My husband, now 58, was diagnosed with PD about 10 years ago, although he was showing symptoms at least 10 years before. He had to retire 2 years ago.
Besides the physical effects, he has lost any ability to show empathy or caring towards others. He admits he cannot see how having PD affects our children or me, and does not ever express or show any feelings and/or affection.
I have been fighting to get someone to listen to me about this for years, even before the PD was diagnosed, and have even been told by one doctor that it was a personality clash! He has been referred for counselling for depression but has never had more than one session. I know he is not depressed but is emotionally dysfunctional but the facts are so horrendous, I have not been believed.
Finally, after keeping a log of events showing his state of mind, strange behaviour, lack of emotion and unnatural re-actions, he was referred to a psychiatric team who actually listened to me and ordered an MRI scan, which has shown a mass in/around his brain. It is thought this has been growing very slowly for years but is not expected to be the reason for his lack of emotion. Further tests are to be done at a very specialist hospital, where I hope he will get some much needed help .
I was able to tell the doctor who decided we had a personality clash, about the mass and they are now asking for my husband to get CBT.
My husband shows no worry or any other feelings about having PD or the mass - I think he is lucky in this. As a couple, it is all too late for us, as I no longer love him as my husband - there is no relationship because relationships have to be two way and he has nothing to give.
I do care for and about him, but I feel trapped and am desperate to escape, but can't because he has mismanaged his finances so badly, I am having to work to pay our living expenses and sort out his debts.
OK - vent over! I do have wonderful adult children and an amazing support group of family and friends, so I get to laugh and smile a lot, but I truly do not know what to do!
Does anyone have a magic wand?