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Tomorrow I go for my robotic surgery. Feeling scared and anxious but feeling positive about the results. Just found this site and some posts scare me how they all regret the surgery. Anyone have encouraging results to help me.

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erjlg3

I've heard robotic surgery is good. If you've decided that you need this....try not to think about the ifs. You need positive thoughts. My best wishes for you.

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TravelJohn

I for one am very positive about it even though the surgery is fresh on my mind since it was only 12 days ago. My main focus was on being cancer free since Iost my Mother and brother to cancer and saw the horrible quality of life they endured for a long time. Of course, I hope for continence and erections going forward but that is secondary compared to being cancer free in my opinion. Good luck tomorrow and stay positive. It really helps. I also sent you a short private email about some tips for you to consider in your recovery. My best, John

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Redsox66 in reply to TravelJohn

Thank you. I'm being positive

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TucsonCowboy

Greetings Redsox66,

I had the DiVinci surgery three years ago this past June. My Gleason numbers were all 7 (4 then 3) and I was stage T2C. I am now cancer free.

Arrived at the hospital and everything was so easy!! I remember they gave me a IV and the next I remember I was up in my room. I was 63 yrs ago at the time and had not had any surgery since I was 13. Please believe me when I say there is no reason to be scared or anxious. You will be fine.

My surgery began at 11am, was back to my room by 6pm, was up in a chair in the room by midnite and was walking the hall at 4am. Went home the next day. I had a catheter for about 2 weeks or less. Had my Partner to help me at home. Worn a nite shirt around the house and carried the catheter bag in a plastic bucket. Had alot of soups, liquids and easy to prepare foods at home.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers tonite and tomorrow.

TucsonCowboy

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Tall_Allen

Best of luck. As long as you did due diligence; i.e., met with all the specialists you could who could reasonably treat you, you needn't fear regrets later. The only guys I run into who suffer from treatment regret are the ones who just saw a urologist and took his word about all treatments and side effects.

It's an anxious time, but make sure you have plenty of support around you and you will be fine. I almost cancelled my surgery a few times, but very glad I went ahead now. I got good margins and no lymph activity, so pretty much cancer free. I'm 99% continent, and still don't know about erections (surgery 3 weeks ago), but everything is great, even though my recovery was so much slower than normal. Positive attitude is the best approach. Take care!

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tvankirk

I'm having my surgery on Thursday and I'm having the same concerns as to if I've made the right choice....

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Iam4allseasons in reply to tvankirk

You have, good luck with your surgery,

Wish you all the best .

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sps333 in reply to tvankirk

I'm debating whether to buy a new pump for my washer or to buy another washer. Which will be the right choice? The stakes with my washer are admittedly much lower (worst case: laundromat) than with PCa (worst case: unpleasant early death), but all we can do is to make the best decisions we can given the facts at hand. Getting those screws out for the old pump may require a DaVinci robot.

For me, the clear decision was to have the surgery. I hope you have a smooth procedure, fierce erections, and the urinary ability of . . . whatever animal is the very best at peeing only when it wants to. I wonder if that's an oryx or maybe a llama. And the erections? Definitely my grandmother's long deceased pekingese.

Follow instructions. And keep us apprised of your progress.

p.s. I'm going to try the new washer pump. I'm going out at noon to get one today. Cleanliness is next to godliness. Tide and time wait for no man. And be of good Cheer.

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dale112 in reply to tvankirk

Tvankirk,

First, best of luck on your surgery. I had my surgery 6 years ago, open radical prostatectomy. My only thought was to have the cancer removed. I do not regret having my prostate removed. Of course I don't like the side effects that came with it the removal of my prostate. Incontinence and no erections, but the alternative slow death. Six years ago, at the age of 57, I did not want to think of trying to fight cancer to live. As for me, after much struggles with incontinence and erections, I had an artificial urinary specter implant, and then later a penile implant. The decisions were the best for me, as I know that the decisions that you have made are the best for you. Again, best of luck with your surgery.

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Iam4allseasons

Good luck with your surgery, chin up!

Cancer09 profile image
Cancer09

My husband had the robotic in 09 No recovery issues ...no regrets

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jimreilly

good luck with the surgery!--yes, many people have regrets, some of them fierce--but many men are also cancer free from the surgery--in my case although I'm not "happy" with the side effects, I can't exactly say I regret my choice, I made it with the best info I had, and so be it; life isn't black and white, and I'm somewhere in the gray area as far as my sexual performance, etc. ; but I'm alive--again, I hope things go well!

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Scott10-10

By the time you see this your surgery will be over.... wishing you the best of outcomes and a peaceful mind. My surgery was 13 weeks ago and despite the usual challenges (incontinence and ED) I have no regrets.

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