diagnosed dec 2010 and am still here

so iit may be the slow type of psp

but u r os young if you have a baby = how old is your husband?

love jill

in reply to jillannf6

hi jill, thanks alot for your reply,sorry to hear about you but im happy to hear you are happier now and still friends,hope you have more years of happiness!

my husband is 52 and its been only 3 years of us together but il cherish those years forever hopefully because he made me so happy and gv us a lovely child who is all a duplicate of him.he was a pillar of strength for me and thats whats played a part in keeping me going. thanks & take care.

all the best!

smile*

Kathy profile image
Kathy

I'm so sorry to hear of the troubles you are having. It must be so difficult for you.

PSP does lead to personality changes so it may be something to do with that. I also think Ray might be right - maybe your husband feels you have enough to cope with looking after a young baby and he doesn't want to add to your burden - or maybe he doesn't want his baby to grow up watching him deteriorate? Have you had any contact with him, at all? Would he consider going to counselling with you? Even if he won't come you can see a counsellor by yourself and it might help you come to terms with the situation.

I do hope things work out for you

Good luck

love

Kathy xxx

in reply to Kathy

hi kathy, thankyou for yr kind reply,yes it has been difficult but to gt lovely replies from u & others on this site makes alot of difference |& makes you feel tht you r nt alone in this and ther r people out there who understand u as many dont who r around u. i did feel that he may have thought good for me &| my little one bt i miss him and want to be with him thru this time too.i hv tried to contact hm a couple of times bt he wnt tell me anything more thn its fine & im coping.thank you so much & take care.thanks for the good luck and well wishing too frm yrslf and others on this site.

lol.smile*

nightmare1 profile image
nightmare1

hi steve has just been diagnosed dec 2011 and we got married in july 2010 steve has been ill since about 18months i know he has said to me before about having another relationship as i know the bedroom dept worries him i try to reassure him that he is the only man in the world that i want and need at the moment he is in hospital and has been since 17th dec i miss him loads i do get to see him everyday but its hard to come home to an empty house good luck xx

in reply to nightmare1

hi! thankyou so much and im very sorry to hear about you, i thought that i had nt seen many years with my hubby bt i feel so sorry for you that you have gone thru so much and still gt bk 2 me with so much courage. but i am very happy and proud of u tht you r standing by yr man and he matters the most 2u.hope more people like you in the world show their love towards others with this condition bcos it cn b vry difficult bt rewarding.well done and many years of happiness.i cn understand yr missin him and hope u all the best.dnt wory and yr doing a really good job, keep smiling & good luck to u2!

lol.smile*

salem16 profile image
salem16 in reply to nightmare1

I lived 3 years on my own difficult yes. After he died it worse like starting over.

Peter3 profile image
Peter3

Hello Smile,

So sorry to hear about your marriage and current situation. Just over two years ago I was seriously considering leaving my husband because our relationship had become so poor. Whilst my husband asked me not to leave on several occasions he made no effort to improve our relationship. It was soon after this it became obvious he had a problem with his health. Finally he was diagnosed with psp. Psp certainly causes personality change and I think this is one of the very first symptom he had.

Well we are still together but our lives have changed almost beyond recognition. I am now a carer and have to remind myself I am also still his wife.

I do hope you receive help and support during this very difficult time for you.

Peter3 (Mary)

in reply to Peter3

hi mary,thank you so much and hope the best for you both.thanks for understanding the difficult times we go thru bt thankfully we r nt alone and wat makes me happy and strong is knowing people and sharing our feelings with others who understand this disease and r goin thru similar situations bt all is nt lost and hopefully these difficulties will ease and dnt 4gt tht there r people out thr who care & want to help and r thinkin of u.

lol with a big hug.many good & happy days 2 cm so dnt wory and stay happy cos he's lucky to hv someone like u.

smile*

thanks to all of u & 4yr kind lovely wonderful replies & advices.

good luck & best wishes!thanks 4 being there & u truly r my hope.take care...

love smile*

Peter3 profile image
Peter3

Hi Smile,

Thank you for your kind comments. I don't always feel kind towards my husband, especially when we are having one of those psp days!

Take care,

Love

Mary

You may also like...

PSP takes another wonderful person

marathon next Sunday for PSP, he's never ran before, but is now fully inspired, I have been invited...

The end of my father's PSP journey.

expected the end to be. Thank you to everyone on this site for the support and information that...

PSP can be easily managed.

it would dry overnight and I have just brought it all back in as it has started to rain. Trivial I...

Can PSP be contracted?

I’m wondering if spouses can contract PSP from one another? Never see anything about it. Just...

Kathy is near the end of her PSP journey

October last. year and has deteriorated quickly.When the doctor told me she has weeks to live ,hit...