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WHAT IN HELL IS HAPPENING TO ME, IS THIS NORMAL!

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hi all, had prostate removed 5 years ago come this july, been a nightmare, no errections, went through hell with feeling not human, miss sex and sexual relief, masturbating, hard work and not worth the effort, after 6months missed errections and started to stare at mens trousers as they walked passed me and no I have never been gay or bi-sexual.... until now I might add. as time moved on I became emotional was always a hard nut to crack before, then tears, then feelings of wanting to touch another man cock, then actually touching and playing and eventually being used and abused too, now I am addicted to cock and long to be barebacked, I must say that this oppertion completely changed me altogether, I no longer find women attractive and certainly they cant give me what a man can, and that I am totally a botom now. would not live with a guy though or have a guy as a partner to go out with, as I am still married and like the secret life. One thing that I cant understand though and that is that my nipples and breast area has started to get large even though I am not on any tablets. I have no idea as to why or does the body change?? but recon I am in for the ride until the end of the journy. any thoughts on that would be helpful.

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Tall_Allen

None of those changes have anything to do with your prostatectomy 5 years ago, if you recovered erectile function afterwards. However, you should see your doctor about getting a full hormonal work-up (enlarged breasts and low libido may indicate a testosterone/estrogen imbalance), and to check out your heart and blood sugar. The leading causes of erectile dysfunction are cardiovascular disease and diabetes.

Your attractions and desires are very normal and are not at all pathological, but you may want to talk to a psychotherapist to help you get more comfortable with your feelings.

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LoganMA in reply to Tall_Allen

You give very intelligent answers. Like the way you think. Your medical knowledge is excellent also. But that's the first thing that popped into my head too regarding him saying he began to look at men. Nothing that I can think of prostate wise or lack of prostate wise would account for that. The rest, I wouldn't have had the knowledge to comment on. Good source of information and I commend you for it.

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jimreilly

You're not the first man to discover such capabilities later in life, surgery or no surgery. My guess would be that the capacity was always there, but was pretty well hidden even from yourself. And you're enjoying the sex you can have, so enjoy it! As far as the physical changes, I'd get them checked out.

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billy1950

interesting ID name...i am not sure if you are close to a minister and/or spiritual person. However, i would think this (“change” in sexual desire) would be quite a challenge for you especially in being married.

I don’t believe What is or isn’t “normal” should be a concern as much as how you want to move forward. Being a bottom without a partner could be worrisome considering who to trust. Remember there is still HIV out there...(don’t want to bring anything back to the wife). I believe in the end (no pun intended), honesty is key in having a peace of mind...

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