I find this on line group to be supportive and understanding
I think in my culture we are expected to be successful and because I am trying to resit a Diploma and find a years work experience I am often questioned by family members and friends who question that if I am educated why am I unable to find employment
It breaks me to pieces when family members or those who know me question me
It is ultimately my own responsibility to solve my life and to find hopefully my own independence
When I was in College- well Polytechnic Actually- studying Chemistry, I was on what was called a 'Sandwich Course'. The idea, and I say 'idea' for reasons that will become clear, was that you did the Diploma in CONJUCTION with some genuine Laboratory Experience.
The course was Supposed to be three years, with two separate- six monthly- Work Placements. What actually 'happened' was a single Semester ('term and a bit?'), followed by a MUCH Shorter work Placement..... that I had to arrange myself! Needless to say that I left, after a Year- by 'mutual' dislike- and, after a little Jobbing Around, I went into Industry. I was there until I fell ill, way back, in 1995.
Clearly I did 'get' Flak, from my Piers, for Not staying in college. I did Try to, at least, explain my position but- as you know- Everyone Else 'knows' better, about You, that You do yourself.... Funnily enough my Parents were more Understanding- and accepting of MY decision. I know that your situation is, rather different, than mine was however we do share the same 'Sort of' desire.... to make our Own choices.
To anyone, who does question you, just say 'It's My choice.... and leave it at that.
Good Luck, with your Re-sit, hope you Pass this time.
I hope you are well
Thank you for reply
Very interesting to read your perspective and personal stance
I think for many years I have been judged but in reality who are others to judge us
If really we do what is right for us and we are at peace with our decisions and with acceptance, the judgment of others will not matter as much
I wish you a peaceful and pleasant day ahead
There is a saying that those who judge others need to remember that when they point the finger (literally) at someone there are three more pointing back at them. It is of that people who are judgemental of others aren't very kind to themselves.
Concentrate on being kind, gentle and compassionate to yourself and reminding yourself how well, in fact how brilliantly - you are doing in your life. Congratulate yourself about every thing you manage to do, no matter how small, and the decisions you make each day to live your life as well as possible. It helps to realise that other people's opinions really are not so important.
I hope you are safe and well
Firstly I like the name strong mouse
It is original and it stands out as a name
I agree wholeheartedly in the sense when others point the finger they may are deviating from their own life
I think it is essential to value our selves and to be kind to ourselves
It has taken me fifty years to come to this conclusion
I have been the only daughter to both of my parents and it has involved responsibility and the ability to care for them as if I were a parent
This itself brings maturity and great life experience
I think also if we have a strong sense of self as your name indicates then the opinion of others really does not matter
This is why I will never do Facebook or Instagram to show what I have or to show for others to see
Also if we are at peace with ourselves, then the opinion of others really is water off a ducks back
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