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For spouse caregivers with Parkinson’s who have lost a loved one

When l I was caring for my wife I made it a point to not show emotions about what was happening to her in front of her I did my crying in the shower Or out door. love for one another that’s all the motivation I needed But I could not demonstrate emotional love in front of her because it hurt her to see me sad. But now my love is overflowing and she’s not here anymore but I find a new motivation for being a caregiver just this time I’m my own caregiver . Our friends are making it harder though and I know they don’t intend it to be hurtful every time they talk about how much they miss Joanie and how awful it must be for me well you know how that makes a person feel . The best friends are the ones that don’t bring it up and just treat me like I am a guy that went through a tough time & show me some respect.

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The people who bring up your loss and talk about are in the process of mourning as are you. The more you talk about it the faster you will come to realize that it did happen and you can move on. Your wife would want you to go on with life. Share your emotions yell, hit things, cry with your friends, your family you only have so many tears to cry for her and then you will have no choice but to do something else like smile. That day will come it may be weeks or months or years but you will get there.

Good luck

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Thank you for your insight! I need that today!😤

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Hope you are going ok.

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Good morning friend. How is the fishing trip? Or did you tell me you're more into football?

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Roy, you're a gem!

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Thank you Becky. Thank you for the contribution to the discussion.

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You must be replying to some other Man’s post Roy Or else your witty sarcasm is completely lost on me and unappreciated

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You might slip a "word to the wise" to one of your friends -- maybe thanking him/her for avoiding forthright discussions. Inevitably, the word will get around that you prefer not to talk about your loss, at least when you're all together. It's so hard to know what to do, and of course everyone wants to be sensitive. Speaking strictly for myself, I'm always relieved (and grateful) to have a heads-up if a person with whom I'm socializing but don't know well is facing an enormous loss.

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Been better will be again Astra7

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