Update: The update is my partner has terminal cancer... - NRAS


33,527 members41,529 posts


Carolsos profile image

The update is my partner has terminal cancer. Big masses in both kidneys and lung, so no chance of surgery! Will let you know more later, an still trying to process it all. Thanks for listening

77 Replies

Just sending a hug 🤗 xx

Sending my heartfelt love xx 🤗🤗

So sorry to read this Carolsos, sending love to you both xxx

I'm so sorry to read this - much, much love to you both ❤️❤️❤️

I can't like your post darling. Sending hugs for you both.xxxx

So sorry to hear this. Love to you both. Xx

I’m so so sorry. Awful time for you both. Your heads must be spinning. Lots of love & hugs to you both xx

I am so very sorry to read your post. My love to you both. Keep posting, we are always here for you.

I’m so sorry to hear this …I’m sure you’ll be feeling completely shell shocked….. sending you both all my love xxx

Sending you all my love. I’m so sorry xx

So sorry but please remember that we're here 💐

Oh no. Sending you both gentle hugs.

Our thoughts and hearts are with you xx

So sorry, sending love

So sorry to hear this. Sending hugs x

Very saddened to hear this. Much love to you both.

Sending hugs.

Blessings to you both

Hi Carolsos

I'm so sorry - both myself and my wife send sympathy. There's lots of practical help out there, dont be afraid to ask.


So sorry to hear this. Love to you both.

So very sorry to read this. Sending lots of hugs.


Thinking of you both. We are here for you always. Gentle hugs and much love xx

So sorry to read your news Carol, sending much love to you both xx

So very very sorry to hear this. Take care of yourselves. X

Dear Carol, so sorry for you all, sending love and hugs through the ether x

So sorry to hear this. Sending love.🥰

Oh dear Carol, I'm so sorry to hear this, what a nasty shock. Sending love and wishing you both strength to cope. xx

I'm so very sorry, thinking of you both xx

I'm so sorry to hear your awful news. Sending hugs xxx

Very sorry Carolsos. Sending hugs to you both. It's bound to have knocked you both for six. You know where we are when you need us. Xx

So sorry to hear this. Life can be a bitch …. Take care x

So sorry to hear this. Sending love and hugs xxx

So very sorry to hear this. Thinking of you both x

I am so sorry to read this. Thinking of you both. Xx

So sorry...sending love to you both....

I’m so sorry to hear your devastating news. Kindest wishes to you both. x

Oh what a shock. So sorry to hear this. Sending love & best wishes x


Oh Carol I’m so sorry for you both. Thinking of you. 🙏

Sending my love and sympathy to you both. So sorry to hear that news.

So sorry.


I'm so very sorry to hear this devastating news. Sending you both love and strength xx

Thinking of you both

You are in our thoughts!

💔absolutely heartbreaking to hear your update Carol. Sending you strength and thinking of you all 😥😥feeling very sad for you xx

Sorry to read this and no chance of any treatment for him ?

Carolsos profile image
Carolsos in reply to medway-lady

There is immunetheraphy tablets, there is no chance for surgery. If he can take the tablets and he wants to, hopefully he may get a few years providing the cancer has not spread. He is having a biopsy very soon. Thank you for your kind posts. Take care

medway-lady profile image
medway-lady in reply to Carolsos

They did my husbands biopsy and MRI just under 2 weeks after he saw GP, amazing speed in these difficult times. My husband is going on HRT !! thats best way to describe it, and his prognosis is very good. But had he not had that blood test it would have been a different story. He is very lucky that surgery these days for prostate is very rarely done. He has been very fortunate. You take care of yourself too and I hope you have family support too. xx

I'm so sorry, sending big hugs 🫂 xx

So sorry to hear this, sending love and prayers x

No words 😔 be strong and reach out to others as much as you can x

Sending hugs Carol I used Macmillan Nurses for support with my Mum and they were fab for the questions you might both have too x

Its very tragic news for you both , there are no words to take away the pain. If possible speaking from past experience try to spend as much time together doing the things you want. Some people live with cancer for many years with treatments, but what ever, treasure the time you do have it will leave many lasting memories.

Thank you all for your lovely replies. Take care everyone

So sorry to hear your awful news. Love and a big hug to you both ❤️

I am so sorry! Hugs for you and your partner.❤️

I’m so so sorry. . Thoughts and prayers for you all x

Sending hugs Huney 🥰🥰😘

Oh Bless you both, so much for you to come to terms with, focus on each other & nothing more now, big hugs & really caring warmest thoughts. I’ve read the post before me, what a lovely bunch they are, so caring & kind words 🙏🏻😘


Sending love … to you both xx

Very sad sending you a big hug xx


My thoughts are with you, it is devastating when you hear news like that,my hubby had a lovely Macmillan nurse who was so supportive to us both.

So incredibly sorry to hear this, sending you both lots of love and hugs. Xx


Big hugs to you both so sorry to hear this.

Jesus. Sending love ❤️

Thinking of you both ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

I'm so so sorry. Sending love and hugs x

So sorry to hear this. Try to remember to care of yourself too.

Such awful news, so much sympathy. A good friend was diagnosed with stage 4 (terminal) lung cancer in February 2021. She is now on chemo and immunotherapy and well over a year later is doing just fine. The drugs are keeping it stable and she is very hopeful of several more good years to come. So please be hopeful that this isn’t the end now, but he can still have life to live.

And look after yourself too.

Sending lots of hugs your way xxx

Please don’t lose hope, my husband had a similar diagnosis in September 2020, and immunotherapy has resulted in tumour reductions so much so that the cancer is barely detectable in his ct scans.

Sending love - and there is a kidney cancer uk carers support group on Facebook which is useful.

Sending all my love. Xx

So sorry to read your news. Like everyone on here I am at a loss except to say that doctors and nurses are modern day miracle workers and whilst they can’t cure flu when it matters they do incredible things!Be kind to yourself. Your husband will need you to be strong for him too- but you have all of us here on this crazy website so take advantage of us. Happy to listen and help you to walk through the storm. Take care. 🌈

You may also like...