I have been sitting on the side lines reading your incredibly supportive posts and felt that now was the time to say something about myself.
I am Vicki’s Mum. You all sound like such wonderful people and I cannot fully express my gratitude for the love that you show to each other, either virtually or in person at Ovacome events and meetings.
Vicki’s Dad and I have been with her everyday since her admittance to the local hospice, along with her husband Simon who has stayed with her 24/7. She is being well looked after but there is no getting away from the inevitable.
I promised, that as I saw Vicki into this world, I would see her out, no matter how hard this is.
I will keep you updated
Love to you all
Barbara xxx
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MY heart, my love and my thoughts are with you at this incredible difficult time.I hope the love you have for each other will in some way help you through. It sounds that Vicki has a wonderful, wonderful family and that she is getting the best care surrounded by the ones she loves and who love her.I Wish I had a magic wand but alas all I can send you is my heartfelt and sincere wishes that you are all surrounded by love and comfort .I am thinking of you all. Chris
Thank you so much for reaching out to us, when your own life has been so terribly impacted.
I feel so sad about Vicki’s situation. It seems so unfair.
I have a daughter Vicki’s age, my only child, and so beloved by me.
She has been my main caregiver during my Ovarian Cancer’s horrid journey.
We both tested BRCA1 positive and after witnessing what I have been through as well as my sister with breast cancer, she has already gone through risk reduction surgery and scheduled for a double mastectomy next year.
I could not bear to face what you are facing.
I just want to wish you and your family, and especially Vicki, the strength to get through this with love and grace.
I have been thinking about Vicki every day and can’t really put into words how sad and sorry I am for all the family at this difficult time. As a parent I can’t imagine how hard this is for you. Vicki is a truly special, caring and much loved lady on this forum and has supported so many of us with her kind and wise words. I’m glad she is being well cared for and send all of you my heartfelt wishes that you are surrounded by comfort, peace and love,
Thank you Barbara for taking the time to post at this incredibly difficult time. Vicki is so young and it breaks my heart to read your post. Be very proud of your amazing daughter who has shown such strength. Thinking of you all xx Kathy xx
Thank you Barbara for letting us know how Vicki is. She has been such an inspiration to so many of us here and continues to be so. It’s so nice to meet with you I just wish the circumstances were different, if we can offer any support to you and yours we are here.
I can’t imagine how difficult this time is for you and all your family but just by being there for her, as I’m sure you’ve always been, it must be such a comfort. It’s at difficult times like this we all want our mum with us and I hope you are able to be peaceful together and share your love for each other.
I send love and thoughts to you all, words seem so inadequate but we all love your daughter too. Take lots of care lovely lady ❤️Xx Jane
Thank you so much for your message. I cannot begin to understand how difficult it must be for you to see your daughter go through this and I'm sure you would give anything to swap places with her. For Vicki to have her family around her must be a great source of comfort for her. I think what we all we all want for ourselves and our loved ones is to be comfortable, pain-free and surrounded by love. If we can have that then I pray that we will be at peace. x
Thank you for updating us. Cannot even begin to find the words, only to say that you are all in my thoughts and prayers...amazing how somebody you have never met can become such a part of your life.
Thank you so much for posting and giving us the update about Vicki as she has been in my thoughts. My thoughts are with you & all the family at this particularly difficult time.I am pleased that Vicki is receiving the care she needs as this is so, so important.
Your post was very hard to read - so must have been so hard for you to write. Thank you for sharing. It is good to know that she has love and her family with her.
I think of Vicky every day and it’s so hard to find the words but thank you for your post. It must have been so hard to write. It is good to know she is being well cared for and surrounded by love.
I had the pleasure of meeting your beautiful daughter at an Ovacome event and have know her on the forum for a couple of years. She has helped so many of us and is so loved.
Thank you for your brave and caring post. It is clear to see where Vicki gets her thoughtfulness and generous spirit from. I cannot think of anything to add to what friends of Vicki have already said. I am glad you are all surrounded with love and Vicki has her mum with her. Our thoughts and love are with you all during this very sad and painful time.
Hi Barbara. My heart goes out to you, Vicki and your family.
I read your post and realised who Vicki gets her ways from! She has provided so much support since I joined the forum a year+ ago and I messaged her a few days ago to ask how she was doing. Vicki took the time to respond to me despite what is happening in her life, wishing my mum all the best in her treatment for this awful, awful disease. Bit like you, thinking of others, taking the time for others despite what you must all be going through.
My heart goes out to you, Barbara. I hold Vicki in high esteem, as she is a fabulous person and always so supportive of her teal sisters in this community. Wish I could be there for her now. Xx. Maus
Thank you for taking the time to write to us on here at what must be an unbearably sad time for you all - words are inadequate at tones like these but just wanted to say that I’m thinking of you all , especially Vicki as you go through this - my own mum is less than engaged with my illness in part because she cannot cope with the thought of losing her only child , so I am deeply moved by your support for your daughter at s time when she needs you more than ever - wishing her peace and that you are all surrounded by love x
So very sorry to hear this Barbara , I am so sad . Vicki is much loved on this forum, and hugely supportive to everyone. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
I can’t even contemplate how sad you must be feeling at this time. Vicki Is much loved and admired on this site for the advice she has offered to so many others who have sadly joined this forum due to this devastating illness. I am so comforted that she has such support from her family at this difficult time as I am sure she is. Sending huge hugs and prayers to you all x x x
Thank you so much for keeping us up to date. Vicki is a lovely soul and has supported me and many others over the past few years with her wise advice and I am very glad to know that she has the overwhelming love and support of you and the family. There is little to say that has not already been expressed by the lovely ladies so I will just send Vicki and you all my love. Please know you are in my thoughts.
Thank you so much for taking the time to think of us. Vicki is so well loved on this site. I am thinking of you and your family during this difficult time x x
Thank you, Barbara, for this incredibly hard update. I don't think there is a single person on this forum who has not been given a kind, supportive word and warm embrace by our Yoshbosh. My prayers are for your whole family.
I saw my beautiful daughter Jaci out at the early age of 48. We should not outlive our children, however, it does help to be with them to the end.Thinking of you as a family
Your post made me cry. You sound so strong, loving and dignified. As a mother myself, I can't imagine what it must feel like to watch one of my daughter's deal with everything this disease throws at us. We expect to leave this world first. That is how it should be,!
Thank you for your update , that you took the time to let us know here on the forum. Especially at such a difficult time for yourselves. lots of love to you, your husband, Simon and of course to Vicky. X
Ah Barbara, my heart goes out to you. You must be so proud of your brave and kind daughter to face losing her must be the most terrible thing you can have happen. Wishing you all strength and love and Vicki the tranquility and peace she so deserves. 💐😘
Thank you for your update Barbara. Vicki is such a remarkable lady and has been supportive of many of us on this forum. She shows such courage and compassion and inspires us all to face what this life offers. Give her my love and thank her for all she has done for us suffering with this shocking disease. So glad to hear she is surrounded by those who love her and wish her happy and peaceful memories of a life of fulfilled. You too are a strong and courageous woman and will be comforted by those wonderful family moments. Love and best wishes to you and her family.
Thank you so much for updating us all. As you can see from the posts your daughter has touched so many lives. Please tell her that people that she has never met are thinking of her and sending her love and best wishes. I hope that you and all the family can take some small comfort from the messages here. Pam
I met up with Vicki and Carole at Wisley a couple of years ago, and have followed Vicki's progress ever since. Every so often there is someone on this site who can be relied on for thoughtful advice, and Vicki was certainly one of them. I hope her passing is peaceful.
Dear Barbara , your message is so moving . Sending you love and strength at this unbearable time .
Mary x
Thank you for your update Barbara. There are no words I can find to express my huge admiration for the strength it must have taken to write this. It's at times like this that the unfairness of life really hits home.
Thinking of you all and wishing you lots of strength at this time
Thank you for this update. Vicki has been a great comfort to me since I joined the forum - always being there with sound advice. Sending love and prayers to you all, Wendy
SO so sorry that you, your family and especially Vicki have to go through this suffering and to know that you bring your daughter comfort along with the rest of her close family is all she or any of us, could ask. All else has been said already but I wanted to send Vicki and you a virtual hug and support and thank you for updating us. oxoxoxx
You can certainly see where Vicki her strength of character from. Your daughter is such an amazing person and the loveliest friend in the world. I know how she has relied on you and your husband during these last few years, looking after the girls and Vicki and Simon and how grateful she was. We often discussed how we couldn’t manage this without the support of family around us and how lucky we are.
We were diagnosed around the same time and we became close friends. There’s conversations I’ve had with Vicki that I could never had with close family or friends. Sometimes it’s only the people that walk the same walk that can really get it.
I’ve said to her she’s the best friend I have that I haven’t met. I was so hoping that we would have the opportunity to meet this summer.
I am glad that you have joined this site and you can see how much love there is for Vicki, she really is one in a million.
Dear Michelle, I know Vicki’s friend Kate has been in touch with you about what is happening at the moment. I’m really glad that you have responded to me.
When I see all the replies that I have had, I can see how you all rely on each other to get you through difficult times.
This is my difficult time and I never imagined that it would be so soon 😢. Vicki with her usual ‘dark humour’ remarked that she didn’t even get to be a ‘statistic!
I will keep an eye on you all and pass comment where it is appropriate.
My heart broke to read this as I am sitting here with my daughter and two grandchildren. I am in the States but Vicki has been such a caring voice to me and I valued her support so much. I have been really worried about her. Thank you so much for writing this message. I am glad to know she is surrounded by those who love her but at the same time my heart breaks for you all. Xoxo
Oh Barbara no mum should ever have to lose their child, I’m so sorry that it has come to this.
I had the pleasure of meeting Vicki in person a couple of years ago as well as being fb friends with her ever since. She is a truly special, strong and lovely woman. All of us who have been on this journey with her feel this very deeply. Please give her a huge but gentle hug, and sending you one too. Lots of love to you all, Marian xxx
How hard for you to post this news. I am devastated to read this. My heart goes out to you al, at this very stressful, difficult time. I am so very sorry. sending love and strep for the days ahead. x
So sad to read this. Sending love to Vicki and all the family. She has been a supportive teal sister to so many and you can tell from the many responses how much she is loved.
Barbara, and family I am so deeply saddened to hear what is happening. I am a firm believer that loved ones are always with us no matter what. Many prayers for you and your family. Much love Liz. 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
Thank you for your very moving post. Vicki has been an incredible source of wisdom, humour, friendship and courage for me and many others on the forum. I know how proud of her you must be. With all my love to Vicki and her family, Ali x
Thank you. Barbara for taking the time to let us know. Your daughter is a credit to you and has been amazingly supportive to so many of us on this support group. I can not begin to imagine what you are going through. This illness is so very cruel. I send you lots of love and strength. Xxxx
Thank you for updating us. Vicki has been an inspiration for me. Whenever I have needed advice or just wanted to vent my frustrations she has been there with support and advice despite her own personal struggle. Sending all my love to you and her husband and children.
I wish I could find the words to explain how much comfort your daughter gave me when I was first diagnosed. She is so kind and caring. As indeed you are.
I am sending love and strength and hope for you both.
Dear Barbara, I cannot even imagine what you must be going through and yet have the strength to post this message. Your post made me cry and I feel very sad to hear about Vicki's prognosis. I pray that there is a miracle and Vicki can have some more time with her family. I met Vicki at the Ovacome Health and Wellbeing Day in March and talked about our experiences since diagnosis. I was hoping to see her again at another Ovacome event!! My thoughts and prayers are with Vicki and all of you. I hope Vicki is comfortable and not in pain. Sending you all love and peaceful blessings 👃Samixa X X
Thank you for your brave post about your brave and inspirational daughter Vicki, we are all thinking of you during this difficult time and sending lots of love and hugs x Vicki has helped so many of us on this site with all her words of wisdom and support, I bet you're so proud x
Thanks so much for sharing your journey with your lovely daughter. Just wanted you to know that you are very much in my thoughts and prayers as I was in the same place as you with my beloved wife Carol back in February/March.
I wish you peace and the bittersweet comfort of being able to be with Vicki, who, although we have never met, I hold in the highest regard - her words were a great comfort to me when we started down the rocky road of bowel obstruction.
My love to you all, and especially to Vicki and her carers.
So sorry to read of Vicki’s, and her family’s, very sad situation. Thank you for the update - thinking of you all and sending much love - Vicki is a lovely, lovely woman xxxx
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