It’s a lonely place, I’m feeling lost like I don’t know who or what I am anymore.. I’ve given up asking for help and support.. I can’t focus on doing anything. I’m struggling to leave the house and if I try I can’t breath I shake and I physically throw up.. when will it all stop
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Hi Pixie74, sorry to hear you are struggling so much at the moment. I don't think you will be alone as we are coming out of lockdown, there are people who are finding it difficult to cope with the thought of going out again into a world where the virus, still remains. I think it is important for you to discuss this with your GP as soon as possible. Have you looked at this site also. It has some good links. 😊🌸 nhs.uk/conditions/stress-an...
I’ve been in contact with my dr and mental health team but I feel like I’m a burden to them, a burden to anyone that wants to help and feeling guilty for asking for help.. I cry myself to sleep, I stood out in the rain at 3 am this morning.. I’m sorry for being a pain.. if people want me to leave this page/site then I will
Aww Pixie, that's really sad. Why on earth would anyone want you to leave this site, we are all here for each other and that includes you. Please don't feel guilty asking for help, that's what your GP and mental health team are there for, that's what they have trained for and they want to help you. You are not a burden on anyone but you feel this way because you are very down at the moment. Do you have friends or family that you can speak to on the phone? If so, give someone a call and have a chat, it would probably cheer you and them up. Just know that you are not a pain and you are not a burden. Take care now. xxxx
It’s horrible just feel so alone.. I feel guilty for asking for help as there are people worse of than me.. it’s the guilt that I feel then the burden to others it’s never ending, I feel like I’m on a Ferris wheel going round and round and it doesn’t stop xx
You mustn't feel guilty asking for help and yes, there may be people worse off than you but they have their go-to people too. When all the Covid business is over and you can get out and about normally again, I am sure you will feel differently. Do you listen to music or read books or have any hobbies?
Hi Pixie74 ,
No one wants you to leave. We appreciate you and what you share with all of us in the group. If you ever feel like you want to talk about anything, then we will be happy to listen and try to help with any of your questions/concerns. As bobbybobb has said, a lot of people are also scared/concerned/worried about how it's going to be when we all can finally get out of the house and see everyone we hadn't seen in over 4-5 months. I'm personally worried about my brother and his family when they decide to go out of the house because you don't know who they will see/run into at the time.
You are not a burden to anyone, get that right. We all need help though out our lives at some point, all of us. So, why do you feel guilty. You should not feel guilty. If you feel your GP and mental health team are falling short of your needs, tell them. They are there to help you, it's there job. You should not burden yourself with guilt about how you feel and certainly not about how people think about you. By the way, no one would want you to leave the site. 😊🌸
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The doctor and mental health team are there to help those who need them that are in distress and want to see you!
Hi Pixie74 I feel your pain. most days I feel lost but I keep going. If you want to talk let meknow.. maybe we can help each other..
Thank you it’s horrible some days I won’t get out of bed, then the guilt sets in.. I’m so lost don’t know who or what I am xx
I think the thing that helps me most is not looking at the big picture. I focus on one thing I can do. That way I get out of bed and accomplish something.. what do yo do??
Absolutely.
I find one thing to do each day that I enjoy-even if it's looking at the night sky or a sunrise.
Don't ever feel alone ,there is lots of good advice ,support etc on here.
The only thing I do and it’s silly is knowing my furbabies (cats) need to go out, sometimes I stand watching them then I go back to bed
Hi Pixie 74, I think we all can get stuck in a rut,and and its difficult trying to get out this situation, but this forum and the people on here will always throw a virtual arm around you,and will listen and try to solve any problems and offers solutions,I think if we focus on the negative side of things in life it starts to impact on us even more, and it's trying to shed these problems and do something different helps breaks this mold,I had a look at your beautiful cats,and they look very mischievous, I have a friend who has a little eyesight, and she has 4 cats,and lives on her own,but she always trys to find something to do,she has an eye condition but uses a visual aid so she can do Facebook, and is registered blind,but I know she has moments where she gets down and fed up,so I make a point of either messaging her,or ringing her,just to say hello,its helps that I have wicked sense of humour, and I can have a joke with her,she has a couple of daughters, but unfortunately they have grown up,and don't have much of a bond,don't ever feel like you are a burden, don't forget there's millions of lonely people wanting to talk, and without people like you ,how could we even have a conversation, so never be afraid of wanting to say something, or say hello, we are all the same,and we only want the best for our fellow citizens.
I’m visionally impaired due to macula dystrophy and I’m locked in my own head.. I don’t have many people to talk to as they have their own families.. I’m scared of leaving the house, I’m getting to the point I don’t want to wake up any more.. I know that’s selfish but I can’t see any other way out I don’t want to be like this anymore.. I’m a waste of time I’m a burden.. I shall take myself of this site as you don’t need to hear my issues I’m so so sorry putting this all on here 😭😭
No,that's not the way round your problems,people are always happy to talk, and if your happy to talk about anything, then so am I,we all come on here to listen or to just to share our experiences in life,so I understand how you feel, I know there's no magic wand in life,and I can't promise to say I can take all your worries away, but its just trying to open up different lines of conversation might get things moving for you, and its subjects that we could discuss that gives you something different to occupy yourself from that might break this way you are feeling, its so,so difficult and reaching out to strangers on a forum might seem the last thing to do,but at least you know it's got the ball rolling, and it's now passing some time, and its getting your brain,and fingers motivated, i have had some mammoth typing lessons on here with people,and i don't regret a moment of giving my time, so you need to remember I'm just a normal person who is quite happily replying to a person who is needs a little help,and it's not a big deal,so DON'T think that it's a burden, so we are now on talking terms ,and I'll quite happily chat about anything, including the weather lol,now hows that for a start ,so its we can talk until the cows come home if you want, and you can bend my ears, so I shall be quite happy to talk whenever you want, thanks.
Thank you, I’m just a burden then the guilt grips so I pull away and I can’t cope being me anymore x
I can assure you it's not a big deal,I am more than willing to talk, you don't need to worry about having any 'guilt' trips with me,you're not asking for anything from me that I can't give you back in kindness, and that costs absolutely nothing, you can do things at your own pace, like I said I can talk about anything, its trying to get you to talk will make it easier, and then you'll find conversation will flow, and these problems will become easier to breakdown, its the simple things in life that gets conversations going, so I'll start, what is your favourite food? It may seem irrelevant but I'm trying to get you talking and you can realize that it's the simple things in life get us motivated, so give it a go,and stop worrying about the burden factor, its not!
Thank you I’m just useless a waste of time not good enough I’m sinking
I'm so sorry Pixie you are finding it very difficult and you won't be alone as there are others finding it difficult as well. Have you spoken to any friends/family? Also, the Government have provided a link to those suffering with their mental health during the coronavirus outbreak:
gov.uk/government/news/new-...
You are not alone and I really hope that you have friends/family that you can talk to. In the meantime I would speak to your GP.
I really hope that you find something that helps you.
Take care
Hugs
Please don't leave the site, we all have good, bad and rubbish days, cuddle up with your cats, let the tears fall if you need to, tomorrow is another day, maybe just open a door and get a breath of fresh air, I'm visually impaired as well so I know how that impacts on life sending love and hugs ❤️🤗
I’m 46 and feel lost and so alone
I’m so sorry I’ve burden people on here x
Hi Pixie. So sorry you are feeling low. I think we can all relate to some extent, but some cope better than others, and some have support which helps a lot. Do you live alone? Have you been able to get out of the house at all yet? Escaping the four walls if only in the garden or a small walk can lighten your spirits a bit. I know its not easy, (I am suffering with extreme anxiety also) but if you can try taking it slowly, a few steps at a time. pacing yourself . I might help, it is worth a try at least. You can hear the birds twittering; see the lovely trees and flowers and even just breathing in the fresh air helps and takes your mind to a different place. I also find listening to music (as an escape from the TV) , reading (if you can find a good book), or even looking at old photos recalling happier time, all help me. Wishing you luck. Stay safe.
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