This is difficult

[Damelza]

I feel bad when tiredness hits and I can't do anything. I just seen this on FB and thought we could all try to give ourselves a break. 😀

[Millie-c]

Very true. Iv always tried to make sure everyone is ok before me and it's difficult to do any different, but I have learnt to listen to my body and rest when it needs it. I do feel like I'm replenishing myself.

Mandy, xx

[Damelza in reply to Millie-c]

Good for you Mandy. If we go down we can't look after anyone, so that's why we have to listen to our bodies as you say..😀

[27-359]

It's not selfish to listen to what your body is telling you. It would be rude to ignore it!

Jenny

[Mrs_Atko]

Love this...

[giovannabett]

I love it. remember this is also true for other challenging areas of life, just for example, a new job. a new house, relationships, whether old or new. I find myself tackling my cancer because I know I will get the help I need and I get praise for it, but other situations particularly if solicitors get involved, very challenging, do I argue with them, do I go along with a situation that is not me or do I somehow negotiate a 'deal' without something ending up expensive and risking a Court appearance!! Life's trials!!

[Lupilindz]

So true, on my good days I'm like a whirlwind, shattered the next xx

[Hidden]

I love this and just thinking of Indegos post yesterday, we should all write this down and read it every day to remind ourselves. We are also important and more important than we realise

[shanlynn]

Thank you for this, why do we all feel so guilty if we need to rest during this awful time? I've felt the need to justify my need to rest at times and now I have made it crystal clear that for my 34 yrs of marriage I have not only worked full time for 29yrs of them but have been the ONLY cleaner of the house while looking after twin daughters and their needs until they were at least 20! Plus got the shopping in every week and did all the cooking!!! Well there we are rant over. So PLEASE none of us must feel guilty for caring for ourselves now and putting ourselves first for once in our lives.......may we all have many more years ahead of us PLEASE GOD XXXX

[Damelza in reply to shanlynn]

That's not a rant shanlynn, it's the truth, sometimes I think the girls are a lot harder to bring up than the boys

[luluw]

I think maybe I need to get this tattooed in my arm?? I remember one of the first things I did when I came home from hospital was to clean the bathroom sink!!

[Damelza in reply to luluw]

Nobody sees the work we do

[ellseybellsey]

It's true we are always trying to look after others than ourselves .

Ellsey

[minard]

I read this at just the right time! I've had a bad night's sleep worrying because my 21 year old daughter was out late and then a text arrived from some poor holidaymakers at our flat who had no hot water for the second time. I've spent the whole day trying to get my brain in gear to find a plumber on a Sunday(!) whilst at the same time keeping a lid on it! Time to stop x

[Damelza in reply to minard]

Oh you poor thing, it seems everything comes at once doesn't it.

[Nesie237]

Damelza, I absolutely agree. You have to take care of yourself first. We are all responsible for making ourselves as happy as possible, whatever our problems are. Nesie 237

[Caroles1]

Totally agree with this,I'm 18 months out from chemo,but I still get tired,I haven't the strength or stamina,I used to have but I have learnt not to make excuses anymore, if people don't understand its down to their ignorance, which is not my fault!

Be kind to yourselves ladies and be proud! Xxx

[Damelza in reply to Caroles1]

Oh Carole's, I hope your energy levels start to come up soon. You are right, if people don't understand your situation you don't have to give an explanation.

Best wishes

[LesleyGreengran]

Thanks for this. I sometimes have to tell myself that I don't have to make up to people for all the things I can no longer do.

[Damelza]

Too right, Lesley, you don't have to feel bad because you are feeling bad