follow up

[oliviagodfreyxx]

just a little follow up for those that wanted to be updated regarding my last post.

my boyfriend broke up with me today which has tipped me over the edge. i said i needed a break due to my mental health but he decided to call it quits.

my arthritis has flared up due to being stressed and upset. i feel like my life couldn't get any worse right now. i wish my antidepressants would hurry up and kick in.

i’m fatigued from crying all the time, i’m making myself feel ill, i’m so fed up of feeling like this. i know i need to focus on myself but it’s proving all too much for me right now.

[bubblyalex]

I don’t know the back story but suspect he doesn’t deserve you 🤗 best thing is to focus on yourself and getting yourself strong and able to manage. Batten down the hatches and focus on the things you can manage and change to help yourself. Gentle hugs 🥰

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to bubblyalex]

thankyou he said he feels ‘empty’ even though he initiated it and didn’t want to fight to save our relationship. i just feel so sad. and exactly, i need to focus on myself, it’s really hard ❤️

[bubblyalex in reply to oliviagodfreyxx]

It is really hard ... you CAN do it. This is now about you and what you need to do to get yourself out of this rut. Get strong and give yourself objectives for each day. Even if it’s only ... I made a cake today ... silly example but hopefully you get the gist. You are in control of your destiny... grab it and do what you can. Don’t judge yourself harshly ... even the failures teach us something and so are useful. good luck 🍀

[Marionfromhappydays]

I'm really sorry to hear this, small steps, like bubbly says above concentrate on what you can control and work on feeling better.

Things may change, nothing is set in stone and stressing yourself isn't good for you (I know it's easily said ).

You can do this x

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to Marionfromhappydays]

thankyou i appreciate it x

[Summerrain14]

I am so sorry to hear this but he doesn’t deserve to have you in his life. I completely appreciate this does not take the hurt away that you are feeling right now. One day at a time and be kind to yourself lovely. You deserve far better 🤗 x

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to Summerrain14]

thankyou very much x

[LoneEra]

Hi Olivia. Wow, that sucks. But always remember that his actions speak very loudly about him as a person, not you.

It won’t feel like it right now, but this is a good opportunity to take the time you need to get into a better place. You can focus on yourself and your needs.

Please reach out to someone if you feel you need professional help. The Samaritans are always on hand if you want to talk to someone who doesn’t know you.

Take care and know that this will pass xx

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to LoneEra]

thankyou very much, i will do xx

[springcross]

Hi olivia. I'm sorry to hear about your upset. This has tipped you over the edge because it's raw at the moment and probably will be for a while. Give yourself a chance to overcome this, you can do it and when you do, you'll realise you're better off without him. Concentrate now on getting yourself back up after the knock you've taken. Good luck and you know we're here for you. x

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to springcross]

the pain is unbearable, but hopefully it won’t last forever. thankyou very much x

[springcross in reply to oliviagodfreyxx]

Spot on olivia, it won't last forever as one day you'll look back on now and wonder why it upset you. I know this because I've been there and so have so many others. All the best. 🤗 xx

[allanah in reply to oliviagodfreyxx]

It's hard breaking up , but how much more pain would you want to go through staying with him. You want the one, the one that puts you on the silver pedestal. X

[allanah]

He doesnt deserve you. You will realise this . What an idiot. Get a better one xxx

[bubblyalex in reply to allanah]

Hands up yup to that... get a better one ... couldn’t put it better 👍🏻

[Ali_H]

Thanks for letting us know... that’s a big thing to do and shows a huge level of trust in a very vulnerable moment of your life - we are truly honoured to have you here! 👍🏼I expect that you will feel emotional battered and bruised for a while so I would look at the next few weeks as a recovery time from all that has been happening for you..... if you’d had a fall and broken some ribs people around would empathise, sympathise and encourage you to rest and heal but I suspect that with the flare etc people are not knowing how to support right now. We are here and we know so please do rest, cry, rest some more, move around to keep joints mobile, meditate a little, eat light and healthy where you can and know that ‘this too will pass’. 😎

There is a book called ‘The inflamed mind’ which gives a strong case of inflammation level influencing depression activity which is an enlightening read if you fancy reading something different.

All the best

Ali

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to Ali_H]

thankyou i’ll definitely check the book out

[Blueskysunshine]

You will get through this Olivia, you are stronger than you realise. Keep in touch with us, there’s always someone to listen and give hugs. You can do this. Moment by moment, day by day. Big hugs xx

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to Blueskysunshine]

thankyou very much xx

[Neonkittie17]

Huge hugs, darling xxx

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to Neonkittie17]

thankyou xxx

[Choccy23]

Hi Olivia, You've received some great advice already. So, I just want to send positive thoughts and hugs your way!🤗🤗

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to Choccy23]

thankyou i appreciate it xx

[Deeb1764]

Big hugs for you x

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to Deeb1764]

thankyou x

[Green230461]

Think what it would be like to have to rely on him when you really need it? Sounds to me you have been the crutch to keep him up not the other way around. So shake the dust off take the meds when they come and count yourself lucky you escaped!

[oliviagodfreyxx in reply to Green230461]

definitely, i feel like i gave him the easy way out. and i will do, thankyou x

[Hessie5]

Hey Oliviagodfrey - sorry to hear about your relationship never easy - better off now than investing ten+ years in. Ask yourself, is he worth the stress and pain you feel ? Can you both talk to work it out?

If no, then you shall go through the stress and tears now followed by hope and confidence, latch onto that hope.

Your situation now becomes a story that you can use to comfort others going through hurtfful breakups.

Relationships are never easy, so cry it out now, then reflect and move forwards with your life - you deserve to be happy so lift your energy into just that. Big hug - Hessie🙂

[Pippy25]

Sending some big hugs and warm supportive wishes xx