Loss and gain

[Eiram50]

Sadly, I lost my mother last week . Really struggling with it so found this delightful chap in the hope that he will not only be a fab addition to our family but to help take the kids ( and mine) mind off our huge loss.

[janmary]

Will be thinking of you today - losing your Mum one of life's worst moments. But she'll always be with you - mine still tells me what to do and she died 16 years ago.

That little chap looks like excellent therapy.

x

[Eiram50 in reply to janmary]

Thank you for your kind words hammers. He is, he's do calm and gentle - and tiny!

[Eiram50 in reply to Eiram50]

Terrible typos- apologies!

[Creakywrists]

I also am thinking of you. It is a hard time. It's so good for everyone to have a cat to cuddle. Wishing you happy moments with him

[Eiram50 in reply to Creakywrists]

Thank you x

[Strayleaves]

Sorry to hear of your loss ,

Gentle hug to you .

Your new little friend is adorable and hope he brings lots of smiles all around.

X

[Eiram50 in reply to Strayleaves]

Thank you x

[Mhairi54]

Oh Marie, I am so sorry to hear about your mum. I hope you and your girls are ok. Thinking about you all. Mhairi. x

[Eiram50 in reply to Mhairi54]

Thank you so much mhairi. It's difficult

[Sanbanan]

So sorry to hear this Marie. Hope the new addition helps to ease your loss.

Big hugs x

[Eiram50 in reply to Sanbanan]

Thank you

[Nettac]

So sorry for your loss.

Lovely kitty

[helixhelix]

So sorry. Doesn't matter how old you are, loosing your mum floors you completely. It takes a lot to come to terms with it, so treat yourself gently.

[Eiram50 in reply to helixhelix]

I Agree it has blindsided me . Thanks HH

[sylvi]

He is gorgeous. Sorry about the loss of your mum.xxxx

[Eiram50 in reply to sylvi]

Thank you

[Hidden]

I'm sorry for your loss, Eiram. Thinking of you at this sad time. 💐 What a lovely little addition, I hope he brings you love. What's his name?

Be kind to yourself, grief is an ongoing process.

[Eiram50 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. He was Jackson- he is now Oliver . Just heading to vets for his first vaccinations .

Hope you're healing well.

Marie

[gwynedd]

So sorry to hear of the loss of your mother, mum's are irreplaceable. She will never be away from you, always in your heart.

New life in the family will bring you joy I'm sure. X

[Eiram50 in reply to gwynedd]

Thank you x

[astrajewel]

hi sorry for your loss, i cant show my son what you have posted as he has nagged me for 4/5 years to get him a cat and hes a grown man,,cause he will say see you should get a cat it will take your mind off your pain lol x

[nomoreheels]

I'd no idea, I'm so very sorry Marie. I'm sure that little cutie will be a lovely distraction. You'll all remember your Mother & your memories of her in your own ways. My thoughts are with you. x

[Eiram50 in reply to nomoreheels]

Thank you NMH.

[Matalow]

So sorry for you loss Marie,I know you and your family will give the little chap a great home. Look after yourself your going through a very difficult time.

Kind regards Mike

[Eiram50 in reply to Matalow]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I'm truly devastated but I know with time this will ease. Oliver has certainly helped take the girls' mind off things a bit, which is good to see.

Marie

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my father in Sept 2015 and I thought I could never get over that pain. I still miss him and I always will, but the pain isn't so gut wretching. Once I got it in my head that my dad was OK now, I realized I needed me to be OK. Take it one day at a time, when you start to tear up give yourself time to cry & think about the good times.

I think you made a healthy step to add a kitty to your family. Just looking at your kitty's face puts a smile on my face.

[Eiram50 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you sue, I really appreciate your words. Oliver is lovely. He's not long back from getting his vaccinations and I think has a bit of an upset tummy but he's lovely.

Marie

[Matilda_1922]

I'm sorry to hear of your sad loos

That little chappy will certainly be very therapeutic x

[Eiram50 in reply to Matilda_1922]

Thank you x

[Gnarli]

Hi Marie. There's never a good time to lose your Mum but you will carry her in your heart and memory for ever. I still tell my Mum all the news and she's been gone for nearly 20 years and I only have to look in the mirror to see her. I'm sure your gorgeous Oliver will help you and your girls through this. My two, now departed, certainly helped me through some really dark times. Huge hugs

Jan

[Eiram50 in reply to Gnarli]

Thanks Jan, I appreciate what you're saying. You're right, ill always have my memories. The funeral was just Saturday so still reeling but there's no better leveller than children and animals so they help break up the dark cloud hanging over me.

Hope you're as well as can be .

Marie

[Witness2]

So sorry to hear this news Marie, one of life's most challenging events. Great you're deflecting some of your grief via the kitten! I hope this stress doesn't upset your joints. Take great care of yourself.

[Eiram50 in reply to Witness2]

Thank you. It certainly is a challenge. It may sound mad to many but the challenge for me is a kind of existential one is so far as I just can't get my head around that she simply doesn't exist anymore- that she's nowhere in this world. This is course may also just be simple denial? God knows, but ill get there.

I'm very grateful for everyone's kind words in the site, it is comforting.

I have the doctor this morning as , it must be the stress, I've developed a horrendous cough, but if a temp and I'm sure and have hands like balloons!

Och well, onwards and upwards eh?

Hoping your doing ok.

Thanks again

Marie

[Eiram50 in reply to Eiram50]

Sorry- should've read " bit of a temp and I'm sore"- fat fingers make many typos !!

[Caza in reply to Eiram50]

Really sorry to read your sad news.

Look after yourself x

[Eiram50 in reply to Caza]

Thanks caza

[Witness2 in reply to Eiram50]

Give yourself time Marie. I'm still pondering that one 6 years after my Mother died. I wish I believed in an afterlife, how comforting that could be.

[Happygranny1958]

So sorry to hear of your loss. I understand what you mean, it took me a while to get used to not having mam around, automatically picking up the phone to have a chat, tell her something etc. It does get easier in time and you will think of her with a smile on your face. Good luck at the doctors, take care. X

[Eiram50 in reply to Happygranny1958]

Thank you so much x

[Bookworm55]

So sorry for your loss Marie - mums are irreplaceable whatever age you are. Oliver is gorgeous and will be a lovely focus for your attention while you grieve. Hugs 🤗.

[LizzieR]

I'm so sorry. Take care. Sending you lots of love and kindness x

[Eiram50 in reply to LizzieR]

Thank you

[Entero]

So sorry for your loss and hope your new little chap brings you some much needed comfort through this grief filled time. I often look at my dog and sense my dad in her x

[Eiram50 in reply to Entero]

That's lovely . Thank you

[stbernhard]

Sorry for your loss. My Mum passed in 1999 and we still have the occasional chat. She'll never be gone.

That little chap looks very alert and will be trouble!

All the very best.

[Eiram50 in reply to stbernhard]

That's comforting to hear. Thank you

[Babybaps44]

Sorry to hear that x hope you find comfort with the kitten it's so sweet xx

[Eiram50 in reply to Babybaps44]

Thank you

[AgedCrone]

So sorry for your loss Marie, when you lose your Mother you lose your best friend, but that little chap will surely become your new BFF!

AC

[Eiram50 in reply to AgedCrone]

He's certainly proving. Distraction! Thank you AC

[cyprusmum]

Sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself. Great addition to the family and he will help you to heal.

[Eiram50 in reply to cyprusmum]

Thank you

[Eberhardt1973]

That's a lot of responsibility that you're placing onto a cat. Animals are not our caretakers. It's the other way around. That's what make them worth the time and effort.

[Eiram50 in reply to Eberhardt1973]

There’s no responsibility on the cat. The cat is well loved and a massive, welcome part of the family.

But, your comment is noted, if considered a bit harsh.

[VeronicaF]

Awwwwwwwwwww how cute, my heart goes out to you, I lost my mum who was ( my best friend) just over a year , very painful

all I can say is time is a great healer big hugs and give a kiss to kitty from me xxx

[Eiram50 in reply to VeronicaF]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry it’s hard loosing your mom.. I lost my mom 6 years ago she still makes me chuckle as she is constantly in my head. Lovely kitten looks like Deebs new kitten. Have you named him yet?

[Eiram50 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. Oliver is his name x

[Hidden in reply to Eiram50]

🥰🥰

[essexgirl]

So sorry for your loss 🌹

[Eiram50 in reply to essexgirl]

That’s kind, thank you. Although we lost her 3 years ago, there are moments where it feels like yesterday.

[Hidden]

Eiram50 so sorry about your Mum and it will take time and remember to be kind to yourself too as you look after the family through this moment.

Your kitten is a copy cat of my Oreo let us know his name! x

[Eiram50 in reply to Hidden]

That’s really kind of you. It was three years ago, but still sometimes feels so recent. His name is Oliver. Oreo is a fan name! X