Is there anybody out there that had to leave there spouse or significant other do to the stress of relationship.
I notice my Parkinson's get worse when upset.
Afraid to leave because Don't want to be sick alone but really I'm alone anyway and he's affecting my health. The other night i was out of control shaking all night.
Not sleeping for days .
If anyone had to make the choice to love themselves & self care over relationships, tell me why and how it turned out ?
I’m doing the opposite- my ex husband is kind enough to basically move in with me when he’s not traveling for work. We have a daughter who has significant challenges and needs care round the clock. I guess if relationship was not good to start with then additional stress is a good reason to leave.
That is awesome that you guys can come together for your daughter, I always feel like it is strange when people Who have been married a long time Break up and are no longer friends, they love each other one time but it depends how the breakable & went down I guess
Yes after my Parkinson's diagnosis I did end up leaving a difficult relationship I should have left long ago. I can vouch that being alone is vastly better than continuing in a stressful relationship. Stress aggravates everything.
Thank you for writing me back, I was wondering if the relationship started to affect your health in a bad way or just general stress, are you dating anyone now? I feel like he would want to date somebody who's got a chronic disease ?
The relationship did aggravate a different problem which then resolved. I am interested in dating but am not actually dating anyone at present. As to your final question it looks like there is a typo so not able to answer.
My ex was seeing someone else & I started to suspect and ended up finding him with someone else on our 17th wedding anniversary. All the stress from all that brought out the PD symptoms. I didn't realize that's what it was, I thought I had carpel tunnel because my hand was getting stiff. When I went to the doctor he also noticed my arm wasn't swinging and my leg was dragging. So what a winter that was, getting divorced & getting a PD diagnosis within a couple of months of each other. But...here is the good news. The night I found my husband with someone else, I saw a friend that I had worked with but hadn't seen in awhile and he asked how I was doing and I told him not so good. He said give me a call sometime if you need someone to talk to. Well, it took me 2 years to call him (I needed the time by myself), but we've now been together 11 yrs and married almost 4 and he is a Godsend. So...you still can find happiness after a diagnosis of PD.
Thank you so much for telling me part of your story.
I have had Parkinson's for 4 years and I knew my husband had been unfaithful but I found all his text messages and dirty pictures of some girl he had seen & a bunch of other stuff.
He just keeps lying and lying and he never says he sorry and it is really affecting my health.
We have been married for 27 years and I could forgive all the infidelity but I can't forgive the way that he treats me daily well he's treating other women like princesses.
Its so scary to think of being alone with Parkinson's but I'm really alone anyway.
It was so nice hearing a positive story, maybe there is hope.
Just being a 52-year-old woman, and 25 pounds overweight, I feel like nobody wants me anymore and then add chronic disease but I guess whatever is meant to be will be. maybe I'm not even meant to be with anyone, I did give all my youth away to man that did not deserve it.
The bottom line is I will always love him as the father of my child and somebody I spent 27 years with but I have to love myself more.
Again thank you for responding it was very helpful.
Joyce
No Looking Back. It is what it is. Look to a wonderful life from now on. You can only be responsible for yourself not anybody else. And it is how we play the game that is important. Lots of platitudes however I believe every single one of those.
You are so awesome and so positive, thank you❤️
Hi Joyce, you need to love yourself you are worthy of so much more. A carer is called that because they care. I was married for 25 years but being alone is not scary just the thought is. Having a PD does not mean you cant find a soulmate. You must care for yourself its the beginning of a healthy prognosis.
Be strong you may find you make and keep friends better without his negativity around you
Love yourself.
Oh my god, you sound so much like me I thought I had written this and forgot about it. My significant other just moved out since New Years. It was pretty stressful being with a man who called and texted other women and lied about it. I'm 52, and about 50 pounds overweight. I was reluctant to break it off, he's very good looking, he has a great job, so I never asked him to leave. I'm doing pretty good by myself though. He always treated me like a slave, and insulted me, even though I work full time and have a plethora of medical problems. I was married to someone else before him who I had children with, and find myself wishing I was still with that person, just so I could have the family unit back. Life is full of hard choices. Sometimes you have to out-fox the fox, and be two steps ahead, which is stressful as well.
Keep at it Joyce, life may get you down. But take those lemons and make lemon pie. Sometimes we need to look at the half empty and make it the half full.
If someone doesn't like you or want to be with you with a chronic disease such as ours. Then their not there right one. And are too shallow to see the beauty which we bring.
So encouraging to hear good stories with happy endings! I've done some internet dating and your fears are not unfounded ... I've had men disappear when they hear about my PD, even though they would never know I had it if I was right next to them. My symptoms are pretty controlled. Can't blame them. I'd be scared if I were them too. Not everyone is this way, but just one interaction like that is just another way PD messes with your life!
Stress is very bad for parkinson's - as if sleep wasn't difficult enough. We're in the middle of the building project on an old house with a builder who likes charging and charging. The stress really didn't help my symptoms.
Still calming down now. But leave him if you feel alone anyway.
Thank you❤️❤️❤️
Stress is terrible for PD symptoms. I really don't think we have the ability to cope with it anymore in a reasonable fashion.
I would encourage you to not be alone! Get some support going for yourself. Do you live anywhere where there might be a PD support group? Or an exercise group? Or a more generalized support group? Or family, or friends?
The most important thing is that the person you're living with is draining you of strength... not giving you strength or comfort or support. You deserve better than that! We all do.
Thank you so much for that, I'm overwhelmed with the support I'm getting from you guys.
I have a hard time with support groups , not this one online but in person, it freaks me out when I see people that I've progressed a lot and I'm scared of my future, I even tried rocksteady boxing in the same thing happened I left in fear.
Maybe someday soon I will come to find peace with it all.
Thanks Joyce
I hear you. My husband doesn't understand that he is causing me loads of stress and is making everything far worse. He gets annoyed when I need him to help me do things, despite saying he'll be there for me. Few weeks ago I had a cold/flu and he rolled his eyes when I asked him if he could make me a tea! Made me feel like such a burden.
I'm seeing a counsellor to help me get up the courage to leave, buts it's too hard and I feel I'll be trapped for ever. I'd rather be alone.
I understand ! Not only does my husband not do stuff for me but he still expects me to do everything for him, get his beers, make his dinners, clean after him, not only is it emotionally hard here it's literally physically harder. Thank you so much for getting back to me it means a lot.
I don't know you but I have a feeling you're a lot stronger than you even know and I have faith that you will get away from him
I ! ❤️j
Hard to believe but I'm the male version of you girls. Though I'll younger and started late with children. Watch the children feed the children, clean the house, laundry, take care the appointments. Been separated almost a year now. Still do a lot of stuff but with out her presence or something stress levels decreased significant that doctor says I don't look like a person with Parkinson's. Meds are down, health up. Still watch kids and make food and make appointments for them when needed. But something about the relationship want healthy. The constant verbal banter or you forgot to do this now it costs us more money. Since then I control my money and make it work with the bills we both accrued still on disability and with out that stress.
Oh course being a guy, I don't ask for help because I feel the need to show myself I can do it and I can. But something about our relationship got tainted, and poison us. Counseling may help she says I'm the one, I see her as the one causing the problems. Deep down we both know we both are I hope.
Hi joy love magic. I recognize it. An important friend of mine gave me so much tension that I had to break up with her. Because of the stress my parkinson went so much worse that I could not bear it anymore. They donot understand. It is better to be more on my own or with people wwho donot give you stress
Hi Joy, I'm so sorry to hear this. You have to do what's best for you. But I would make sure you are not totally alone, in other words do you have a support network that will check on you, or have through your health care provider an aide that would come help with specific things? Try not to leave yourself totally alone. I'm sort of on the opposite end of this. My sister is the one with Parkinsons and she lives around the corner with my mom. My sister has become nasty, belligerent, even after all my husband and I have done for her. She will suddenly text me and curse at me for not reason. Every time I think things are going ok, she will sabotage the relationship. I know it's the illness, but it's getting to be too much. She does nothing to help herself, even though there's a Parkinsons Center right nearby. It's become untenable. My poor 92 year old mom's in the middle. So for my own good I have to just sever ties with her for now anyway. We all need to do what's best for ourselves. As you said you're really alone anyway, so if he's making things worse, get rid of him! I wish you all the best.
Joy please go back to rock steady boxing, it is so awesome and really delays the progression of symptoms plus the people there are a great support
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