Last night I told my daughter that I've decided to stay home and not participate in our annual grandmother, mother, sisters, daughters, vacation this year. She understood why when I explained to her that my leg cramps, swelling, fatigue, and the stress that comes with vacationing was too much for me this year. But today I have to tell my mother who then will stress out on why I can't go and will take it personally at 80 years old. But I feel that this year I need to think of myself, since last year I went and wished I hadn't. Any advice?