7 years clear and counting

[Roverp6]

Hi everybody , I had prostrate cancer and 7 years on I’m health but still single ...just wonder if any others have found it hard to meet a new partner ( if we are lucky) having had cancer ...may be I’m just unlucky I have had lots of negative response ....may be that the UK guys !!

[TimCo]

Am in a similar place and am open to meeting someone special.

[jimreilly]

yes hard, but also hard because I'm 75---albeit an active 75, not retired and physically in pretty good shape (in fact just impressed the hell out of the PT's by getting back in shape so quickly after a broken leg in an accident)--haven't given up yet, though

[andrewc775]

Same here - not much of a selling point is it?!

[Roverp6 in reply to andrewc775]

Hello ..it’s certainly a turn of ...

[Jaffa_2001]

Hello,

My LTR went tits-up as a result of my post operative/radiation changes, with erection and leaking problems. That put me in a different place mentally and I have stayed there since really.

I live just outside the City of Brighton, England where there is a vibrant gay community and it is easy to meet other guys. I have had a few relationships and dread the need to talk about little blue pills and leaky orgasms, very few guys have stayed to find out about the real me; those who take it on board eventually realise that it is just another element to our sex life. Strangely I seem to have more problems coming to terms with it in bed than they do, but I suppose if you meet someone who loves you then it is easier for them.

However many have just walked off and some been extremely inconsiderate of my feelings and that damages my self-confidence immensely.

Luckily I have some amazing gay friends who although not totally aware of all my physical imperfections know how much it affects me mentally and give me full support.

Brian.

[tr305 in reply to Jaffa_2001]

What do you mean by "leaky orgasm"?

[Jaffa_2001 in reply to tr305]

After I had radiation I started to produce a little pee (climacturia) when cumming and have to admit I do now find that I can sometimes shoot a stream of it if my orgasm is intense. Strangely I really like seeing a liquid shoot out of the end of my dick albeit a poor substitute for the thicker milky stuff! But I find my orgasm more satisfying when I do..........not too good if I am getting a blow job and he is not ready.

[av-guy in reply to Jaffa_2001]

i had mine out in the UK last year leaking but hopefully getting better. be good as you said to find something in the UK for guys who cant cum externally,

James

[pjd55d]

Hi - all of you

so glad to see this because that is where I am - 2 1/2 years on Lupron - - see posts about side effects on this site ... being single seems to add an extra level to the negative side effects - more especially when there had been some one - my amazing relationship was in it's 26th year. I do not understand doing that to someone you say that you love. - and with no explanation. Just gone.

So here is my question:

when meeting someone - dating site - introduction - and there appears to be interest when do you say something about it. Right away ? - when things seem to be moving in a positive direction. I find myself looking at men sexually - just can't seem to stop going there - even though there is no dick response - the brain goes where it goes. I also have a good friend/buddy who does not know about the cancer - who is flirting pretty heavily with me ... need to have a chat soon.

hope you all - and other - keep weighing in on this topic

BTW Roverp6 - is that your boat in the pic ? I would go for a ride with you in that

wink wink - nudge nudge

best to all

P

[Jaffa_2001 in reply to pjd55d]

Hi PJD

I see very little point in putting myself through the agony of “spilling the beans” before I am confident that the guy is going to be, at the very least, sympathetic to my concerns and able to deal with the prospect of having to wait for my dick to respond.

I have no issue with waiting for it to start twitching, my problem lies with the fact that when I am getting aroused my dick seems to get confused about what’s happening and leaks at the thought of sex! I hate it and struggle to control that element and that adds to the ED problem.

The timing of the “talk” is a real worry, it clouds my thinking, is always at the back of my mind and makes me behave a bit strangely at times; especially when I am being chatted up and he is getting turned on. Being a “Top” too makes is doubly difficult.

I am not the guy I was before the cancer and this element of my lifestyle is a real pain that only another sufferer whether gay or straight would understand.

B.

[pjd55d in reply to Jaffa_2001]

yep

right now I am finding that interacting here and other support areas helps - knowing that others " get it " - not feeling so alone or cast off

as for leaking - " so what " turn it into part of the play but Water Sports has been part of my play agenda long before all of this started

[Terp2017]

Congratulations on 7 yrs.

[TucsonCowboy]

I have surgery in June of 2013 and am cancer free. About 3 yrs my partner was told he had prostate cancer. At present, he is on ADT and has zero interest is sex. Guess I should be glad I am cancer free.

[Kislig1961]

Hey there , I have been on Lupton 3years now not much interest in sex but it would be nice to have some sort of relationship it just seems to much for people to understand or wrap their head around that sex may not be the focus of affection , I could go on but you are not alone

[Roverp6]

Evening , thanks for your message sorry for my late reply ...hope your well ...I have had the all clear for 3 years ..but it’s hard enough to meet the right person but even harder since having cancer ..so I just carry on as they say ..I’m not on the gay scene but have a nice group of friends .

Nick 😊