The Loss Of A Pet

[Sandy1947]

My best friend, Joey is out of her pain and misery. I put her down yesterday and my grief is immeasurable. The hole in my heart can’t be filled. PMR, retirement and the ups and downs of life were always soothed by petting her, talking to her and walking her in her stroller. Her blindness gave her an extra dose of compassion.

[Hidden]

So sorry to hear of your loss Sandy. I know that pain well & it will take a little time for it to ease. Joey will live on in your heart & memories like Pepper does in mine. Please be extra kind to yourself. Wishing you all the best.

[Sandy1947 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your kind words. I’m trying to do things to help. Got a new car yesterday and the experience was flat. I am grateful for my blessings but missing Joey creeps into everything.

[Attic]

I am so sorry Sandy1947. I really appreciate what you are going through as it has just happened to me.

Please look after yourself as my little dog dying as caused me to have a flare.

I posted on here yesterday and had some lovely replies which made me feel as if someone understands. Perhaps you could find me under the username Attic and have a look.

Take care, thinking of you, Jenny xx

[Sandy1947 in reply to Attic]

Jenny thanks for the warning about a flare. I have a slight sore throat from getting up with Joey several times a night for the last couple of months. I appreciate your kind thoughts.

[DorsetLady PMRGCAuk volunteer]

Sorry 🌷

[SheffieldJane]

So sad for you Sandy! What a dear little dog. 🌸

[Rose54]

So Sorry

Its so hard but as you say you know you have done the right thing

Its a big chunk of your life gone but never forgotten

xxx

[Sunset123]

I am so sorry to hear about your best friend, Joey. He looks like my ‘little man’ Teddy - a Maltese. I cannot imagine - Heartbroken for you (hugs)

[Sunset123]

I meant ‘she’ - sorry

[PMRpro Ambassador]

I'm so sorry. Hugs - and well done for putting her before yourself and holding on to her for too long. That was a great gift you gave her.

[Josieswolf]

I am so sorry for you. It is heartbreaking when you have to say good bye to an animal you love so much. I don’t work and my dog is my life and really keeps me going. So I do understand my heart goes out to you. Sending hugs your way x

[bunnymom]

Oh Sandy I am so sorry. I know your little dog had a wonderful life with you 🌸🌸🌸

[PMRCanada]

Oh Sandy, how heartbroken you must be missing your sweet pup. Our pets enrich our lives and provide joy and companionship in ways that humans can’t.

My daschund Oscar helped me through some of my most difficult times.

Your love and compassion is evident and you can take solace in the fact that you loved and cared for her right until the end.

You will surely be sad and miss her, which demonstrates the connection you two had.

Do take care of yourself during the grieving process. Hopefully time will lesson your pain. My thoughts are with you during this most difficult time.

[Patience47]

So sorry for your loss.

[Sandradsn]

Thinking of you at this sad time;hugs x

[Sandy1947 in reply to Sandradsn]

Thanks. Hugs are helpful!

[HeronNS]

What a sweet little moppet. 💖

[Sandy1947 in reply to HeronNS]

Thanks. Coming into my house without her little nose up against the door is the worst. Sleeping a little longer and not going out twice during the night is probably better for my health!

[HeronNS in reply to Sandy1947]

I remember when our old cat was put down a few years ago. I wasn't there. My husband had taken her to the vet and she was put to sleep then and there. When we buried her in the back garden I remember looking down on her furry little body curled up and was overwhelmed with gratitude to her for spending her life with me.

[Sandy1947 in reply to HeronNS]

I look at pictures of her over the years and smile with joy! We must be grateful for the unconditional love.

[Wraysbury]

So sorry, they leave such a big hole don’t they. Bless you xx

[Sandy1947 in reply to Wraysbury]

Very big hole. Thanks for the blessings.

[enan-illuc]

Sandy1947,

I am very sorry for your loss. I still think about my Frisky, a friend for 18 years. We had her a very long time but that does not make it easier. Time helps but it is still tough, but you will get through this.

Enan

[Sandy1947]

I the kindness from forum friends help so much.

[Oldman-1]

Hi Sandy, I can relate to your sense of loss. Me and My Mrs. have had a dog of one breed or another over the last 50 yrs, Some have been born with odd misfunctions, the last one was an English Springer. He had cancer at the age of 14. It was soul wrenching to watch him go to sleep , now we have rescued cats. getting to old for all that emotional strain with a dog.

[Sandy1947 in reply to Oldman-1]

Emotional strain speaks to what happens when I open the door and stillness greets me.

[Andymurph]

I thought my heart would never mend when I lost my Golden Retriever Jack. Writing this, three years on , I realise it still hasn't. The lifetime bond we form with our pets is exactly that. A dog's only fault, if they have one, is that they are not with us long enough.

My foot seems to have gone to sleep. there's the "dead weight" of a young retriever called murphy sleeping on it. He's snoring loudly and I think I can still smell that dirty pond water he insisted on swimming in yesterday.

He doesn't look on himself as anyone's replacement. Neither do I. We are just inseparable friends.

[Sandy1947 in reply to Andymurph]

I love learning about Jack and Murphy. Inseparable friends describes Joey and me, too.

[Fieldofdreams]

Dear Sandy, sending you all my love and sympathy for the loss of your dearest Joey, I know and many of us on here can sympathise with how you much feel. Losing our pet is one of the hardest things. When I lost my little boy cat suddenly it was like my heart was broken in pieces. Be kind to yourself and grieve, the loss is deeper than we know. Wrapping love and peace around you today.

[Sandy1947 in reply to Fieldofdreams]

Love and peace helps.

[Monkeymate]

O sandy , I know your pain .im soo very sorry to hear your sad news of joeys passing , but he’s crossed the rainbow bridge an I’m sure is running free . An of all the people in the world he chose you to share his life with. How lucky you were to have found each other, so my friend you take time an take comfort that you loved him enough to let him go , all the best x

[Sandy1947 in reply to Monkeymate]

The Rainbow Bridge helps. Thanks.

[FRnina]

So sorry for you Sandy. I've lost 3 cats, 2 dogs and a horse so know the anguish. We can give our animals a good life and a good death. And we will always have good memories to draw on. Keep strong.

[Sandy1947 in reply to FRnina]

Strength will come little by little. She did look peaceful when she went.

[borednow]

What a poppet - I am so so sorry

[Sandy1947 in reply to borednow]

Thanks.

[Gaijin]

So sorry for your loss. Hope you recover soon from the grief.

[Sandy1947 in reply to Gaijin]

Recovery and loss takes time. I am trying to stay busy.

[Hidden]

Oh Sandy

So very sorry to read this, I’m sure it broke your heart. Take extra care of yourself as any upset can trigger a flare, so take it steady.

Thinking of You 💕

[Sandy1947 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for the warning.

[stellafmdm]

So sorry for you Sandy, virtual hugs and lots of sympathy!!!

[Megams]

~Extra special thoughts Sandy from one animal lover to another - they are like our children who love us unconditionally.

You had an unselfish brave heart (albeit breaking) for putting Joey to rest when you did.

Our Miss Minky ( cat in pic) was adopted fairly soon after our beautiful young Truffles was killed. I just can't live without a furry baby.

Abundant blessings & heartfelt sympathy ~

[Sandy1947]

Blessings make me feel better! Thinking of becoming a dog walker but I don’t want to clean up after them!

[Reethebeat]

So sorry Sandy for your loss. We have always had rescued dogs, apart from one, that was a puppy. Stuck with them through to the end, but them crossing the rainbow bridge is not easy for us. Rest assured that you have given the very best care and relieved the pain at the end. lovex

[S4ndy]

How sad, sending you love and sympathy xxx

[Perkey]

Oh so sorry Sandy brought back memories of my mate Oscar quite a few years ago but still in my thoughts I have never replaced him. 🌺

[Jackoh]

So sorry to hear about this Sandy1947- you can't under estimate the effect losing a close pet has on you. They are part of family! 😘

[Sandy1947 in reply to Jackoh]

Very true...unconditional love is the best!

[Footfairy-1]

My thoughts are with you Sandy. I know that remembering the good times may bring tears right now, but soon the joy of those times will once again fill your heart and make it glow again.

Big hugs coming your way from me x

[Sandy1947 in reply to Footfairy-1]

Looking forward to a glowing heart! Thanks for the hugs!

[GOOD_GRIEF]

HI Sandy:

I know how painful this is for you. It's very hard to let our loved ones go. But there's a point where it is the right thing to do.

I hope you'll consider a rescue to bring a new friend into your good, kind and loving home. All kinds of living beings need to give and receive love, especially those of us who have lived past our "cute" stage.

Joey would approve.

[Sandy1947 in reply to GOOD_GRIEF]

Loved your good advice! May walk dogs at a shelter when I feel better!

[karools16]

Oh Sandy, I am so very sorry. I know that feeling all too well. Lots of hugs and thoughts. You gave her a good life. x

[Hidden]

Thinking of you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx

[Grants148]

So sorry Sandy that you no longer have your sweet little friend with you,l have lost pets myself and l loved them so much.lt is hard when they are no longer there to greet you,everything seems so empty without them.Joey had a wonderful life with you and he would have stayed if that were possible,l know you are missing him so much ,l hope that you will be comforted by the lovely memories that you have of your time together.Sending you love and hugs and caring thoughts,Patricia xxx.

[Sandy1947 in reply to Grants148]

Hugs and caring thoughts are welcome at this difficult time.

[BloomingtonIndiana]

As a dog owner for more than 35 years, let me offer my sympathy.

Throughout the years and the many "slings and arrows..." in my life, my dogs have been steadfast and I understand the pain of loss you are feeling.

[Sandy1947 in reply to BloomingtonIndiana]

Thanks for understanding. The pain is great.

[Daisychain12]

Darling Sandy I’m so sorry and if only I could say anything to ease the pain. As I wrote last week, I had to get medical help when my very ill three year old chihuahua died of liver failure. It was devastating. Your Joey looks like the sweetest little darling. The gap that they leave is huge. I PROMISE you ( and I never promise lightly) it does ease. It becomes a manageable pain. I am sending you a huge hug and much love cxxx

[Sandy1947 in reply to Daisychain12]

Thanks Linda. Hugs really help even though you’re a million miles away! Thanks for the promise!😀

[Alliswellforever]

Blessings ✨✨✨✨

[Rosedail]

I’m so so so very sorry Sandy. Sending hugs from Colorado.

[Sandy1947 in reply to Rosedail]

Thanks for Colorado hugs!

[Hollyseden]

So sorry. Like many of those who have replied to you, I've also lost pets and know the heartbreak it brings. When it is not quite so raw for you, you will be able to remember the joy Joey brought to you too. He had a lovely life and was obviously well loved and cared for. Big but gentle hugs 🤗

[Sandy1947 in reply to Hollyseden]

Can’t wait for the “not so raw to end.” Gentle hugs are appreciated.

[Janll]

So sorry to hear of your loss of a dear friend and pet. Give yourself a huge hug from me. One day you will feel grateful for having such a wonderful support, as she was to you and the pain won’t hurt so much. But right now I send hugs to warm your heart. XOXO Jan

[Sandy1947 in reply to Janll]

Your hugs warm my heart!💕💕💕

[yogabonnie]

Oh Sandy. I am so so sad about Joey. You have been such a wonderful dog lover.. and he was such a lucky puppy! I don't believe in a thing... but would love to be wrong and if I were I would believe that when we die the door to wherever opens up and ALL our DOGS come running out to greet us!!! I will be thinking about the two of you. Holding you both in my hear.

[Sandy1947]

You are so compassionate. Your visualization of our dogs greeting us speaks to my soul. I feel comforted. Thanks!👏👏👏

[walker5]

Sandy,

So sorry for your loss.

I, too, have a Bichon. We adopted him last year after his owner passed away. He’s now 14 and having some issues. I sleep some nights on the couch with him as hubby says no pets allowed in the bedroom. Makes my PMR symptoms more noticeable in the AM, but I enjoy the snuggle time with the little fluff ball.

I think your idea of walking dogs at the rescue place when you are ready is a good idea.

One step at a time.

Did you read the book “Heaven is for Real”? It was based on a true story. If I Remember correctly, the little boy stated that pets were up there, too! I hope that’s true!

A hug to you from upstate NY.

[Sandy1947 in reply to walker5]

Thanks so much for sharing your story about your dog. I will def read Heaven is For Real. I needed the upstate hug! Thanks.

[xdbx]

I’m so sorry and I’m still thinking of you and your beloved Joey. I know she is right there in your heart, in that place where your love for her lives, right now, looking up at you and wagging her tail whenever you look down towards her, and she’s always with you, all the time. Maybe she curls up in there and sleeps when you look away and do other things, and when you look down towards her...there she is, safe and happy in your heart... ❤️

[Sandy1947]

Your response was so meaningful. Putting Joey in my heart visually doing everything she did helps me deal with the pain. Thanks.

[Nagswoman]

Animals break your heart. For me? My dog 11/9/16. My horse 23/8/17. I am struggling to get past this. My lovely partner is my support. He hurts too.

[Sandy1947 in reply to Nagswoman]

Thanks for sharing. Yes, losing animals is heartbreaking.

[Nagswoman in reply to Sandy1947]

Total sympathy.

[Marcy47]

I feel for you Sandy. x x

[Sandy1947 in reply to Marcy47]

Thanks so much!