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Well here’s a good laugh from a geriatric malingerer. My fingers are a bit stiff these day but that’s just wrinkleeitis. So I was in this shop and got my card out of my purse to pay for me stuff. It then pinged off my other cards into another universe. I made the shop shift everything in my general vicinity to look for it. Customers joined in too. It had gone. So I paid cash loaded my 6 things in to my bag and went to the car. I cancelled the card through my phone app immediately and went home. As I was putting the stuff away at the bottom of the bag was a glowing golden bank card. It pinged into my bag the only b@&£;-d place I didn’t look. Oh how I laughed. This is all because I increased me steroids because of a PMR flare and my hypothalamus has gone off on holiday yet again. He never takes me with him? I feel so unloved by him sometimes. Year 4 now PMR should be sodding off!!! What will today bring?

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Good old cash here for me 99% of the time - but then, the one thing OH does well is dig out either cash or, increasingly his bank card! Last week I simply hardly went shopping while he was in hospital ;)

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Estellemac in reply to PMRpro

I think this was a good thing in a way. I would spend less using cash and think twice wether I needed what I was buying. Since PMR and giving up work when I do go out its mainly to shop? Probably due to winter. I shall look on this as a lesson in need or want when it comes to shopping.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Estellemac

I go food shopping - I hate even that! I would never choose to go into town just to look round the shops except when I have a very specific requirement! I will wear clothes until they are dead rather than go clothes shopping!!

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Estellemac in reply to PMRpro

This blocking of my card did seriously affect my internet shopping where I get most stuff. I shouldn’t food shop because I would buy treats but I do only go on quiet days and not in school holidays. My next door neighbour has recently retired so I have to go out to hide from him too. Sounds cruel but I never was a 11 o’clock tea time gossip putting the world to rights talking drivel type person. I like my own company but when I do need interaction it’s usually with like minded people you find on here especially those with a sense of humour.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Estellemac

My MIL was like that - and lived in a granny flat in our house so it was next to impossible to escape every day! Morning coffee, afternoon tea - mind death! She tended not to put the world to rights but did have 2 variations of conversation: Corrie and Emmerdale (which I have never watched in my life) and the Royals (nuff said).

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SheffieldJane in reply to PMRpro

You will get your reward in heaven!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to SheffieldJane

One a bit sooner would be acceptable ... ;)

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patriciawhite in reply to PMRpro

I have a friend like that ,she thinks retirement is sit on couch watch TV ,meet friends ,talk about TV . text ''You will never guess what happened on Corrie . '' Do I want to ,Nope . Then you realise that's how it has always been there is just more TV to monitor now . I don't go shopping either ,Its low income and actually I don't want to ! . If I am comfortable in my clothes I have realised I really begrudge getting smartened up and going out . Oh dear is that really bad .Time to enjoy the home I never saw when working . Life brings its different phases .;-)

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to patriciawhite

Absolutely!!!!

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scats in reply to Estellemac

I'm with both of you there, since PMR we even get the food delivered. There is no longer anything useful in our local town anyway.

Enjoyed your story, it's amazing how things slip through my fingers at the moment, especially those pesky little preds

Estellemac profile image
Estellemac in reply to scats

Tablets!!! My floor is full of them. My hoover can’t find them either. Good job I’ve no kids or pets.

SheffieldJane profile image
SheffieldJane in reply to Estellemac

I am with you there Etellemac. People wear me out!

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borednow in reply to Estellemac

Here's something to make you feel better. My next door neighbour is my ex husband. No I'm not sure how that happened either - can't even blame the PMR as it hadn't arrived then. Maybe that's why it did arrive??!!

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Estellemac in reply to borednow

Wow that trumps my ex-miner with a short term memory. Love it. 💖

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Dewdrop456 in reply to borednow

That’s interesting borednow.My hopefully ‘very soon to be ex husband ‘won’t move out of the extension and wants me to stay living next door to him.Ive waited decades for this divorce so I will have to move when it becomes two houses .I really cannot tolerate living next door to him. It will be financially difficult but I will have piece of mind in that area at least.Do you mind living next door to your ex?

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borednow in reply to Dewdrop456

Hi have sent you a private message!! Hopefully .........

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EdithWales in reply to PMRpro

Dead clothes? That’s a new one 🥂🥂

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Estellemac in reply to EdithWales

I love dead clothes. I can’t part with them no matter how old and scruffy the get. It’s like wearing a comfort blanky that babies have.

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HeronNS in reply to PMRpro

Side bar to your comment. Bitterly cold here the past few days, windchill down as far as -23 at times, and treadmills are soooo boring, so I've taken myself to the Mall for walks. I window shopped far too much and didn't accumulate nearly enough steps, but hardly bought a thing.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to HeronNS

That's acceptable!!! Won't tell you about our weather - though it's about to go south next week I gather!

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer in reply to PMRpro

Along with ours!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to DorsetLady

Yours is supposed to arrive over here tomorrow ...

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer in reply to PMRpro

Well, we had rain this morning, but now beautiful clear blue sky, but definitely a chillier wind!

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MaryA_ in reply to HeronNS

We’ve had very high winds here too, roofs blown off and towers bend in half for two days. I don’t want to leave the house! 🥺

HeronNS profile image
HeronNS in reply to MaryA_

Are you on the East Coast?

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HeronNS in reply to HeronNS

My daughter lives in Ontario and there is an abandoned house next to them (awaiting demolition by the city) which she thought might lose bits of itself during their last windstorm.

MaryA_ profile image
MaryA_ in reply to HeronNS

Sure am, north east, with this PMR, I just don’t want to go anywhere these days.

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HeronNS in reply to MaryA_

So you get similar weather to us, but I think more snow than Nova Scotia. More like New Brunswick I expect. Yes, weather is usually pretty tedious by this time of year.

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Constance13 in reply to HeronNS

I get OH to take me to a garden centre, flowers and plants cheer me up (I haven’t even got a balcony now!😂😂). D hates it!

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Marijo1951 in reply to PMRpro

I know how you feel. I detest shopping for clothes, although it's always assumed that all women love it. I'm wearing a cardigan that I bought in an Oxfam shop about 15 years ago and a dress that's worn so thin I can only wear it round the house. For 6 years I lived in the West End off Oxford Street and hardly ever went into the local shops. I buy stuff on eBay often at very low prices, and I'm hoping to get back to dressmaking soon. I've given it up since I became ill, but I must decide what to do about the mountain of fabric that I have. As I'm going to Slimming World and I'm optimistic that I'll lose at least a couple of dress sizes, I don't know what size to make for myself. I'll probably start with bags and aprons which always make good presents. As for food, I have nearly all of it delivered, including a lovely weekly delivery of fresh organic veg. I should be bouncing with health, my diet is so healthy these days!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Marijo1951

No - food has to be personal shopping (not least because I don't think anyone here does internet shopping/delivery) and we have become very Italian in our habits!! Almost no food waste!

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Marijo1951 in reply to PMRpro

My local authority (Islington) collects food waste i.e. veg peelings, tea leaves, apple cores, egg shells etc and turns it into electricity. It's astounding how much I generate and I live alone.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Marijo1951

I manage less than 2 litres of biowaste a week on average - the block has a biobin which is emptied weekly and they make fertiliser I think.

Constance13 profile image
Constance13 in reply to PMRpro

Last sentence! Wish I could say that.😏

Estellemac profile image
Estellemac in reply to Marijo1951

I love charity shop clothes. Thing is as my neighbour is a bit clingy and in me face at the moment I have to think about what I do wear. But then I thought it’s his own fault if my stretchy pants and see through T-shirt is a bit revealing. I like it and it’s comfy. I am not dressing to impress. In fact some days it’s quite late when I do dress. He is partially sighted though so that might explain the fact he doesn’t notice.

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karools16 in reply to PMRpro

We don't have any clothing shops in our town unless you're under 40 or skinny, so I rely on catalogues.

Cyclegirl54 profile image
Cyclegirl54 in reply to karools16

We appear to have quite a few in my local town and quite posh too! Lol! It’s not unusual to see high end brands in the BHF !

Constance13 profile image
Constance13 in reply to Estellemac

I often still seem to buy for 4, but my children left the house 30 years ago.😏😏

Estellemac profile image
Estellemac in reply to Constance13

My sister cooks for two and she lived alone for years?

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Constance13 in reply to Estellemac

That’s sensible though, one for now, one in the deep freeze - half the cooking.

All I have is a jammed up fridge and freezer!!!

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pollymarierose in reply to Estellemac

I got invited to go shopping today. Before PMR I had a 90 percent chance that I would go out and have a good time. Chances of going today? 0 percent. My new life.

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Longtimer in reply to PMRpro

Mostly cash for me too......can`t beat it!...hate shopping whatever it is for........hard work, and all those people!!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Longtimer

People - and musack, bleugh ...

GerriMc profile image
GerriMc

Oh yes, I know that feeling!

I recently had to go into town, hadn’t been for ages. I passed by all the bright fashionable shops that I had used to love. What upset me most was that I had absolutely no desire to even look in them never mind try things on! Maybe it’ll come back, I doubt it though. 😩

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leajamesi in reply to GerriMc

Same for me, I don't go shopping anymore for clothes or other stuff, everything by internet , even food, gifts, etc.etc....but the pleasure is different in waiting and the surprise,,,,,at least this little pleasure...my last crazy buy....20 years old phantasme...to buy a Paco Rabanne sweater black and silver.....arrived yesterday and good medicine first cloth I buy since very longtime...replaces Christmas, St Valentines and etc.....we must also spoile us maybe little bit...... little different hapiness...!

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer

Don’t you just hate inanimate objects that hide - and then suddenly reappear once you’ve turned everything (well not everything in your case!) upside down.

Before I went into hospital for my hip operation I put my spare set of car keys “ somewhere safe” - that was 7 weeks ago - found them last week in the “odds and sods” drawer in the bedroom 🤦🏻‍♀️ Mind you, son had looked in drawer previously!

PMRpro profile image
PMRproAmbassador in reply to DorsetLady

He will have looked like a man...

DorsetLady profile image
DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer in reply to PMRpro

....naturally!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to DorsetLady

:)

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pmrkitty in reply to PMRpro

I can't believe you wrote that!!! It's so true! 😝

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to pmrkitty

The number of times OH has told me something "isn't there" (i.e. where I have told him it is) - everything has to be in full view ... Men can't move things to look!

GerriMc profile image
GerriMc in reply to PMRpro

Maybe that’s why they don’t put things away too. In fairness he’s great at cooking and cleaning but can’t see the point of putting stuff in presses as it’ll have to come out again soon! 😁

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to GerriMc

Hmmm - more likely to be me not putting things away... ;)

I didn't know the Irish had presses too!

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linda49 in reply to DorsetLady

Your keys scenario resonates with me. Just this morning I have finally “found” a library book which went awol about 6 weeks ago. I’ve had to renew it twice online to avoid the overdue fees. Sorting through a laundry basket upstairs this morning and there it was……very worrying. Why was it in there?

I’m trying acrylic painting as a different hobby whilst I’m coping with PMR and the library had a great selection of books to borrow.. At least tomorrow I can return it and maybe even borrow another. I wonder if they can be fitted with a tracker?

Linda

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer in reply to linda49

Perhaps it was trying to get inspiration for some fantastic new fashions you are going to bring out!

There's room for a new designer on the block!

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linda49 in reply to DorsetLady

I think my art is probably what you’d call abstract. 😏

But it is relaxing and takes my mind off chronic ilness for a couple of hours, so all good. I think the family might be receiving abstract birthday cards this year which should save me a few pounds. Birthday cards have become so expensive.

Estellemac profile image
Estellemac in reply to linda49

I like geometric shapes and colours. So bright and lively. Lifts the spirits.

Cyclegirl54 profile image
Cyclegirl54 in reply to linda49

Card making is a new hobby for me! Makes my friends laugh as I am so not into crafts etc . Must be the Pred! A good friend said I even sound quite knowledgeable 😂

It is relaxing though and quietens the monkey mind! I even found myself browsing in a local art shop checking out stencils!

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linda49 in reply to Cyclegirl54

I have considered making cards but wondered where I would store all the trimmings needed to decorate them. Another lovely hobby that would help some of us with PMR/GCA enjoy our time and feel a sense of achievement. Well done Cyclegirl54.

Cyclegirl54 profile image
Cyclegirl54 in reply to linda49

I keep all the bits’an bobs in a large gift bag so I know where everything is!

GerriMc profile image
GerriMc in reply to linda49

Good for you! I’m a pastelist. I lost my mojo for painting when first diagnosed. Getting it back slowly but love getting totally absorbed in the process.

linda49 profile image
linda49 in reply to GerriMc

I seem to have lost my mojo for many creative things like sewing, baking and painting, but noticing my interest returning lately, so perhaps that’s a marker of progress as much as blood markers……

I agree that feeling of being totally absorbed is magical. Enjoy your pastels.

GerriMc profile image
GerriMc in reply to linda49

Thanks Linda, you too! Here’s to more Mojo to come!! 😁

Louisepenygraig profile image
Louisepenygraig

That did make me laugh! It's typical isn't it - as soon as you cancel a card it turns up.

SheffieldJane profile image
SheffieldJane

Honestly it’s like “Gaslight” the movie sometimes. You sound like you are getting your lovely mojo back. I do hope so! X

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Estellemac in reply to SheffieldJane

I am so much better now 15mg this week then a structured return to a maintainable dose slowly. In fact I felt good enough to go to Morrisons buy a cup of tea and people watch for an hour. My neighbour can get me here. I did have to bring me own tea bags and sneakily fill up my tea pot though. There is a screamy kid who might need some gaffer tape if I stay any longer. And me phones dying. Ho hum of home to slip stealthily through the back door undectected. Plays havoc on my non bendy bits.

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SheffieldJane in reply to Estellemac

You sound like my kind of friend, just sit companionably in silence, then go home. 🙂

Longtimer profile image
Longtimer in reply to SheffieldJane

Difficult to find somewhere quiet these days...DIL says noise helps with the vibe!....I don`t want a vibe!!…….

pmrkitty profile image
pmrkitty

I so understand! I have found my purse in the fridge? I think there are gremlins running around my home hiding things from me! Like my brain, I haven't been able to locate it anywhere! Oh well, smile!!! It's going to be a PMR kind of day.

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Soraya_PMR in reply to pmrkitty

Did you check the laundry basket? Under Linda’s book?

Estellemac profile image
Estellemac

Your brain and my hippothalmoose have run away on holiday together. Parker did have to get my kindle out of the fridge last week. I went in for milk and came back without it I imagine??

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pmrkitty in reply to Estellemac

I love it! Now I don't feel so bad. 😊

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Estellemac in reply to Estellemac

Hippocampus??? Not Moose?

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Longtimer in reply to Estellemac

In my twenties I walked past a house where a lady should have been putting out the milk bottles ( yes they were glass then!) she left a teapot there instead, I wonder if she was on pred??......

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Estellemac in reply to Longtimer

Small birds used to takes the cream off the milk maybe the teapot was for a Robin to nest in next to his favourite milk bar?

Longtimer profile image
Longtimer in reply to Estellemac

Lovely idea!...👍

CT-5012 profile image
CT-5012

Happy to see that Parker is still being helpful and you sound as if you are feeling better. 😊

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Estellemac in reply to CT-5012

Yep just a blip much better now. Parker is behaving too. He slipped back in to grumpy old troll minder quite easily. Though he still has to call me M’Lady. 😂

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JulieR2

Well I have to say I could picture the scene and I don’t want to sound rude but I am glad it’s not just me who has these carry on moments😂

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IdasMum

Hahaha

Dear Estellemac

Laughing at our selves is a good medicine , I am sure most of us could write a good comedy sketch on some of out antics , providing the grey matter cooperated .

I was at a check out in a small shop, when I opened my purse to pay a couple of small coins dropped on the floor, No way could I pick them up and was hoping no one else saw them.... there was an old couple waiting behind me both 90 odd .. they saw them fall and pointed them out , in my best French I tried to say I had a back problem …( easy option ) Next minute he is on hands and knees picking up all of 1and 1/2 pence then could not get up him self what a malarkey .

Flare ups

I am just 4 months from being diagnosed so still have lots to learn, how ever I have realised that the slightest upset,, even niggle is enough to cause a flare up .

One thing that seems to be helping me is to keep an inner peace ( is the only way I can describe it)

I listen to music on YouTube and leave it playing through my PC.. it is helping me

here is a link if any one wants to try it youtube.com/watch?v=GzdxqHi...

There is quite a selection , if you find it irritating, try another, regardless of what its for if you like it listen to it. some also have video's to go with them which I also find very soothing.

Its no substitute for a nice holiday but every little helps

take care

xx

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Estellemac

But you can go to that special place in your head for free and not worry about pain for a while. Thanks for the link it’s good to share.

I have also tried the sleep ones , they an also help a bit xx

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Hirwaen

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