Depressed

19 week pregnant depressed n lonely. Have no one here that understands

[rocky77]

Hi

I'm sorry you're feeling low. Has this started since you got depressed? Do you know what's causing the depression? Have you spoken to anyone about how you feel? Pls talk to someone - family friends, partner . Feeling this way in pregnancy is actually quite common. Hormones can play a part and or outside factors but especially with support you'll feel better.

Feel free to talk openly on here. You won't be judged and hopefully it'll help you feel better. Our forum in PNI.org.uk is brilliant X

[LoulabellaForever]

Hi hun. You may feel alone but you're not. You're in an elite club of super humans who suffer from a sometimes fatal illness called depression. you may have repeative negative thoughts and feelings of loneliness however these are given to you by this black and dark disease. It's a disease of the soul that tricks your mind into thinking all kinds of things that aren't true and gives you overwhelming feelings that are difficult to deal with.

I don't have any answers and there isn't a pill you can take to 'cure' this horrible condition. There is medication however being pregnant you do have to check with your doctors and midwives what is safe to take. There are other women out there who are suffering or who have gone through depression during pregnancy who can give you support. There are local NHS and GP services like counseling that can help some people. You don't have to suffer in silence.

Don't give up and remember that depression is a disease. Loneliness is a symptom that isn't always helped by being surrounded by people. Don't give up talking to people around you. You may be surprised how supportative people can be. Be honest and talk to your GP and midwife. Don't see a referral for mental health support or medication as a failure. It's the first step in getting better, although it can be easier to accept that you may never feel 'normal' as there is no such thing. Things may get easier however pregnancy and having a baby does lots of crazy things to your hormones and following the birth you may develop baby blues or postnatal depression.

Plan ahead with your health carers (midwife especially) & family so that you have lots of extra support and help towards the end of pregnancy and the first few weeks with your baby. Try and focus on positive thoughts and feelings. It's easy to give into the depression but don't!!!

Fight it, for your sake and that of your baby. Good luck and remember that you are NOT alone x