Acceptance...now that's a scary word.
I was filling in a form last week and reading the questions out loud to myself.
Do you think you have a disability?
'yes' my visiting friend said
'I'm not disabled'..... I glared
'you have RA, and therefore on forms. telephone calls, with departments and agencies you have a disability, and you need to accept that'
'I am not disabled'
'If you say so' she said
So what is it about labels?
I have no problem saying I have RA...... but disabled....no way...you're not hanging that label on me.
I have no problem saying I am retired, I love it......but a pensioner..no way....you're not hanging that label on me
When I say I have RA people (sometimes) say
' oh dear', or 'you poor thing'
which is almost sympathy and understanding
When I say I am retired people say
'oh lucky you' or 'oh lady of leisure now then'
When I say I am a pensioner and I have RA people say
'sit there dear and I'll get someone to help you, did you get that?
I SAID SIT THERE DEAR AND I'LL GET SOMEONE TO HELP YOU.
I rest my case....................