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What do you do when you don't want to get out of bed every morning?

Indiegal profile image
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I'm still working at home and have been struggling with getting motivated to work and never want to get out of bed in the morning. I'm not happy at my job and am looking for a new one (which I have been for a long time) so that's obviously a big part of it. But how to you guys get yourself out of bed every morning when there's nothing to look forward to but the endless cycle of staring at a computer screen all day, never leaving your house, watching tv, going to bed and then doing it all over again tomorrow?

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cindyching

How about inviting a friend to exercise together with you? Your motivation to get out of bed can be enhanced by planning with a friend that you will both work out in the morning from your own homes or follow an online exercise routine.

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Ali_H

Do it any way cos I want to keep living in the place I have is the business end of the answer!

It’s so much harder in the darker cold months so I will have stuff set up for a cosy breakfast.... I love my coffee so the cafetière is set ready to go and the heating is on so the place is a little warmer than normal. If it’s dry I will wrap up extra warm and sit outside for ten minutes or so - this seems to perk me up some how!

Lunch time, if home... I teach so rarely worked from home until this pandemic, I will know what I’m going to have - something simple but tasty and I will again eat outside if possible enjoying the hot food ‘V’ the cold air. Focus my mind on the moment and enjoy the colours and sound around me.

When we were working from home last term we ‘travelled home’ from work by firstly putting stuff away and then either walking or cycling a circular route home ( I am lucky.... there is We so I can share the experience). Then a leisurely meal, I like to eat outside in the cold but OH doesn’t so this is usually a shared meal indoors and then I’ll take a hot drink outside - I’m not a big telly fan so will read outside if it’s light enough or do something indoors.

It’s flaming hard at times and there is two of us so you’ve got your work cut out keeping your mood/moral afloat on your own..... do little things that nurture your soul.... that’s being outdoors for me!

I hope something in there helped

All the best

Ali

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Agoodenough in reply to Ali_H

What a lovely reply and great advice. I loved having a little insight into your life and it sounds warm and cosy in your world. Ali

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Ali_H in reply to Agoodenough

Thank you... I’ve lived with depression since my teens not formally diagnosed until early 40s so have learnt to ‘muddle along’ when things get down - usually mid winter. I’ve learnt that low key living is far more suited to me than the hyped stuff of ‘being out there with mates’... in that lies misery and madness for me!!!

Warm and cosy 😊

Ali

Agoodenough profile image
Agoodenough in reply to Ali_H

Im sorry you have lived with depression. I can relate to living a low key life. Suits me too. Great for keeping stress levels down 🙂

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FlowerPreciousLover in reply to Agoodenough

Agreed!

in reply to Ali_H

That's great advice!

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Agoodenough

I do feel for you it's difficult and everyone is in the same boat. I put the heating on in the morning as there is nothing worse than being cold first thing. Make a nice breakfast that you want to get up for. Could you go for a fast walk first thing even for 10/15 mins. Walking is good for the body and mind and will energize you for the day. I think your main problem is the boredom of your job so I really hope you can find something else. Good luck!

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When you work outside the home, you can come home , switch off and forget about work. Working from home, now the two worlds are combined. You need to find a way of separating them in the home. For example, don’t do your work in a room where you tend to relax in. Don’t take breaks when you feel like because you are at home. Stick to a schedule with planned breaks as you would if you went out of the home to work. Do not work after hours, this is your time. Try speaking to you colleagues and friends for any tips. Try and get out for a quick walk before you start your work. Living and working in the same space comes with many advantages but also disadvantages for some. It can become Groundhog Day. You need to separate the two areas while at home and see if it makes any difference. 👍😊

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Veteran250 in reply to bobbybobb

Hi ..... whilst serving in the Military, you had no choice but to get up, in my civilian life I also had to get up for work(alarm at 4am) relax with a cup of tea, then breakfast and then drive to work....... but now in the autumnal years of my life, I’m retired, but still get up early(I cant lay in bed after waking) whether its light or dark mornings..... cup of tea, and then peruse Positive Wellbeing Page, to help and support where I can...... I have been to hell and back over recent weeks, and thank my friends here for thier support, just try to repay the friendship..... I am 77 years of age, dont smoke nor drink alcohol, but enjoy life as much as possible..... hoping you find a solution! 👍😀

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MidoriVisually impaired in reply to Veteran250

I'm another early bird, love to watch the dawn. Like having a world to yourself before others come along to wreck it, or the cares of the day set in. I'm always a little sad at sunset.

Cheers, Midori

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Indiegal in reply to bobbybobb

I have done a good job of separating my work space. I moved my office upstairs where there's just the one room so at the end of the day i can come downstairs and shut the door. Although I work late some nights I try to stay upstairs and not bring my laptop down to do work at night so there's some boundary. I do really need to get up and exercise. But with the lack of motivation I usually get up late and am rushing to get going before meetings. One of these days I need to try to get up to exercise when I don't have an early meeting. Thanks for the advice.

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bobbybobbAmbassador in reply to Indiegal

Get out any time of the day, just for a 10 minute walk, it will refresh your brain and revive you a bit and get you out the house for a breathing space. It's very good you have separated your work space from your living space. Well done. 👍🌸

Hi Indiegal, I think this is affecting more and more of us, as restrictions bite and there is little to look forward to. It's probably bordering on a mild clinical depression, so you should try to address this, as the more the feeling grows, the less you feel able to do something about it.

I think you probably need to separate out the things you have to do from the things you do that make you happy. Almost no-one likes to get up to face a day of work, whether from home or another location, but it pays the bills, so keep that uppermost in your mind. Pay also provides us with the little luxuries we all enjoy.

I'd start by thinking of the things I love, that |I'm currently missing. If that's holidays, for example, plan a dream holiday, right down to how to afford it. That might remind you of your need to get up and get through the day.

Then don't let your mind wander off into the what-ifs. A five minute mindfulness meditation away from your screen every so often through the day will help bring you back to here and now.

Remember your friends and family and talk. We all need that.

Make the break at the end of the day. Shut that computer down and leave social media for a while and pursue something you love to do, whether that's some safely distanced time in the fresh air, or reading an absorbing book, cooking a great evening meal. There will be activities you enjoy to take your mind off things, but it might need a little research if you don't currently have hobbies.

Hoping you can turn your mood around on your own, but if this feeling worsens, or you can't shake it off after a couple of weeks, please seek some qualified help via your GP/family doctor.

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thara9643

Push myself

I find it helps to have a daily walk at lunchtime usually to look forward to when I'm stuck at home.

As someone who has more or less always worked from home as a carer so im. Used to it, now I’m no longer a carer. but as I’ve got older my health isn’t so good so I don’t go out as much as I did. I think as others have said a routine is necessary , and separating work from leisure, do you have any hobbies or interests, I’m so lucky to have a garden to escape into, I love pottering out there, I also crochet and I’m online a lot keeping in touch with family and friends on here, and some friends I’ve not seen since before the March lockdown, but I also count my blessings that I’m still here and doing ok, make the most of every day, who knows what’s going to happen ,

Live the day

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Luna_Child

That's the tough part. I feed my dogs very early. They go back to sleep and I just rest, read and watch TV. I am not much of a sleeper

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