Grieving

[Doublef]

Grieving has hit me like a sledge hammer as my wife passed away in 8 short weeks she had deteriorated reso much she had to go int a hospice after being in hospital for a cancer bone operation. My own health is not so good my eyesight is poor and my heart EF is 37%

[Koalajane]

so very sorry to hear this

[PMRpro Ambassador]

So sorry to hear you are struggling so much - but it is understandable at this stage only 2 weeks after the event. A few of us on the forum do know what you are going through, we have been there too.

Have you got family to help and care for you - you need a lot of TLC, especially when your own health is poor. And don't reject the idea of counselling, thinking that tough men don't need that. We all do and it can take a lot of the sting out of the hurt.

Virtual hugs.

[Doublef in reply to PMRpro]

I have moved in with my daughter for now and will contact veterans uk

thank you

[PMRpro Ambassador in reply to Doublef]

Good - give your daughter a hug from me and ask her to pass one back to you. She's got a lot on her plate too, she needs a hug as well.

[Doublef in reply to PMRpro]

You are right there

[random901]

Hi Doublef. Thinking of you this morning. Not 2 months since I lost my beloved Pa to cancer. The lack of our evening phone calls has left a terrible emptiness. I do hope there are some friends or relatives who can help you on a practical level, as we also seem to have heart problems and COPD in common. Please take care in this cold weather, and do keep in touch with this wonderful forum.

[DorsetLady PMRGCAuk volunteer]

Hi, sorry to hear you are struggling so, but it’s very early days so absolutely understandable. As PMRpro has said please take all the help you can, whether that be friends, family or professionals… and don’t think because you are male you should be able to manage without that help. You cannot, we are all human, and the death of a dearly loved partner of many years is hard, very hard.

Please seek help, whether from a bereavement service like CRUSE-

cruse.org.uk

a local charity, or via your GP… as you are ex service maybe the RBL or Veterans UK might be able to offer guidance. - gov.uk/government/organisat...

Veterans UK

Tomlinson House, Norcross, Thornton Cleveleys, FY5 3WP

Email [e-mail]

Freephone (UK only): 0808 1914 2 18

Telephone (overseas): [phone]

8.00 am to 5:00 pm Monday to Friday

Sending virtual hug

[Doublef in reply to DorsetLady]

Thank you

[SheffieldJane]

I am so sorry Doublef. Sending love and hugs. X

[Maisie1958]

I am so sorry to hear this Doublef. My sincere condolences.

[Fatsiajaponica]

Sending hugs 🫂

[DrRon]

The stress inherent in grief, sadness and loneliness, exacerbates PMR undoubtedly. I am glad you reached out here. Many understanding and compassionate kinspeople here as you can tell. I join the others in a sincere expression of sadness for your deep personal loss, and I trust you will be comforted and become stronger with each passing day.

[Angelsmummy]

So very very sad for you Doubleef.i am glad that you have moved in with your daughter for a while,at least you can both spend time recounting the wonderful memories that you hold of her.Take each day as it comes,grief has no time limit,but also be aware that your lovely wife would want you to take care of yourself and your daughter.Sending you both a comforting hug and my sincere condolences.She is at rest now…..xx💐