Hi, I've written a couple of times before regarding my hubby who is now two years and six months post Oesophagectomy. A few months following surgery in most things he was his normal self, although his physical strength had not returned and he did get very tired, which was understandable.
Then, a year ago he just seemed to give up on everything and was extremely low. At first the doctor treated him for depression but after several months of no improvement he was referred to a clinical psychologist who specialised in treating cancer patients. He explained to us that the reason my husband was like this was all down to the chemotherapy and the after effects of the surgery which effectively had changed his life. Because he didn't take things easy to start with to help his body recover it came to the point when enough was enough and his body shut down to force him heal.
Having these things explained was a great help to start with and slowly things started looking more positive. Now though, all is slipping back. He spends 80% of his time in bed, has no physical strength (which is becoming worse due to his inactivity) and just doesn't want to do anything at all, see friends, or go out. Also, he is so negative and doesn't even want me to do things to help out, He even seems to want me to give up on the things that keep me going.
This is taking it's toll and I just don't know what to do. It's like grieving for someone who is still alive. I don't know how to help him.
Has anyone else gone through this and is there hope please?