Married 35 years. Wife diagnosed 5 years ago. Her issues are freezing when walking, no tremors. Was told exercise critical. For the past five years she has simply ignored all the advice. Has relied on a power chair. Now she is almost unable to walk at all. I am angry. I have made many changes in the house and built a number of items all in an effort to improve her quality of life. I feel that as a partnership we each need to do what we can to fight the disease. She has done nothing, in my opinion.
Her refusal to exercise has allowed the disease to progress more quickly and our ability to live a happy life as partners has deteriorated more quickly. I feel she has abandoned the marriage by not doing her part. I don't want a divorce, but neither do I want to sit by and watch her continue down hill, dragging me with her. I think I have done more to help her, care more about her than she care about herself.
Doctor said apathy and depression is part of Parkinson's. OK, but doesn't she have some responsibility to herself, her marriage and our partnership to fight? She sees a psychiatrist several times a year and has never expressed concerns about apathy. She is being treated for depression but has never said her lack of desire to exercise is a problem.
DO I go or do I stay? I do not intend to leave her. I will continue to care for her, I just don't want to be tied to my marriage vows anymore. Outside relationships are not an option for me as long as I am married.
What do I do?