When l I was caring for my wife I made it a point to not show emotions about what was happening to her in front of her I did my crying in the shower Or out door. love for one another that’s all the motivation I needed But I could not demonstrate emotional love in front of her because it hurt her to see me sad. But now my love is overflowing and she’s not here anymore but I find a new motivation for being a caregiver just this time I’m my own caregiver . Our friends are making it harder though and I know they don’t intend it to be hurtful every time they talk about how much they miss Joanie and how awful it must be for me well you know how that makes a person feel . The best friends are the ones that don’t bring it up and just treat me like I am a guy that went through a tough time & show me some respect.