Postnatal depression

[Enisa]

Hi I have been surfing through postnatal depression for one year and I feel bad I can talk about it with no one my husband don't understand to my I'm tired alon i head cesarian and I don't have friends and family hear where I live so I didn't tell to my mom are my husband because hi don't care about it I feel sad I love my baby boy but sometimes I want to go way from everyone my life is a shit i noticed that no one cares about other people

[rocky77]

Welcome Enisa

I'm sorry you've been struggling for so long. PNI is a cruel illness but recoverable. Please consider talking to your dr. With support things will get better. Your dr will ha e heard your story a thousand times before as this is such a common illness with 20% of women getting it.

Your dr or health visitor can support you by talking to you and maybe encouraging you to find interests and something for yourself. You can be offered counselling which can help you offload what your feeling and find coping strategies.

I'm sorry your husband isn't being supportive. Many men incl my partner didn't. Often they feel helpless or it's just too much. Perhaps try asking him to undertake specific tasks to help you so maybe taking baby for a walk for an hr or hoovering if you feel tired as PNI is very draining.

Please keep talking x

[Enisa in reply to rocky77]

Thanks for your words but I feel very tired and I really don't have time my baby is not slipping I'm not eating healthy I'm bored my Dr want me to go to therapy group but I feel like crazy to go there and I can't go because my husband is working and I don't have any support from no. One I have just a friend with who I can talk but I feel bad to say that I have postnatal depression is crazy I can't imagine how hi will treat me are is difficult English is my second language and sorry if I have made any mistake

[rocky77 in reply to Enisa]

Your English is great. What is your first language if you don't mind me asking.

You sound very isolated which must be hard for you. It's a vicious circle - if you feel tired you're less likely to eat healthily and go out - all things which make you feel better. Maybe set yourself one goal per day - that could be to eat a healthy lunch or go for a walk.

It's great you have a friend. In your culture is there stigma around post natal depression or mental health illnesses? You could just start by telling your friend you're fed up or bored and take it from there. Maybe you both go out a little more.

Do consider the therapy offered by your dr. It might help. Perhaps go to one session and see what it's like. I guarantee there will be lots of people who feel like you X

[Enisa in reply to rocky77]

Thanks for reply to my my first language is Albanian I will try my best and my friend is kind is helping me without knowing that I have depression but I will definitely tell to him that I want to change because of my baby

[rocky77]

I know often with PNI it's so hard to help yourself but you will recover from this - with help it will be easier x

[Enisa in reply to rocky77]

Yes I think so 😀

[Enisa]

Yesterday I had a hard day my baby I head his I immunisation and hi had fever and I was alon with him today the same every time I think that everything will be ok is going wrong I can't fit with everything I don't have. Power I'm stressed and tired God help me please 😣😓

[rocky77 in reply to Enisa]

How is your baby today? Immunisations can be hard - any situation when your child is ill can be stressful but with post natal depression even more so.

When you feel overwhelmed like you did yesterday take slow deep breaths to calm yourself down. Look at the problem objectively - maybe write it down - and try to find a resolution . There will be one I promise you x

[Enisa]

Hi is ok now thanks I feel a bit better today thanks God

[rocky77 in reply to Enisa]

Great news on both fronts x

[Enisa]

Thanks

[rocky77]

How are you Enisa? X

[Enisa]

I'm fine thanks and you

[rocky77 in reply to Enisa]

Things sound as if they are improving for you which is great to hear. I'm fine thanks - hoping for some sun soon !

[Enisa]

Yes

[rocky77]

How are you Enisa? I hope things are improving? X

[Enisa]

I'm ok thanks how are you

[rocky77 in reply to Enisa]

It sounds like life is improving for you? Yes all good thx / going on holiday this week so that's pretty exciting x

[Enisa]

Yes I hope I wish you enjoy your holidays

[rocky77 in reply to Enisa]

Thank you x

[rocky77]

How are you doing Enisa? X

[rocky77]

How are you Enisa? X

[Enisa in reply to rocky77]

I'm ok thanks I got a letter from my GP I will change my house I think I will be fine how are you?

[rocky77]

Sounds like you're doing well. I hope a new and better home will help your recovery further . All fine with me thanksx