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Hello everyone...last night a neighbour called to see me to tell me that a girl that we both know has been given two months to live. Sarah is 37 she went to school with my son who died. A year last Nov we met in the chemo unit, she too had been diagnosed with OC, stage 1c the same as me. She had surgery to remove the ovary and tumour,everything else left as she hoped to have children. Within 8 months she was told the cancer was back. She is at home near me being looked after by her parents. I am so upset, it doesn’t scare me that we both had the same staging I am just feeling angry and so so sad for her, her fiancé and her family. I want to scream it’s not fair but as we all know life sometimes isn’t. x

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Suzanne333

Oh no. That is so bloody sad and unfair. She’s so young. Wish this disease would go to hell and stay there.

So so sad. Xxxxx hugs xxxxx

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Yoshbosh

This disease is so indiscriminate in what it does. How bloody unfair. Vicki x

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Katmal-UK

That's so upsetting. Always seems harder to hear this type of news when one so young is affected :( xx

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triplets

Thank you ladies, can’t shake off this feeling of utter sadness for her and her family. x

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Seasun36-uk in reply to triplets

Hi Triplets. All I can is - it’s good that you care so much! Can you do anything practical for her? A card, flowers, even a visit - if appropriate?

I’ve just read your profile....you have had your share of trouble....Do hope your husband is doing well....and your triplets. Linda xx

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lesleysage

Oh, 'triplets', how incredibly sad. My 'advice' (hate that word!) is sharing my experience that don't try to shake off the feeling of utter sadness. Just receive it as yours, 'own' it as part of who you are and how the world affects you. I found that once I did this, it somehow enabled me to notice other intense feelings ... and often in contrast, so joy or delight at really small things. After time, I realised the utter sadness is still mine but so are lots of other feelings.

Warm wishes, take care and be kind to yourself through such a distressing time. Lesley x

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Alifit

It’s hard to comprehend the injustice of this ghastly disease. My thoughts go out to her and her family and of course to you.

Love to you, Ali xx

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gmc920

So very sorry to hear this. This disease is so horrible and unpredictable 😢

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Petrolhead

So sad for the family and friends. It really is a bit too close to home for most of us. The thought of people we know going through treatment for this disease is horrid and outcomes such as this terribly hard to bear. At least here we do have people who understand.

Fay

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Jen85

This truly is a horrible disease. As a fellow 30 something with OC this is another reminder of the indiscriminate nature of this disease. I've been told so many times by doctors that OC is the last thing they would expect in someone my age. We often go through years of IBS, endometriosis etc diagnosis before a scan is done. I've heard similar from older patients too. I'm thinking about how to raise awareness of the symptoms in all women, but particularly younger women who often have a longer period until diagnosis (although some are very lucky to be found at stage 1, like me).

My thoughts are with her family and her fiance. It's all very unfair x

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BeeWild

So so sad, unfair and shocking xx how awful for them all and you! Sending hugs x

Life can be crap and sometimes some are very unlucky but we have to keep on hoping that we get time and plenty of time. We have to get up every day, put on the make up and get out, otherwise we are on a downwards spiral. I am sorry about your neighbour but remember we are all different.

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babyboy1

So sorry to hear this and so close to home which doubles the intensity of your sadness for Sarah and her family. We have all certainly drawn the short straw getting this terrible disease- unfortunately it's a lottery as to who gets it! I just lost a friend to cancer, admittedly she was older and had had a long remission, but we were firm friends. However I couldn't attend her funeral as I was seeing the Dr for scan results and chemo that same day and time, so I sent a card and we sang hymns in her honour the previous night at church at our special favourite hymns and mulled wine and cheese night! Its hard, but life goes on as we cannot change what we would wish to change, we can only be the best we can be and seize the day!xxxDawn!🌺🌺

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Jessica-DianeB

Very difficult, so close to home physically and in your shared diagnosis, let alone the friendship. I hope you have lots of support around you xx

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triplets

Sarah died this morning at home with all her family and boyfriend with her. I just feel so heartbroken. Thank you all for your kindness. x

in reply to triplets

So very sad. This is such a cruel disease. Thinking of you and her poor family and boyfriend. xx

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Solange

How utterly sad! I'm so sorry that you have this to be upset about but I fully understand why you are. Try not to think too much about the poor girl. Easier said than done, I know but you can't change anything really and you've had so much sadness and problems in your life. I feel so sad sometimes that so many people much younger than me are dying with this hateful Ov Ca. I'm 75 and have been diagnosed for eleven and a half years and sometimes I feel very upset about the unfairness of it all, and almost guilty - but very grateful too!!

Thinking of you, with love, Solange 😊

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Solange

Oh no!! I've just seen that Sarah has died. I'm so, so sorry.

Solange xx

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Lily-Anne

How very sad. Ovarian cancer seems to just march on unchecked. It’s time we had more research and drug options. I’ve followed so many research articles and trials yet still we are using the same drugs. I’m so sad for her and her family

Same stage as me in 2012

LA xx

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Katiebairdie

I’m so sorry for you, it so close for you physically and mentally. Love to you and her family.

Kathy ❤️❤️❤️

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ShropshireJo

Such sad news. Sending you love and gentle hugs. Jo 🌺🌼🌸🌻🌹

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